Is my MIL highly intuitive or listening in somehow?

[Anonymous]

Has your daughter ever logged into an account on a device owned by your MIL? My system saves usernames and passwords and because of that, I have access to my teenage son's school account. (I only log into it if he asks me to for a specific reason. There isn't anything juicy or useful on it for me to see.)

[Anonymous]

A nanny cam is pretty cheap. I’d go ver to the nanny forum and ask them how they find the cameras.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is possible. With technology like phone bugs and nanny cams, it is absolutely possible.

I wouldn’t do the “let’s go to Mexico” thing, because that’s outlandish. Think of something else, like “Don’t tell grandma, but we won’t be doing Christmas with her anymore because she was rude to me.”

It’s harmless if she’s not listening, and it’s helpful if she is. Set a trap. Write an email to yourself and DD and send it ahead of time so there is a time stamp: “On August 1, Carla and Larla decided to play a prank on Mary to see if she’s listening to our conversations.” Describe in detail what you will do and send the email to yourselves so there is a time stamp.

What? And cause unnecessary family drama? Poor advice.

Pretty sure the MIL is the one causing unnecessary family drama if she bugged their home…

[Anonymous]

I’d check what devices are on your router. Things like a nanny cam or a listening device would show up. Listening bugs either transmit short ranges (and grandma would be listening in a car down the street- not likely), grandma picks it up and downloads every time she comes over or it’s transmitting over your WiFi. I mean how technologically savvy is grandma?

You can also force things like Facebook or TikTok to log out of all devices that you were in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is possible. With technology like phone bugs and nanny cams, it is absolutely possible.

I wouldn’t do the “let’s go to Mexico” thing, because that’s outlandish. Think of something else, like “Don’t tell grandma, but we won’t be doing Christmas with her anymore because she was rude to me.”

It’s harmless if she’s not listening, and it’s helpful if she is. Set a trap. Write an email to yourself and DD and send it ahead of time so there is a time stamp: “On August 1, Carla and Larla decided to play a prank on Mary to see if she’s listening to our conversations.” Describe in detail what you will do and send the email to yourselves so there is a time stamp.

What? And cause unnecessary family drama? Poor advice.

Excuse me? If MIL has bugged their house/devices, that is not “harmless” and it needs to be discovered and addressed and stopped. Now.

If MIL isn’t listening, nothing will come of it. Do you get it?

You think MIL is going to confront OP when OP has said she’s rude? She’d likely say nothing, be peeved and keep listening!

Babe, I’ll go slow so you can keep up: this was an EXAMPLE of something OP could set up that would be extreme enough to provoke a reaction, but not totally over-the-top unbelievable, like fleeing to Mexico. OP will know what buttons to push.

[Anonymous]

OP - there is a big elephant in the room, and it's named YOUR HUSBAND. My MIL would not have been cyber savvy enough to bug my house. Does your MIL work for the NSA? It could be something between your husband and your MIL to track you.

first letter:
https://slate.com/human-interest/2012/03/poisoned-meals-my-mother-in-law-may-be-trying-to-make-me-sick.html
last letter:
https://slate.com/human-interest/2012/05/dear-prudie-mothers-day-advice-on-plastic-surgery-gifts-and-poison.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is possible. With technology like phone bugs and nanny cams, it is absolutely possible.

I wouldn’t do the “let’s go to Mexico” thing, because that’s outlandish. Think of something else, like “Don’t tell grandma, but we won’t be doing Christmas with her anymore because she was rude to me.”

It’s harmless if she’s not listening, and it’s helpful if she is. Set a trap. Write an email to yourself and DD and send it ahead of time so there is a time stamp: “On August 1, Carla and Larla decided to play a prank on Mary to see if she’s listening to our conversations.” Describe in detail what you will do and send the email to yourselves so there is a time stamp.

What? And cause unnecessary family drama? Poor advice.

Pretty sure the MIL is the one causing unnecessary family drama if she bugged their home…

Asking a tween to participate in a prank on grandma insinuating she’s rude and not invited to Christmas… weird choice of scenario.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is possible. With technology like phone bugs and nanny cams, it is absolutely possible.

I wouldn’t do the “let’s go to Mexico” thing, because that’s outlandish. Think of something else, like “Don’t tell grandma, but we won’t be doing Christmas with her anymore because she was rude to me.”

It’s harmless if she’s not listening, and it’s helpful if she is. Set a trap. Write an email to yourself and DD and send it ahead of time so there is a time stamp: “On August 1, Carla and Larla decided to play a prank on Mary to see if she’s listening to our conversations.” Describe in detail what you will do and send the email to yourselves so there is a time stamp.

What? And cause unnecessary family drama? Poor advice.

Excuse me? If MIL has bugged their house/devices, that is not “harmless” and it needs to be discovered and addressed and stopped. Now.

If MIL isn’t listening, nothing will come of it. Do you get it?

You think MIL is going to confront OP when OP has said she’s rude? She’d likely say nothing, be peeved and keep listening!

Babe, I’ll go slow so you can keep up: this was an EXAMPLE of something OP could set up that would be extreme enough to provoke a reaction, but not totally over-the-top unbelievable, like fleeing to Mexico. OP will know what buttons to push.

What reaction do you think the passive aggression MIL will express?

[Anonymous]

Say, "Don't tell MIL that your father has cancer. It would only upset her."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Say, "Don't tell MIL that your father has cancer. It would only upset her."

You’re awful.

[Anonymous]

Please report back when you've solved the mastering. I am intrigued!

[Anonymous]

husband husband husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d check what devices are on your router. Things like a nanny cam or a listening device would show up. Listening bugs either transmit short ranges (and grandma would be listening in a car down the street- not likely), grandma picks it up and downloads every time she comes over or it’s transmitting over your WiFi. I mean how technologically savvy is grandma?

You can also force things like Facebook or TikTok to log out of all devices that you were in.

This was my thought. See if there’s a device you don’t recognize on your router.

[Anonymous]

Ohhhhh, didn't you all see that Brady Bunch episode where Peter was listening in and recording conversations? To solve the problem, you need to start fake-planning a surprise party for your MIL, so she'll show up in nice clothes at a non-party and be humiliated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - there is a big elephant in the room, and it's named YOUR HUSBAND. My MIL would not have been cyber savvy enough to bug my house. Does your MIL work for the NSA? It could be something between your husband and your MIL to track you.

first letter:
https://slate.com/human-interest/2012/03/poisoned-meals-my-mother-in-law-may-be-trying-to-make-me-sick.html
last letter:
https://slate.com/human-interest/2012/05/dear-prudie-mothers-day-advice-on-plastic-surgery-gifts-and-poison.html

Holy shit, that’s so crazy!