Is my MIL highly intuitive or listening in somehow?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could one of your kids signed in or used your MIL tablet or phone for something? Their login could be influencing what shows up on her device.

I don’t think so? DD doesn’t have any of her own logins, and doesn’t know ours.

[Anonymous]

Does she follow your daughter on TT? She will get suggested similar content.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does she follow your daughter on TT? She will get suggested similar content.

OP said the TT was just a similar example of that went down. And even so, what about the other instances?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is possible. With technology like phone bugs and nanny cams, it is absolutely possible.

I wouldn’t do the “let’s go to Mexico” thing, because that’s outlandish. Think of something else, like “Don’t tell grandma, but we won’t be doing Christmas with her anymore because she was rude to me.”

It’s harmless if she’s not listening, and it’s helpful if she is. Set a trap. Write an email to yourself and DD and send it ahead of time so there is a time stamp: “On August 1, Carla and Larla decided to play a prank on Mary to see if she’s listening to our conversations.” Describe in detail what you will do and send the email to yourselves so there is a time stamp.

What? And cause unnecessary family drama? Poor advice.

Excuse me? If MIL has bugged their house/devices, that is not “harmless” and it needs to be discovered and addressed and stopped. Now.

If MIL isn’t listening, nothing will come of it. Do you get it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does she follow your daughter on TT? She will get suggested similar content.

OP said the TT was just a similar example of that went down. And even so, what about the other instances?

This obviously applies to every form of social media.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is possible. With technology like phone bugs and nanny cams, it is absolutely possible.

I wouldn’t do the “let’s go to Mexico” thing, because that’s outlandish. Think of something else, like “Don’t tell grandma, but we won’t be doing Christmas with her anymore because she was rude to me.”

It’s harmless if she’s not listening, and it’s helpful if she is. Set a trap. Write an email to yourself and DD and send it ahead of time so there is a time stamp: “On August 1, Carla and Larla decided to play a prank on Mary to see if she’s listening to our conversations.” Describe in detail what you will do and send the email to yourselves so there is a time stamp.

What? And cause unnecessary family drama? Poor advice.

Excuse me? If MIL has bugged their house/devices, that is not “harmless” and it needs to be discovered and addressed and stopped. Now.

If MIL isn’t listening, nothing will come of it. Do you get it?

OP here. (I wasn’t the PP) Good point!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is possible. With technology like phone bugs and nanny cams, it is absolutely possible.

I wouldn’t do the “let’s go to Mexico” thing, because that’s outlandish. Think of something else, like “Don’t tell grandma, but we won’t be doing Christmas with her anymore because she was rude to me.”

It’s harmless if she’s not listening, and it’s helpful if she is. Set a trap. Write an email to yourself and DD and send it ahead of time so there is a time stamp: “On August 1, Carla and Larla decided to play a prank on Mary to see if she’s listening to our conversations.” Describe in detail what you will do and send the email to yourselves so there is a time stamp.

What? And cause unnecessary family drama? Poor advice.

Excuse me? If MIL has bugged their house/devices, that is not “harmless” and it needs to be discovered and addressed and stopped. Now.

If MIL isn’t listening, nothing will come of it. Do you get it?

You think MIL is going to confront OP when OP has said she’s rude? She’d likely say nothing, be peeved and keep listening!

[Anonymous]

Bugging the house is extreme. Is she usually crazy and intrusive or are you paranoid?

[Anonymous]

I think it’s coincidence. Just seems like, what would be her motive? Is she very good with technology?

[Anonymous]

I would say something provocative that you don't search or look at.

And then I would search or look at something else provocative.

Like: did you know my friend Larla (made up name) is going to transition to being a man?

Or, I would really like a xxx and search for it and see if she comes up with one. Like, I don't know, something you or DD would never want previously. Like, now I want to collect owls!

[Anonymous]

I don't know, OP, but you absolutely must try some of these and report back.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s crazy. My own, lovely mother has an insanely powerful urge to know what’s going on with us. I have definitely caught her eavesdropping. I don’t think she would go so far as to bug us, but I could absolutely see it happening after a year or two of cognitive decline we might not even have noticed yet.

[Anonymous]

OMG report back please!

[Anonymous]

Have some fun with DD and test your theory. Make up a proposed outing you discuss as well as a surprise gift for your DH and talk about them only with DD alone. See if any mention ever comes out of it.

[Anonymous]

Oh man, you should definitely figure this out and let us know!!

How about you talk about plans for a very certain day. Like "let's go to the county fair on August 15th! Can't wait! Okay the 15th? Yes! I'll tell best friend Larla, I'm sure she'll want to come."

Then tell grandma a few days later that you want to invite her somewhere on the 15th--NOT the fair. And see if she reacts.