How to make traveling without DH fun

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I don’t know why everyone is so hung up on OPs social life. It isn’t really applicable. Friends aren’t going to want to leave their own DH home, burn their own vacation, and go on a trip with her. Plus this isn’t a fun vacation. You are always on parenting your own kid and sometimes plus theirs. No thanks. Multi family trips are way more fun with both sets of parents, otherwise it is more fun solo with just your own kids.

OP I’m a SAHM and travel solo with my 3 kids all the time, including long road trips. You just have to take control of it. Plan things exactly as you like on your terms. I love our family trips but DH and I have different travel styles. I immensely enjoy my solo trips with the kids. They do too bc we do different types of things than when DH is traveling with us.

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Anonymous wrote:Are your kids not involved in sports or other activities? How do you manage weekend trips every month??
Between our 2 oldest kids , our weekends are jammed with birthday parties, soccer game(s), usually a Scout activity, friends hanging out, and the like.

How absent is your dh going to be?

They don't have anything like that here. School is a small private one, so maaaaybe 4 parties a year. No organized sports or Scouts. It's that bad.

DH will very absent working.

There is no public library? No rotary type club? What do the families of the kids at the 4 parties/year do for fun?

Ride four wheelers and hunt and fish and stuff like that. I want more for my kids.

Maybe your kids would enjoy doing some of this? It's certainly not high-brow, but honestly maybe spending some time out in nature while doing a bit of fishing or hunting would be good for them. You can certainly expose them to theater, culture, whatever it is you define as "more" IN ADDITION to allowing them to experience a slice of life in the place you currently reside. OP, the more you comment, the more it seems you WANT to be miserable and place the blame on DH. Your kids are telling you something -- they don't want to spend time with you because you are sad and depressed. Either try to make the best of your situation or look for ways to resolve it -- i.e. therapy, looking at alternative living situations, sending the kids to live with family or go to boarding school...

Op asked about making a weekend away per month and you’re advising to send her kids to boarding school? Classic DCUM

OP's kids DON'T WANT TO GO AWAY WITH HER. There is a reason for this -- she is miserable. Would YOU want to spend a weekend away each month with an unhappy person? She doesn't want her kids hanging out with the locals because their hobbies aren't good enough for her. She insists there are no ways for her to make friends. She WANTS to stay unhappy as punishment(!) to her DH for taking her to this place. OP doesn't need a weekend away... she needs to get her head straight and make some changes to her life.

You are so clueless, lol. It has nothing to do with me. They just want to be play video games and ride four wheelers with their friends.

They're older kids. Lots of older kids don't want to go away with their parents. I've seen older kids who barely communicate with their parents (eyes on phone/game screen).

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Anonymous wrote:Are your kids not involved in sports or other activities? How do you manage weekend trips every month??
Between our 2 oldest kids , our weekends are jammed with birthday parties, soccer game(s), usually a Scout activity, friends hanging out, and the like.

How absent is your dh going to be?

They don't have anything like that here. School is a small private one, so maaaaybe 4 parties a year. No organized sports or Scouts. It's that bad.

DH will very absent working.

There is no public library? No rotary type club? What do the families of the kids at the 4 parties/year do for fun?

Ride four wheelers and hunt and fish and stuff like that. I want more for my kids.

Maybe your kids would enjoy doing some of this? It's certainly not high-brow, but honestly maybe spending some time out in nature while doing a bit of fishing or hunting would be good for them. You can certainly expose them to theater, culture, whatever it is you define as "more" IN ADDITION to allowing them to experience a slice of life in the place you currently reside. OP, the more you comment, the more it seems you WANT to be miserable and place the blame on DH. Your kids are telling you something -- they don't want to spend time with you because you are sad and depressed. Either try to make the best of your situation or look for ways to resolve it -- i.e. therapy, looking at alternative living situations, sending the kids to live with family or go to boarding school...

Op asked about making a weekend away per month and you’re advising to send her kids to boarding school? Classic DCUM

OP's kids DON'T WANT TO GO AWAY WITH HER. There is a reason for this -- she is miserable. Would YOU want to spend a weekend away each month with an unhappy person? She doesn't want her kids hanging out with the locals because their hobbies aren't good enough for her. She insists there are no ways for her to make friends. She WANTS to stay unhappy as punishment(!) to her DH for taking her to this place. OP doesn't need a weekend away... she needs to get her head straight and make some changes to her life.

You are so clueless, lol. It has nothing to do with me. They just want to be play video games and ride four wheelers with their friends.

They're older kids. Lots of older kids don't want to go away with their parents. I've seen older kids who barely communicate with their parents (eyes on phone/game screen).

OP said upstream that the kids are 8 and 11. 11 years old is not "older".