What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?

[Anonymous]

“Larla (my child) just doesn’t fit in our playgroup”. My DD was 2.5 then. Still hurts when I think of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not horrible but…

“Wow! Your daughter is beautiful! She looks nothing like you!”

I hoped she meant because DD has DH’s dark hair, skin, and eyes.

[Anonymous]

"I don't know how you can stand to not breastfeed your babies! (I had twins). I can't imagine not being willing to do such a basic thing for my kids."

Cool, well my breasts tried to kill me at a shockingly young age so I cut them off to save my life. But I guess I suck as a mom. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son had three accidents the year he was eight, each of which resulted in a broken arm or sprain. I swear I am a good parent and they were really accidents: the first was when he fell off his bike outside and broke his wrist, the second was when he was fell on his other arm while playing soccer with his friend, and the third was when he slipped in the shower and sprained his ankle somehow.

Another mom told me that “there has been talk” about his injuries and then she asked me if I’m feeling OK, and if I’ve been stressed. The implication was clear: she thought I was hurting my child, and apparently had discussed it with others.

While that was terribly painful to hear, at least someone was checking on your child to make sure they were okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son had three accidents the year he was eight, each of which resulted in a broken arm or sprain. I swear I am a good parent and they were really accidents: the first was when he fell off his bike outside and broke his wrist, the second was when he was fell on his other arm while playing soccer with his friend, and the third was when he slipped in the shower and sprained his ankle somehow.

Another mom told me that “there has been talk” about his injuries and then she asked me if I’m feeling OK, and if I’ve been stressed. The implication was clear: she thought I was hurting my child, and apparently had discussed it with others.

While that was terribly painful to hear, at least someone was checking on your child to make sure they were okay.

+1

I'd be disgusted and angry at first, then be glad someone was thinking of my child. It's always the parent as the abuser, so she's not wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was at the park with my child. Another mother asked me if I breastfed him and when I said no she told me that if I had I wouldn’t need that, pointing at his oxygen tank.

I could laugh a little inside, because I adopted my kid well past breastfeeding age, and my kid actually was breastfed, just not by me, but if that had happened to another mom, I imagine it could have been devastating.

Lactivists are genuinely bad humans.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Discussing religious education with another mother and she mentioned that her child could correctly recite all the books of the Bible, Old & New Testament. I expressed admiration and noted that my (older) child probably couldn't do that. She said, "oh, if my kid couldn't do it, I would just feel like I had failed at being a mother." Yikes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son was having a major meltdown on the metro after work one day, and a pregnant woman looked at me and said, “my child will never behave like that.”

It had been a bad day, after a bad week, and I was exhausted.

The exact same thing happened to me. At that point I’ve already decided to drop my filters with perfect strangers. I told her she may yet have a stillborn so let’s not get cocky. She almost sat down. I told her it would teach her to stop saying stupid shit to complete strangers and exited.

You are a terrible person. Try to get some control over your children and strangers won’t feel the need to comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son was having a major meltdown on the metro after work one day, and a pregnant woman looked at me and said, “my child will never behave like that.”

It had been a bad day, after a bad week, and I was exhausted.

The exact same thing happened to me. At that point I’ve already decided to drop my filters with perfect strangers. I told her she may yet have a stillborn so let’s not get cocky. She almost sat down. I told her it would teach her to stop saying stupid shit to complete strangers and exited.

You are a terrible person. Try to get some control over your children and strangers won’t feel the need to comment.

Bet that woman learned a lesson that day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son was having a major meltdown on the metro after work one day, and a pregnant woman looked at me and said, “my child will never behave like that.”

It had been a bad day, after a bad week, and I was exhausted.

The exact same thing happened to me. At that point I’ve already decided to drop my filters with perfect strangers. I told her she may yet have a stillborn so let’s not get cocky. She almost sat down. I told her it would teach her to stop saying stupid shit to complete strangers and exited.

You are a terrible person. Try to get some control over your children and strangers won’t feel the need to comment.

Bet that woman learned a lesson that day.

+1.

[Anonymous]

On a couple of occasions, other moms have made snide/negative comments about onlies in conversation (I have an only, and they know this).

As a child, I remember that my brothers and I were acting up in the dr's office waiting room.... nothing so terrible, but we were likely fighting or something. Another mom said to her kids that she was glad they weren't acting like us.... I was maybe 7, 8, and boy did that sting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New women my brother is dating at a family cook out: And Karen how many kids do you have?
Me (Karen): well I have two…
Sister in law: she has two, she will say three with a long story but she has two.

That IS really horrible. Wow

[Anonymous]

My DD has moderate autism. When she was in elementary, a female relative who was a mom asked me what age she was. I said 7 and she said, “No, really, what age. Like mentally?”

People can be so thoughtless.

[Anonymous]

My MIL is mentally sick but I didn't know at that time. After I had DS1, she came over to see him and told me he has hydranencephaly and will die soon. She was a nurse so I believed her. I was a hormonal mess too and I remember calling the pediatrician hysterically.

[Anonymous]

I'm spoiled, selfish, and don't understand sacrifice because I chose to FF.