What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Me: “How is Larla liking her new middle school?”

Other mom/neighbor: “She loves it! We hope your [neurotypical] child joins next year. She really has what it takes!” Then adding, “But we don’t recommend it for your [HFA child]. It would not be a good school for her. It would be a really hard place for her and not a good fit.”

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Follow-up: My HFA child is at the same school, in accelerated classes and in the top 5 percent of the class academically. (Neighbor’s kids are not.)

I love stories like this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"What do you do all day?"

At a fancy dinner party at my ILs when MIL stated that I stayed home with my 2 and 4 year olds and had household help. One of the guests asked this, who I had just met.

Tbh, I’d wonder this, too, though I would never say it out loud. But I’m poor by DCUM standards and envious.

I’d wonder this too, but I am not poor and could easily afford to SAH (with a FT nanny). But I find it a pathetic lifestyle, barring an SN child or similar extenuating circumstances.

Another mean thing said by a mom, in a thread about mean things said by moms! Classic.

+100. What an asshat that poster is.

[Anonymous]

My daughter, 6 yo, “is going to end up on the back of someone’s motorcycle.”’

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"What do you do all day?"

At a fancy dinner party at my ILs when MIL stated that I stayed home with my 2 and 4 year olds and had household help. One of the guests asked this, who I had just met.

Tbh, I’d wonder this, too, though I would never say it out loud. But I’m poor by DCUM standards and envious.

I’d wonder this too, but I am not poor and could easily afford to SAH (with a FT nanny). But I find it a pathetic lifestyle, barring an SN child or similar extenuating circumstances.

Oh the irony!

[Anonymous]

About my then 2 year old who had some mild developmental delays, from a mom at the playground: “What’s WRONG with him?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"What do you do all day?"

At a fancy dinner party at my ILs when MIL stated that I stayed home with my 2 and 4 year olds and had household help. One of the guests asked this, who I had just met.

The correct response is, “Whatever I want!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter, 6 yo, “is going to end up on the back of someone’s motorcycle.”’

I would have said - if she is lucky, she will drive her own motorcycle!

People are a-holes, and yes, misery indeed loves company.

Worst thing has to be out of my bitter MIL's mouth, OP. She used to compare notes with her bridge friends about how evil they could be to their sweet, unsuspecting DIL's who were also new mothers.

Like when she was in my face when I was very ill, hair falling out and medicines having caused tens more pounds. MIL loved it because I used to look exact opposite of her. When I looked more like her (ill) she was happy to kick me when I was down. She said to me the one time that she came to see the babies: "I'm here to see THEM not you!". But I was breastfeeding, so I guess you're pretty useless, MIL huh?

There are many more that I have forgotten than remembered, thankfully.

Some people are born bad, pure evil. People who are out to hurt others are at the top of that list.

[Anonymous]

The best is when we didn't have a sitter, and MIL went to a holiday party instead of us (same party).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"What do you do all day?"

At a fancy dinner party at my ILs when MIL stated that I stayed home with my 2 and 4 year olds and had household help. One of the guests asked this, who I had just met.

I'm confused. Your MIL told this to dinner guests and then one of them asked what? Your MIL is a jerk but what did the other guest ask you and how is this offensive? Some of you are suffer from super sensitivity over nothing!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The best is when we didn't have a sitter, and MIL went to a holiday party instead of us (same party).

You think she should have baby sat for you? Ridiculous. Not her problem or responsibility. You knew about the party and it was up to you to find a babysitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"What do you do all day?"

At a fancy dinner party at my ILs when MIL stated that I stayed home with my 2 and 4 year olds and had household help. One of the guests asked this, who I had just met.

Tbh, I’d wonder this, too, though I would never say it out loud. But I’m poor by DCUM standards and envious.

I’d wonder this too, but I am not poor and could easily afford to SAH (with a FT nanny). But I find it a pathetic lifestyle, barring an SN child or similar extenuating circumstances.

Another mean thing said by a mom, in a thread about mean things said by moms! Classic.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"What do you do all day?"

At a fancy dinner party at my ILs when MIL stated that I stayed home with my 2 and 4 year olds and had household help. One of the guests asked this, who I had just met.

I'm confused. Your MIL told this to dinner guests and then one of them asked what? Your MIL is a jerk but what did the other guest ask you and how is this offensive? Some of you are suffer from super sensitivity over nothing!

I see you spied PP’s big itch signal, hopped onto your broom and came here for the only social interaction you get. Good job!

[Anonymous]

I was at the park with my child. Another mother asked me if I breastfed him and when I said no she told me that if I had I wouldn’t need that, pointing at his oxygen tank.

I could laugh a little inside, because I adopted my kid well past breastfeeding age, and my kid actually was breastfed, just not by me, but if that had happened to another mom, I imagine it could have been devastating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Small talk upon meeting a group of moms when DC1 was in K, getting to know each other, another mom asked me what I do, briefly stated my profession, asked her same, she starting staying home after her first child when she decided not to return to teaching for financial reasons and also - "they are only young once, it goes by so fast, and I decided I should be there for my children." I have since gotten to know her and consider her a casual friend, think it was an insensitive choice of words, but it came at a terrible time where I was working because I had no other choice, feeling so conflicted about it, and it was so hurtful.

I understand your hurt at the time but this is a VERY COMMON line of thought amongst teachers since they are oriented towards kids. So when they have their own, they sometimes decide to stay home bc they would be doing double kid duty. Sorry it hit you in that way.

Is it very common for teachers not to have filters?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son was having a major meltdown on the metro after work one day, and a pregnant woman looked at me and said, “my child will never behave like that.”

It had been a bad day, after a bad week, and I was exhausted.

The exact same thing happened to me. At that point I’ve already decided to drop my filters with perfect strangers. I told her she may yet have a stillborn so let’s not get cocky. She almost sat down. I told her it would teach her to stop saying stupid shit to complete strangers and exited.