What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL is mentally sick but I didn't know at that time. After I had DS1, she came over to see him and told me he has hydranencephaly and will die soon. She was a nurse so I believed her. I was a hormonal mess too and I remember calling the pediatrician hysterically.

Whoa you might win the thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son was having a major meltdown on the metro after work one day, and a pregnant woman looked at me and said, “my child will never behave like that.”

It had been a bad day, after a bad week, and I was exhausted.

The exact same thing happened to me. At that point I’ve already decided to drop my filters with perfect strangers. I told her she may yet have a stillborn so let’s not get cocky. She almost sat down. I told her it would teach her to stop saying stupid shit to complete strangers and exited.

That’s hilarious. I appreciate you. People on metro are often intolerant dicks. Even the pregnant ladies. I hope she didn’t swallow too many flies and learned her lesson (though I doubt it).

[Anonymous]

This pales in comparison to some of these comments, but it still made me feel bad. Said to me by my dentist of all people. Was in for a routine cleaning at about 6 months. Dentist was pregnant with a girl, too. We had chosen the name Charlotte and planned to call her Charlie. Dentist shared "well, we're thinking of the name Charlotte, but we're not sure because people might call her CHARLIE and of COURSE we wouldn't want that."

Cool.

[Anonymous]

MIL told me I was ruining my daughter's life over COVID precautions and warned she'd grow up to be socially awkward and isolated.

DD goes to preschool, we go on playdates, we go to the pool, parks, hikes, travel, see family, etc. We try to keep things outdoors as much as possible, but she's definitely not sheltered away from the world. MIL was mad because we didn't want to eat inside at a restaurant. That's the thing that's ruining my daughter's life - eating in a restaurant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"What do you do all day?"

At a fancy dinner party at my ILs when MIL stated that I stayed home with my 2 and 4 year olds and had household help. One of the guests asked this, who I had just met.

How did you respond?

+1. What did you tell her?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was at the park with my child. Another mother asked me if I breastfed him and when I said no she told me that if I had I wouldn’t need that, pointing at his oxygen tank.

I could laugh a little inside, because I adopted my kid well past breastfeeding age, and my kid actually was breastfed, just not by me, but if that had happened to another mom, I imagine it could have been devastating.

Lactivists are genuinely bad humans.

As are folks that use the word lactivist.

I think that woman on the playground is awful too though.

Uh, there is nothing wrong with the word “lactivist.” It’s an extremely accurate description. If you are the kind of person who accosts women about breastfeeding, you are a lactivist and deserve the pejorative description. Don’t do that and you have nothing to be sensitive about.

It’s a slur. Plain and simple. I don’t do those things. But the name is uncalled for. It’s also often aimed like a weapon wildly and inaccurately. Rise above the labels.

[Anonymous]

I tried to help a white mother at the checkout. Her baby was crying in her arms and she was trying to work the self check out (when they first came out), and she couldn’t figure out where to put her money in. I was behind in her in the check out with my newborn and pointed to where it goes. She turned quickly and said, “black b!itch.” Till this day, I am scared to help another white person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"What do you do all day?"

At a fancy dinner party at my ILs when MIL stated that I stayed home with my 2 and 4 year olds and had household help. One of the guests asked this, who I had just met.

I'm confused. Your MIL told this to dinner guests and then one of them asked what? Your MIL is a jerk but what did the other guest ask you and how is this offensive? Some of you are suffer from super sensitivity over nothing!

I see you spied PP’s big itch signal, hopped onto your broom and came here for the only social interaction you get. Good job!

Well, I try and it must also be your only social interaction. I just got a new jet-propelled broom. It has a plush seat cushion and a rain/sun cover. You might like one as well. We witches need to stick together, don't we? You are so adorable.. Makes my wicked heart smile just thinking about all your misery. Ta ta, Medusa.

Air ball.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not horrible but…

“Wow! Your daughter is beautiful! She looks nothing like you!”

I hoped she meant because DD has DH’s dark hair, skin, and eyes.

I've had people be surprised at my kid's looks making similar comments.
"oh wow you had them late"-no I had them in my early 30s but I guess I look old?
If you are familiar with AAP in FCPS-I decided to keep my kids in the our local school vs. going to a center for level IV and a mom who picked the center said that she could never stay with the local school because it was "only good for special ed kids and no bright kid would get their needs met" at our school. And she is a teacher.
"I could never take them to daycare so young"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son was having a major meltdown on the metro after work one day, and a pregnant woman looked at me and said, “my child will never behave like that.”

It had been a bad day, after a bad week, and I was exhausted.

The exact same thing happened to me. At that point I’ve already decided to drop my filters with perfect strangers. I told her she may yet have a stillborn so let’s not get cocky. She almost sat down. I told her it would teach her to stop saying stupid shit to complete strangers and exited.

I wish I had the balls to retort like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tried to help a white mother at the checkout. Her baby was crying in her arms and she was trying to work the self check out (when they first came out), and she couldn’t figure out where to put her money in. I was behind in her in the check out with my newborn and pointed to where it goes. She turned quickly and said, “black b!itch.” Till this day, I am scared to help another white person.

That’s so messed up. I’m sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL is mentally sick but I didn't know at that time. After I had DS1, she came over to see him and told me he has hydranencephaly and will die soon. She was a nurse so I believed her. I was a hormonal mess too and I remember calling the pediatrician hysterically.

Why wouldn’t your spouse have already filled you in that his mother is cuckoo?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I tried to help a white mother at the checkout. Her baby was crying in her arms and she was trying to work the self check out (when they first came out), and she couldn’t figure out where to put her money in. I was behind in her in the check out with my newborn and pointed to where it goes. She turned quickly and said, “black b!itch.” Till this day, I am scared to help another white person.

That’s so messed up. I’m sorry.

+1

I’m really sorry. That is truly horrible, and I’m sorry you experienced that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son was having a major meltdown on the metro after work one day, and a pregnant woman looked at me and said, “my child will never behave like that.”

It had been a bad day, after a bad week, and I was exhausted.

The exact same thing happened to me. At that point I’ve already decided to drop my filters with perfect strangers. I told her she may yet have a stillborn so let’s not get cocky. She almost sat down. I told her it would teach her to stop saying stupid shit to complete strangers and exited.

That’s hilarious. I appreciate you. People on metro are often intolerant dicks. Even the pregnant ladies. I hope she didn’t swallow too many flies and learned her lesson (though I doubt it).

So you are an actual a hole then. Not only do you let your kid bother other riders on a train but then you hurl deeply offensive insults at the strangers that you were already bothering. What a jerk.

I don’t have filters with strangers either so if the kid is being an out of control monster then I will say so. Don’t like it? Keep your own kids to themselves then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tried to help a white mother at the checkout. Her baby was crying in her arms and she was trying to work the self check out (when they first came out), and she couldn’t figure out where to put her money in. I was behind in her in the check out with my newborn and pointed to where it goes. She turned quickly and said, “black b!itch.” Till this day, I am scared to help another white person.

Oh my god that is really horrible!