Trap baby

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:An affair partner or girlfriend getting pregnant on purpose to get him to commit.

In a bad marriage to try to turn it around or prevent the constant “when are you going to work” for a SAHM whose kids are now in school and doesn’t want to work.

I'm a working mom of a one-and-done so this is not about myself, but I've heard this argument about SAHMs before and don't get it. What's the difference between "has another baby because she loves being a mom and wants to do it again" and "doesn't want to go to a paid job"? They are two sides of the same coin. Some women really love being home with their kids longterm. I think that's great for them if they can work it out with their partner and financially. Having another baby in that situation isn't a "trap". It's pursuing what you want.

This is just such a derogatory and cynical way to talk about women and motherhood.

It’s absolutely a trap if the husband wants the wife back at work and doesn’t want more kids.

All she has to do is…not go back to work. That’s much easier than having a baby. What her husband wants does not dictate her choices.

Cool. Then he doesn’t need to financially support her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was a post about music...

You're thinking of the VON Trapps.

Nope. Trap music. Fetty Wap

It. Was.A. Joke.

Are you always this obtuse?

DP. Don’t blame PP. Most Karen’s on here don’t know what trap music is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was a post about music...

You're thinking of the VON Trapps.

Nope. Trap music. Fetty Wap

It. Was.A. Joke.

Are you always this obtuse?

DP. Don’t blame PP. Most Karen’s on here don’t know what trap music is.

Everyone knows the Karen thing is played out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An affair partner or girlfriend getting pregnant on purpose to get him to commit.

In a bad marriage to try to turn it around or prevent the constant “when are you going to work” for a SAHM whose kids are now in school and doesn’t want to work.

I'm a working mom of a one-and-done so this is not about myself, but I've heard this argument about SAHMs before and don't get it. What's the difference between "has another baby because she loves being a mom and wants to do it again" and "doesn't want to go to a paid job"? They are two sides of the same coin. Some women really love being home with their kids longterm. I think that's great for them if they can work it out with their partner and financially. Having another baby in that situation isn't a "trap". It's pursuing what you want.

This is just such a derogatory and cynical way to talk about women and motherhood.

It’s absolutely a trap if the husband wants the wife back at work and doesn’t want more kids.

All she has to do is…not go back to work. That’s much easier than having a baby. What her husband wants does not dictate her choices.

Cool. Then he doesn’t need to financially support her.

I mean…you can say that on the internet but it’s not how the law works. If he doesn’t want to be married he can get ready to hand over 50% of the assets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was a post about music...

You're thinking of the VON Trapps.

Nope. Trap music. Fetty Wap

It. Was.A. Joke.

Are you always this obtuse?

What is the vonn trapp you speak of?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An affair partner or girlfriend getting pregnant on purpose to get him to commit.

In a bad marriage to try to turn it around or prevent the constant “when are you going to work” for a SAHM whose kids are now in school and doesn’t want to work.

I'm a working mom of a one-and-done so this is not about myself, but I've heard this argument about SAHMs before and don't get it. What's the difference between "has another baby because she loves being a mom and wants to do it again" and "doesn't want to go to a paid job"? They are two sides of the same coin. Some women really love being home with their kids longterm. I think that's great for them if they can work it out with their partner and financially. Having another baby in that situation isn't a "trap". It's pursuing what you want.

This is just such a derogatory and cynical way to talk about women and motherhood.

It’s absolutely a trap if the husband wants the wife back at work and doesn’t want more kids.

All she has to do is…not go back to work. That’s much easier than having a baby. What her husband wants does not dictate her choices.

Cool. Then he doesn’t need to financially support her.

I mean…you can say that on the internet but it’s not how the law works. If he doesn’t want to be married he can get ready to hand over 50% of the assets.

Even with 50% of the assets and child support she will still be a lot poorer than staying married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An affair partner or girlfriend getting pregnant on purpose to get him to commit.

In a bad marriage to try to turn it around or prevent the constant “when are you going to work” for a SAHM whose kids are now in school and doesn’t want to work.

I'm a working mom of a one-and-done so this is not about myself, but I've heard this argument about SAHMs before and don't get it. What's the difference between "has another baby because she loves being a mom and wants to do it again" and "doesn't want to go to a paid job"? They are two sides of the same coin. Some women really love being home with their kids longterm. I think that's great for them if they can work it out with their partner and financially. Having another baby in that situation isn't a "trap". It's pursuing what you want.

This is just such a derogatory and cynical way to talk about women and motherhood.

It’s absolutely a trap if the husband wants the wife back at work and doesn’t want more kids.

All she has to do is…not go back to work. That’s much easier than having a baby. What her husband wants does not dictate her choices.

Cool. Then he doesn’t need to financially support her.

I mean…you can say that on the internet but it’s not how the law works. If he doesn’t want to be married he can get ready to hand over 50% of the assets.

Even with 50% of the assets and child support she will still be a lot poorer than staying married.

Not necessarily…you realize a lot of women work and earn at least half the household income, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was a post about music...

You're thinking of the VON Trapps.

Nope. Trap music. Fetty Wap

It. Was.A. Joke.

Are you always this obtuse?

But it wasn’t very funny? Did your wife make you turn your personality off?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:When I started dating after my divorce, I didn't tell all my partners I had a vasectomy. I dated 3 different women who I swear were trying to get pregnant by me. It's such a common thing and I've warned my son about 100 times. When a woman wants to get pregnant, she does. BC doesn't fail in nearly the numbers claimed by women.

How did you know?

(And no, I’m not trying to baby trap a man. I’m done having kids and my shop is closed for business).

They wanted me to finish in them when I knew they weren't on BC saying, oh it's OK, nothing to worry about.

Are you rich?

Nope. Far from it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was a post about music...

You're thinking of the VON Trapps.

Nope. Trap music. Fetty Wap

It. Was.A. Joke.

Are you always this obtuse?

But it wasn’t very funny? Did your wife make you turn your personality off?

I'm not the one who made the joke. I just wasn't stupid enough to explain what trap music was as if I thought I was "educating" people.

Oh, and I don't have a wife, but here's a sticker, because you tried.

[Anonymous]

First she trapped him into marriage with a surprise pregnancy. Ten years later he was fed up and ready to leave the marriage. She came up pregnant again. He stayed for a while but now they are of course divorced.

[Anonymous]

I know of two situations where this worked out. First was high school sweethearts, at the end of high school. He did the right thing, but he also really loved her. Last I heard, they had a few more kids, bought a house in the hometown, and were still married. We’re still under 40 though so the jury is out on whether they are set up for long term happiness.

The second involved a cousin who tried to trap an ex, but thought the better of it once she saw his reaction and got an abortion. A few years later she laid a more successful trap with a long term, but reluctant to commit, boyfriend. They are married now and seem very happy. For anyone objecting to the “trap” terminology, this person wanted kids, wanted them young, had a history, and had full access to BC. So it was very much a “trap”.

I know of a few other situations with suspiciously timed “oopsie” pregnancies and it hasn’t worked out for any of them. For some, the mothers actually lost custody and became liable for child support. And yet the fantasy continues to live on that baby makes happily ever after or is a route for upward mobility. I am a mom of boys and believe me, they will be fully educated on the need to control their own fertility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was a post about music...

You're thinking of the VON Trapps.

Nope. Trap music. Fetty Wap

It. Was.A. Joke.

Are you always this obtuse?

But it wasn’t very funny? Did your wife make you turn your personality off?

I'm not the one who made the joke. I just wasn't stupid enough to explain what trap music was as if I thought I was "educating" people.

Oh, and I don't have a wife, but here's a sticker, because you tried.

Ok. Way to prove PPs point. Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An affair partner or girlfriend getting pregnant on purpose to get him to commit.

In a bad marriage to try to turn it around or prevent the constant “when are you going to work” for a SAHM whose kids are now in school and doesn’t want to work.

I'm a working mom of a one-and-done so this is not about myself, but I've heard this argument about SAHMs before and don't get it. What's the difference between "has another baby because she loves being a mom and wants to do it again" and "doesn't want to go to a paid job"? They are two sides of the same coin. Some women really love being home with their kids longterm. I think that's great for them if they can work it out with their partner and financially. Having another baby in that situation isn't a "trap". It's pursuing what you want.

This is just such a derogatory and cynical way to talk about women and motherhood.

It’s absolutely a trap if the husband wants the wife back at work and doesn’t want more kids.

All she has to do is…not go back to work. That’s much easier than having a baby. What her husband wants does not dictate her choices.

Cool. Then he doesn’t need to financially support her.

I mean…you can say that on the internet but it’s not how the law works. If he doesn’t want to be married he can get ready to hand over 50% of the assets.

Even with 50% of the assets and child support she will still be a lot poorer than staying married.

But she won’t have some guy harping at her about her choices and that’s worth millions. Not to mention the guy who cares so much will suddenly be a lot poorer as well.