Deeply regret being so short sighted

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Anonymous wrote:You can then it around. Mu DH made a massive career switch at age 40. He went from being a boring government contractor pushing paper and dealing with petty politics a d into IT sales. He's 6 years in and with his RSUs alone super funded both our kids 529s. He usually makes around 400-550k.

It was a gigantic risk and very scary, but he wasn't afraid to fail and wasn't afraid to put himself out there, even at age 40. He's currently trying looking foe a new job now at a pre IPO and his story is one that hiring managers gobble up. Everyone loves a transformation story.

PP, I love your DH's story. Can you say more about how he made the leap into IT sales?

We have a lot of friends in IT sales and would see the money they made. His one friend put his neck out for him and referred him and he got a seat at the table. I really gotta give him credit. He doesn't accept complacency ans isn't afraid of being uncomfortable.

Long before this change he joined toastmasters so he could get comfortable in front of groups speaking. I honestly think that was helpful in a weird way.

IT sales is such a racket. It’s basically white people making easy money off of Asian people’s hard work.

Lol! We are Asian. Indian to be specific.

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Anonymous wrote:You can then it around. Mu DH made a massive career switch at age 40. He went from being a boring government contractor pushing paper and dealing with petty politics a d into IT sales. He's 6 years in and with his RSUs alone super funded both our kids 529s. He usually makes around 400-550k.

It was a gigantic risk and very scary, but he wasn't afraid to fail and wasn't afraid to put himself out there, even at age 40. He's currently trying looking foe a new job now at a pre IPO and his story is one that hiring managers gobble up. Everyone loves a transformation story.

PP, I love your DH's story. Can you say more about how he made the leap into IT sales?

We have a lot of friends in IT sales and would see the money they made. His one friend put his neck out for him and referred him and he got a seat at the table. I really gotta give him credit. He doesn't accept complacency ans isn't afraid of being uncomfortable.

Long before this change he joined toastmasters so he could get comfortable in front of groups speaking. I honestly think that was helpful in a weird way.

IT sales is such a racket. It’s basically white people making easy money off of Asian people’s hard work.

Lol! We are Asian. Indian to be specific.

Yes…that’s the way it works. People buy from those they trust.

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Anonymous wrote:You can then it around. Mu DH made a massive career switch at age 40. He went from being a boring government contractor pushing paper and dealing with petty politics a d into IT sales. He's 6 years in and with his RSUs alone super funded both our kids 529s. He usually makes around 400-550k.

It was a gigantic risk and very scary, but he wasn't afraid to fail and wasn't afraid to put himself out there, even at age 40. He's currently trying looking foe a new job now at a pre IPO and his story is one that hiring managers gobble up. Everyone loves a transformation story.

PP, I love your DH's story. Can you say more about how he made the leap into IT sales?

We have a lot of friends in IT sales and would see the money they made. His one friend put his neck out for him and referred him and he got a seat at the table. I really gotta give him credit. He doesn't accept complacency ans isn't afraid of being uncomfortable.

Long before this change he joined toastmasters so he could get comfortable in front of groups speaking. I honestly think that was helpful in a weird way.

IT sales is such a racket. It’s basically white people making easy money off of Asian people’s hard work.

Lol! We are Asian. Indian to be specific.

Good for you! I’m glad the industry has made progress.

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Anonymous wrote:You can then it around. Mu DH made a massive career switch at age 40. He went from being a boring government contractor pushing paper and dealing with petty politics a d into IT sales. He's 6 years in and with his RSUs alone super funded both our kids 529s. He usually makes around 400-550k.

It was a gigantic risk and very scary, but he wasn't afraid to fail and wasn't afraid to put himself out there, even at age 40. He's currently trying looking foe a new job now at a pre IPO and his story is one that hiring managers gobble up. Everyone loves a transformation story.

PP, I love your DH's story. Can you say more about how he made the leap into IT sales?

We have a lot of friends in IT sales and would see the money they made. His one friend put his neck out for him and referred him and he got a seat at the table. I really gotta give him credit. He doesn't accept complacency ans isn't afraid of being uncomfortable.

Long before this change he joined toastmasters so he could get comfortable in front of groups speaking. I honestly think that was helpful in a weird way.

IT sales is such a racket. It’s basically white people making easy money off of Asian people’s hard work.

Lol! We are Asian. Indian to be specific.

Good for you! I’m glad the industry has made progress.

DP.. I am older (50s), and started my tech career in SV. There were Asian Americans in tech sales back then, too. Maybe it's a more recent trend in the DC area, but in SV, this has been happening for a while.

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63 k is not piddly, it’s all about how you spend not how much you make

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Anonymous wrote:Your father failed you. He should have put you in more situating for opportunities because you have the chance to see the world you could have done so many more things and connected to people.

Instead, you were in your gilded cage and only had servants to assist you. You should have been speaking at least a half dozen languages and be able to navigate anything anywhere in the world by the time you were an adult.

But now you are grown up and you have to fix your own problems and can't blame your parents. It's not to late to go back to school even if part time and change your career. What were the things you loved to do the most? Can they align with a productive, profitable career?

I disagree. OP's father told them to consider different career options. The father worked his way up the diplomatic ranks, that was earned. OP doesn't comprehend that they are in charge of their destiny and decisions. I grew up in UMC home but I have an internal drive and hustle mentality that serves me well. It wasn't taught to me, nor did my parents tell me how to be this way. Sounds like OP received a higher education and made choices that they now regret by not creating better opportunities.

OP, get your resume together. Reach out to your friends and business contacts. Go find yourself a better opportunity. They are out there. You have to look for it, it is not waiting around for you! Go get it.

I'm an immigrant and live in Northern Virginia in a paid $1mln dollar house. Yes, my husband is an American and his government job helped a lot. But I also had a tremendous internal drive and hustle mentality. My parents never talked to me about any career, since in my country women stayed home (I'm a woman). People are often shocked at my current status ( I also have a government job). Just like among my immigrant colleagues, some people spend money frivolously and don't have hustle mentality, and are not self propelled not matter what.

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Anonymous wrote:You can then it around. Mu DH made a massive career switch at age 40. He went from being a boring government contractor pushing paper and dealing with petty politics a d into IT sales. He's 6 years in and with his RSUs alone super funded both our kids 529s. He usually makes around 400-550k.

It was a gigantic risk and very scary, but he wasn't afraid to fail and wasn't afraid to put himself out there, even at age 40. He's currently trying looking foe a new job now at a pre IPO and his story is one that hiring managers gobble up. Everyone loves a transformation story.

PP, I love your DH's story. Can you say more about how he made the leap into IT sales?

We have a lot of friends in IT sales and would see the money they made. His one friend put his neck out for him and referred him and he got a seat at the table. I really gotta give him credit. He doesn't accept complacency ans isn't afraid of being uncomfortable.

Long before this change he joined toastmasters so he could get comfortable in front of groups speaking. I honestly think that was helpful in a weird way.

IT sales is such a racket. It’s basically white people making easy money off of Asian people’s hard work.

Lol! We are Asian. Indian to be specific.

Good for you! I’m glad the industry has made progress.

How old are you? There have been Asians in tech sales since tech started.

Are you talking about automotive tech? We're talking about data centers and software and. such

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One of my kids is going down this path. I worry about regret coming down the road, but I don't feel like there is much I can do about it (other than ask the occasional concerned question.) She has huge heart and lots of passion for her field, and she says doesn't care about living the kind of life she grew up with. But I wonder if she'll still feel that way ten years from now.

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I didn’t read all of the comments, but look into pivoting or repositioning into ESG at a large asset management firm?

What is your area of expertise? What do you do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:63 k is not piddly, it’s all about how you spend not how much you make

Yes it is. Especially when your peers are making 500+ At law firms/finance Etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t read all of the comments, but look into pivoting or repositioning into ESG at a large asset management firm?

What is your area of expertise? What do you do

What is ESG?

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Or you could do like me, and invest while young in a few good stocks, and now have millions in the bank, even though I haven't had worked a paid job for many years of my life.

Try that now. Might as well.

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Anonymous wrote:You can then it around. Mu DH made a massive career switch at age 40. He went from being a boring government contractor pushing paper and dealing with petty politics a d into IT sales. He's 6 years in and with his RSUs alone super funded both our kids 529s. He usually makes around 400-550k.

It was a gigantic risk and very scary, but he wasn't afraid to fail and wasn't afraid to put himself out there, even at age 40. He's currently trying looking foe a new job now at a pre IPO and his story is one that hiring managers gobble up. Everyone loves a transformation story.

PP, I love your DH's story. Can you say more about how he made the leap into IT sales?

We have a lot of friends in IT sales and would see the money they made. His one friend put his neck out for him and referred him and he got a seat at the table. I really gotta give him credit. He doesn't accept complacency ans isn't afraid of being uncomfortable.

Long before this change he joined toastmasters so he could get comfortable in front of groups speaking. I honestly think that was helpful in a weird way.

How did you have a lot of friends in IT tech sales? Where did your circles overlap? I don’t know anyone.

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Anonymous wrote:63 k is not piddly, it’s all about how you spend not how much you make

Yes it is. Especially when your peers are making 500+ At law firms/finance Etc.

Exactly. Making under 100k after the age of 30 is rough in certain cities.

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Anonymous wrote:Or you could do like me, and invest while young in a few good stocks, and now have millions in the bank, even though I haven't had worked a paid job for many years of my life.

Try that now. Might as well.