Bad Vegan (Netflix documentary)

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Anonymous wrote:I think the series was too long for the story. On the substance, I do believe she was swindled but like Tinder Swindler I don't get how these people are falling for this stuff??? Sending thousands of dollars to these men??

I do think she gave some insight into her state of mind, though not direct as I'd like. The business of being in Vegas and staying in the hotel all day, not getting out of bed, lying about who she is to the Chipotle guy . . . she clearly had/has some mental health challenges. I think at some point she realized she had been duped and just sort of comparmentalized that. If she didn't think about it, did not change it, didn't do something about it . . . then it didn't exist. And now she is, what, several million dollars in debt, a felon, with no prospects. She is faced with all of this and will never be able to overcome those things (she's not Martha Stewart) but now she HAS to.

What no! She was a willing participant in the a scam. She sucked the money dry and then went on the run. That’s why she stayed in the hotel because she was on the run and wanted by the police. Remember she cooperate with the show so she could push the blame on others. She supplied recorded phone calls that made her look like a helpless victim. She is not.

Do you think she gave it to him expecting to walk away from the business eventually and live lavishly together? And that the calls and texts about his brother and the tests and the immortality were staged?

She yes was all in. She worked for Bain Capital, Bear, Stearns and graduated from Wharton Business School. She knew exactly what she was doing.

I agree. She was also going along with all of his requests because she wanted three things that he said she could have "unlimited wealth, immortality (for her and her dog), [b]and power." What a selfish woman.

And when she tried to compare what she did vs her mother, that's when I really lost all respect for her. He was telling her mother that Sarma needed help, that she was in a bad situation, of course her mother would do anything she could think to help her daughter. Maybe the gullibility doesn't fall far from the tree, but Sarma was stealing/giving away other people's money to benefit herself. Her mother was doing it under the impression that she was helping her daughter.

Say it out loud. Who would believe this? She is a blonde grifter. I am surprised she got caught.

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The homeless guy in the show who was her "friend", pretty sure she slept with him...what other reason would he have to be so dedicated to her?

The homeless guy was dedicated to her because 1) he liked the attention of a beautiful woman 2) hanging out with her made him, well..."a homeless royalty". He's definitely someone who cares how he's perceived, judging by his style and demeanor. But I don't think she slept with him or wanted to and the homeless man seems respectful.

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I am a little late, but I binged this today and was like, what??!!

I feel sorry for Sarma, and I thought she came across as so very likeable and forthright. I don't think she is ducking responsibility, she seems pretty realistic about her responsibility in it, but who know what is real.

Anyway, I think she has BPD (borderline personality disorder). Women with BPD are known to fall for scams easily (fortune is right around the corner!) because of their need to win or be rescued. She deeply regretted missing her chance at win/rescue/validation with Baldwin, and it set her down so bad she was deep in Alec's twitter when she picked up Anthony, then bared all her deepest insecurities to a total stranger.

Anthony the conman picked this up and leaned in heavily on the whole rescuer role. He was so smalltime before he picked up this NYC lady! But he had all the skills down pat already.

I liked the part at the end where the VF writer hypothesized that it was Sarma's grift, to marry him for money and save her restaurant, that morphed into Anthony's grift.

Anthony's grift is heavy on the sunk cost fallacy, in which you already invested so much you can't turn back, and "just a bit more and you get it" carrots. Sarma writes that she always thought she would be a queen!

Then Sarma goes and has a hot sex affair with her lawyer. Anthony is a worse person by 1000x, but here is an example of the combustion of two people, mentally ill in different ways, the harm they do to others, with money for fuel.

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How does a hot woman sleep with an obese man?

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She loved drugs. I think long term drug use explains a lot of the crazy.