Women Quitting or Taking Leave of Absence to Manage Kids' College Applications?

[Anonymous]

I won't get off the couch and miss the Today Show for less than 150K per year.

[Anonymous]

But you could have a tv in your office as I do pp

[Anonymous]

I'm forgoing at least $1 million a year to be a stay-at-home mom, and I would choose this life I have even if someone offered me a TV in the office.

[Anonymous]

That's too bad pp. Someday you may need that money if hubby is laid off, sick or whatever.

[Anonymous]

"That's too bad pp. Someday you may need that money if hubby is laid off, sick or whatever. "

Or decides he's gay, or dumps you for his "soulmate".

[Anonymous]

Yes, life has a lot of curveballs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's too bad pp. Someday you may need that money if hubby is laid off, sick or whatever.

Yes, it's good to have a degree and work experience to fall back on if life does change. I'm lucky in that respect. I also have a family trust, so I count my blessings.

[Anonymous]

Why do some WOHMs feel it's appropriate to take these potshots at SAHMs? I've been a WOHM, a SAHM and am now a WAHM, but have never heard a SAHM play the schadenfreude game, e.g. "You might need your high-flying job as comfort one day when your kids turn into Woolite-drinking drug addicts who hate you and resent your neglectful parenting."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do some WOHMs feel it's appropriate to take these potshots at SAHMs? I've been a WOHM, a SAHM and am now a WAHM, but have never heard a SAHM play the schadenfreude game, e.g. "You might need your high-flying job as comfort one day when your kids turn into Woolite-drinking drug addicts who hate you and resent your neglectful parenting."

Perhaps the WOHMs who posted hateful things about the SAHM are less satisfied with their lot than they let on.

[Anonymous]

Or maybe it's what the SAHM posted: I gave up $1 million per year, but it's OK because I also have a trust. Some folks here may not think bragging like that is OK, especially when it's totally unrelated to the thread topic.

Or, like me, they may not totally believe it given the number of trolls on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's a WOHM vs. SAHM thing -- it was the way the woman bragged about giving up the $1M job. It's hard to believe anyone would be dumb enough to do that if it were true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's a WOHM vs. SAHM thing -- it was the way the woman bragged about giving up the $1M job. It's hard to believe anyone would be dumb enough to do that if it were true.

Being with my kids is worth more than $1 million a year to me. It's that simple. YMMV.

[Anonymous]

I didn't visit a single school when I was applying, and when my sister started college, my parents put her on a plane to Boston (from the middle-of-nowhere-Montana) by herself. They never visited her and flew her home for Christmas *once*.College students these days are so helpless!

[Anonymous]

I didn't visit a single school either, when I was applying. I matriculated in the fall at a college sight unseen!

But I think times have changed in that children are given more say in the college they attend.

But I'm not sure I want to give my children so much say that we have to visit each and every college. A lot of it has to do with the child's expectations, and parents have to manage the expectations. Believe me, my children will not expect to visit every college. They will visit my college (Harvard) when DH and I attend our 25th reunion, and that may be all they get.

[Anonymous]

To 21:33 - why is that?

It's not like you get to spend more than an extra hour a day with them once they're in full time elementary school.

Can't understand giving up that kind of money (not that you're the one who gave up the million dollars) for such little benefit.