Full time housekeeper who will keep an eye on 12 year old afterschool

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Anonymous wrote:Another rich person in a massively unhappy marriage. So apparent.

You’re just jealous.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a SAHM with a high standard of cleanliness for my household and it keeps me very busy. I once invited a neighbor for coffee and she first commented on how clean my house was. Then she told me about how busy she is because her kids have mental health struggles unlike mine, and so cleaning her house is very far down in her list of priorities. I just nodded and did not say anything. Her house is like a hoarder's house. I felt like saying that maybe if she cleaned her house a bit, it will have a positive impact on the mental health of her kids.

Do you guys poop every day? Shower? Brush your teeth? Have your meals? Exercise? Cleaning is in the same category of self-care. You are not doing anyone a favor by living in a trash heap. A dirty house impacts your mental health.

There's a lot of room between getting on your hands and knees to scrub the floors every day and "living in a trash heap."

But PP probably likes it on her hands and knees.

Don’t try to be clever, dear, it’s embarrassing for you.

I’m not the one licking the floor clean.

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone detail the job description for a full-time housekeeper in a home with 3 people?

I can't imagine there's enough to do to keep her busy 8 hours a day.

Lots of people just have higher standards than you, PP. I don’t mean to be snarky but my mother was a true old fashioned housewife and stayed busy all day. Our house was spotless and fresh, homemade meals were made daily. She washed our kitchen floor every single day and we never used a towel twice.

I wish my house was like that!

but some of what you're describing is really busy work. no one's kitchen floor needs to be washed every day. it's super wasteful to use a towel only one time. Your mom was filling up her activities to fill the time she had available.

+1 Reminds me of how the staff are kept busy on Downton Abbey polishing silver and ironing napkins.

-1. Real silver needs to be polished frequently and they didn’t have permapress napkins.


Why is it so hard for you both to understand that some people have higher standards of cleanliness than you do?

You say higher standards, I say neuroticism and undiagnosed anxiety disorder.

You clearly live in a small house. I say your house smells and you’re a slob. How’s judgement working out for you?

I believe the person who alluded to “higher standards of cleanliness” cast the first stone. Please take some time out of your cleaning schedule to visit the psychiatrist. There are meds that can help you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Another rich person in a massively unhappy marriage. So apparent.

You’re just jealous.

Of what? Your mental illness? Nope.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a SAHM with a high standard of cleanliness for my household and it keeps me very busy. I once invited a neighbor for coffee and she first commented on how clean my house was. Then she told me about how busy she is because her kids have mental health struggles unlike mine, and so cleaning her house is very far down in her list of priorities. I just nodded and did not say anything. Her house is like a hoarder's house. I felt like saying that maybe if she cleaned her house a bit, it will have a positive impact on the mental health of her kids.

Do you guys poop every day? Shower? Brush your teeth? Have your meals? Exercise? Cleaning is in the same category of self-care. You are not doing anyone a favor by living in a trash heap. A dirty house impacts your mental health.

There's a lot of room between getting on your hands and knees to scrub the floors every day and "living in a trash heap."

But PP probably likes it on her hands and knees.

Don’t try to be clever, dear, it’s embarrassing for you.

Neither is anyone else, dear. Please stop. You’re just humiliating yourself.
I’m not the one licking the floor clean.

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Anonymous wrote:Another rich person in a massively unhappy marriage. So apparent.

You’re just jealous.

Of what? Your mental illness? Nope.

You’re jealous of the fact that some of us have fresh, clean, large homes with full time housekeepers. It’s only making you look pathetic, PP.

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Anonymous wrote:Another rich person in a massively unhappy marriage. So apparent.

You’re just jealous.

Of what? Your mental illness? Nope.

You’re jealous of the fact that some of us have fresh, clean, large homes with full time housekeepers. It’s only making you look pathetic, PP.

+1. She is pathetic and probably stinks.

[Anonymous]

I babysat for a family, years ago, who had a full time housekeeper. The kids just left their dishes on the table after meals, the parents left the milk sitting on the counter and the baby's poopy diapers on the changing table. It was amazing. They didn't treat me (a white grad student) like that, but their POC housekeeper literally cleaned up their shit every day. Made her wear a uniform even. It was so so bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I babysat for a family, years ago, who had a full time housekeeper. The kids just left their dishes on the table after meals, the parents left the milk sitting on the counter and the baby's poopy diapers on the changing table. It was amazing. They didn't treat me (a white grad student) like that, but their POC housekeeper literally cleaned up their shit every day. Made her wear a uniform even. It was so so bizarre.

Yes, bizarre and not the norm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I babysat for a family, years ago, who had a full time housekeeper. The kids just left their dishes on the table after meals, the parents left the milk sitting on the counter and the baby's poopy diapers on the changing table. It was amazing. They didn't treat me (a white grad student) like that, but their POC housekeeper literally cleaned up their shit every day. Made her wear a uniform even. It was so so bizarre.

I've had full time housekeepers most of my life. My grandparents had one, my parents had one, and I've had one or more off and on since my early 30s. I've never done any of the things you described, and my parents would have had a fit if we treated anyone who worked for them poorly. Worked for them. We were still expected to tidy and do some things around the house, as are my kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I babysat for a family, years ago, who had a full time housekeeper. The kids just left their dishes on the table after meals, the parents left the milk sitting on the counter and the baby's poopy diapers on the changing table. It was amazing. They didn't treat me (a white grad student) like that, but their POC housekeeper literally cleaned up their shit every day. Made her wear a uniform even. It was so so bizarre.

I've had full time housekeepers most of my life. My grandparents had one, my parents had one, and I've had one or more off and on since my early 30s. I've never done any of the things you described, and my parents would have had a fit if we treated anyone who worked for them poorly. Worked for them. We were still expected to tidy and do some things around the house, as are my kids.

+1. Same. Our lifelong housekeeper, Miss Evelyn, was a much tougher task-master than my parents were.

[Anonymous]

Not to threadjack, but what kinds of HHI do people have to afford a FT housekeeper and chef? We make about 950k and while I would love to have both (which my husband would never agree to), this seems squarely in the realm of the UHNW folks. We do have a FT nanny and cleaners come 1x/wk.