Why does this guy ignore me?

[Anonymous]

If a man did that, it would be perceived as stalking behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a man did that, it would be perceived as stalking behavior.

PP again but I think that’s really reaching. Someone saying hello to someone they see at the gym every day is stalker behavior? That’s pretty alarmist. Like I said, it takes literally two seconds to say hi back and then turn your attention back to whatever you were doing. Or, use your words: I don’t really have time to chat, going to get back to it. AirPods back on. Whatever. I mean I get people in the DMC are a different brand of rude, so I’ll accept this guy being like that. But to comparing this to stalking? Really? I guess I have a stalker then and never knew it!

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Anonymous wrote:Hard not to imagine this from the other perspective.

“Guy at the gym keeps harassing me; how do I get him to stop?”

What’s the answer?

I mean, how hard is it to say “hi”? There’s an annoyingly gregarious guy at my gym who comes up to familiar faces and says “Hi! Working out triceps today?” He just wants to be acknowledged. It takes me two seconds to say “hi” and “yep” back. I have more unwarranted interaction with strangers at the grocery store. The guy is just intentionally jerky, imo.

I think someone was pointing out that if a man did what OP is doing in a gym or any place it would be seen as toxic masculinity?

I get that. But I’m just pointing out that saying hello back to someone isn’t hard. You probably do it more than you realize when you’re out and about. Why this guy has always been cold towards OP though? Who knows.

Why does she not consider that the guy may have issues and that it may not be in her best interest to keep trying for his attention. This isn’t a high school gym class — it’s the real world with a bigger mix of people and this guy is a stranger to her. Every guy at a gym is not single or looking for attention or a date.

[Anonymous]

WTF? Give it a rest. He's working out. He doesn't want to chit chat with you or engage you. And, by now, you are really giving off serious stalker type vibes. Let the man workout in peace.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If a man did that, it would be perceived as stalking behavior.

PP again but I think that’s really reaching. Someone saying hello to someone they see at the gym every day is stalker behavior? That’s pretty alarmist. Like I said, it takes literally two seconds to say hi back and then turn your attention back to whatever you were doing. Or, use your words: I don’t really have time to chat, going to get back to it. AirPods back on. Whatever. I mean I get people in the DMC are a different brand of rude, so I’ll accept this guy being like that. But to comparing this to stalking? Really? I guess I have a stalker then and never knew it!

It’s the world we live in. Maybe he said hi to some random woman and she went off on him. It happens. Just leave him alone.

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Anonymous wrote:Hard not to imagine this from the other perspective.

“Guy at the gym keeps harassing me; how do I get him to stop?”

What’s the answer?

I mean, how hard is it to say “hi”? There’s an annoyingly gregarious guy at my gym who comes up to familiar faces and says “Hi! Working out triceps today?” He just wants to be acknowledged. It takes me two seconds to say “hi” and “yep” back. I have more unwarranted interaction with strangers at the grocery store. The guy is just intentionally jerky, imo.

I think someone was pointing out that if a man did what OP is doing in a gym or any place it would be seen as toxic masculinity?

I get that. But I’m just pointing out that saying hello back to someone isn’t hard. You probably do it more than you realize when you’re out and about. Why this guy has always been cold towards OP though? Who knows.

Why does she not consider that the guy may have issues and that it may not be in her best interest to keep trying for his attention. This isn’t a high school gym class — it’s the real world with a bigger mix of people and this guy is a stranger to her. Every guy at a gym is not single or looking for attention or a date.

Oh I totally get that. She just mentioned it being platonic, which is what I experience with my “stalker” I was just pointing out my experience from the opposite side (man saying hello to woman at gym)

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Anonymous wrote:Hard not to imagine this from the other perspective.

“Guy at the gym keeps harassing me; how do I get him to stop?”

What’s the answer?

I mean, how hard is it to say “hi”? There’s an annoyingly gregarious guy at my gym who comes up to familiar faces and says “Hi! Working out triceps today?” He just wants to be acknowledged. It takes me two seconds to say “hi” and “yep” back. I have more unwarranted interaction with strangers at the grocery store. The guy is just intentionally jerky, imo.

I think someone was pointing out that if a man did what OP is doing in a gym or any place it would be seen as toxic masculinity?

I get that. But I’m just pointing out that saying hello back to someone isn’t hard. You probably do it more than you realize when you’re out and about. Why this guy has always been cold towards OP though? Who knows.

Why does she not consider that the guy may have issues and that it may not be in her best interest to keep trying for his attention. This isn’t a high school gym class — it’s the real world with a bigger mix of people and this guy is a stranger to her. Every guy at a gym is not single or looking for attention or a date.

Oh I totally get that. She just mentioned it being platonic, which is what I experience with my “stalker” I was just pointing out my experience from the opposite side (man saying hello to woman at gym)

But even you describe him as annoying and a jerk.

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Anonymous wrote:Hard not to imagine this from the other perspective.

“Guy at the gym keeps harassing me; how do I get him to stop?”

What’s the answer?

I mean, how hard is it to say “hi”? There’s an annoyingly gregarious guy at my gym who comes up to familiar faces and says “Hi! Working out triceps today?” He just wants to be acknowledged. It takes me two seconds to say “hi” and “yep” back. I have more unwarranted interaction with strangers at the grocery store. The guy is just intentionally jerky, imo.

I think someone was pointing out that if a man did what OP is doing in a gym or any place it would be seen as toxic masculinity?

I get that. But I’m just pointing out that saying hello back to someone isn’t hard. You probably do it more than you realize when you’re out and about. Why this guy has always been cold towards OP though? Who knows.

Why does she not consider that the guy may have issues and that it may not be in her best interest to keep trying for his attention. This isn’t a high school gym class — it’s the real world with a bigger mix of people and this guy is a stranger to her. Every guy at a gym is not single or looking for attention or a date.

Oh I totally get that. She just mentioned it being platonic, which is what I experience with my “stalker” I was just pointing out my experience from the opposite side (man saying hello to woman at gym)

But even you describe him as annoying and a jerk.

I guess I worded it wrong. The guy OP is describing seems to be the jerk, like I would be if I blank stared at this guy who I know is only trying to be friendly (albeit to everyone.) Now I just see it as maybe we are the only people he talks to during the day and I am contributing to making his day a little happier. It doesn’t hurt me at all. On the contrary, this guy seems to be contributing to baffling and mystifying OP, and not in a good way. I don’t think he owes her anything, but as someone on the receiving end, I wonder what it would hurt for him to just wave back? That just my own perspective. It’s been a rough couple years.

[Anonymous]

The guy you see at the gym is harmless, but we can’t extrapolate and assume every guy at a gym will be similar. Maybe he “should” be nicer but the real world doesn’t work that way, especially with what men have experienced and observed after #MeToo. A lot of men have changed their behavior. With the internet, it’s been much easier to learn more about other people and conditions like autism and personality disorders. OP would be much better off taking the social cues than wishing otherwise.

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Married?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are a ghost and he cannot see you.

Woah, she’s been dead for the whole movie

EXACTLY