Why does this guy ignore me?

[Anonymous]

Some people are just not nice to other people except they make exceptions for people who they want to impress. I hate people like that, and he must be one of them. Also, he may think you have certain markers that could make you a psychic vampire and he doesn’t want you to get your fangs into him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people are just not nice to other people except they make exceptions for people who they want to impress. I hate people like that, and he must be one of them. Also, he may think you have certain markers that could make you a psychic vampire and he doesn’t want you to get your fangs into him.

More on psychic vampires—they are all around us.

https://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/article/psychic-vampire-repellent

[Anonymous]

I think people are being too harsh on OP. If somebody were nice to everybody else but actively went out of his way to ignore me, to the point where it was arguably rude, I'd wonder what the hell was going on too.

I used to have a crush on a guy who got a lot of attention from women, and I was not subtle about my feelings. He started ignored me. I got the hint, ignored him back, and got over my crush. We crossed paths a lot and became really close friends (aways platonic). He eventually said that he knew I was interested and he wanted to make clear that the feeling was not mutual.

Nobody knows for sure what's going on in this guy's mind, but I could imagine he's doing a similar thing, even if he is mistaken about OP's intentions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people are just not nice to other people except they make exceptions for people who they want to impress. I hate people like that, and he must be one of them. Also, he may think you have certain markers that could make you a psychic vampire and he doesn’t want you to get your fangs into him.

More on psychic vampires—they are all around us.

https://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/article/psychic-vampire-repellent

Are you ok? Lol

[Anonymous]

Maybe you’re annoying running around the gym high fiving and fist bumping people, never shut up and gossip. Who knows. Why do you need to interact with everyone? You’re weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you do like him. Otherwise this would not bother you.

I definitely do not like him, he isn’t my type. Since it’s anonymous, I guess the way I see it now is like a weird egotistical challenge to figure out why I can’t even get this guy, who I’ve seen pretty much daily for over a year, to just respond in any way. (I’m not throwing myself at him, don’t get that idea. But once a week or so we end up on equipment next to each other and I put my hand up in a wave and smile and then carry on. He just stares at me like I’m an idiot.)

Stop embarrassing yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so petty but it’s bothering me, so I’m coming to you all for opinions.

I consider myself to be a generally attractive, fit, woman in my early-30s. I’m a bit of a “gym rat” and I’m friendly with the “regulars”, both male and female, exchanging platonic camaraderie. Mostly everyone just waves or exchanges simple acknowledgments, occasionally brief small talk. There is one man who is around my age who never acknowledges me. I will smile and wave, or say hello, but he will always just stare at me with blank eyes and keep walking. I’ve seen him talking with other regulars, so I know it’s not just that he keeps to himself or anything like that.

I don’t know why this rejection bothers me so much. I’m not interested in him or anything like that, I’m friendly with everyone, but his blatant rebuffing baffles me. Why won’t he acknowledge me at all? It’s the strangest thing. It’s weird every time I see him and I don’t know if I should just ignore him?

He does not want to make friends and thinks you are interested in him romantically. He wants to shut that down. Just ignore him from now on.

+1 Is he married? Maybe he messed up before and is not engaging for a specific reason. It might be about his marriage and not you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous[b wrote:]I think people are being too harsh on OP. If somebody were nice to everybody else but actively went out of his way to ignore me, to the point where it was arguably rude, I'd wonder what the hell[/b] was going on too.

I used to have a crush on a guy who got a lot of attention from women, and I was not subtle about my feelings. He started ignored me. I got the hint, ignored him back, and got over my crush. We crossed paths a lot and became really close friends (aways platonic). He eventually said that he knew I was interested and he wanted to make clear that the feeling was not mutual.

Nobody knows for sure what's going on in this guy's mind, but I could imagine he's doing a similar thing, even if he is mistaken about OP's intentions.

He is not nice to everyone. He has a few select friends he more anyone is obligated to smile and say hi to you or op. Everyone is not your friend or obligated to be nor does the world revolve around you and your feelings. Most people learn this at the latest by 4 the grade you and op are well behind the curve, time to catch up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous[b wrote:]I think people are being too harsh on OP. If somebody were nice to everybody else but actively went out of his way to ignore me, to the point where it was arguably rude, I'd wonder what the hell[/b] was going on too.

I used to have a crush on a guy who got a lot of attention from women, and I was not subtle about my feelings. He started ignored me. I got the hint, ignored him back, and got over my crush. We crossed paths a lot and became really close friends (aways platonic). He eventually said that he knew I was interested and he wanted to make clear that the feeling was not mutual.

Nobody knows for sure what's going on in this guy's mind, but I could imagine he's doing a similar thing, even if he is mistaken about OP's intentions.

He is not nice to everyone. He has a few select friends he more anyone is obligated to smile and say hi to you or op. Everyone is not your friend or obligated to be nor does the world revolve around you and your feelings. Most people learn this at the latest by 4 the grade you and op are well behind the curve, time to catch up.

OP has already acknowledged that this is her problem, not his, and that she needs to back off. I don’t know what you think you are adding to the discussion by continuing to pile on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous[b wrote:]I think people are being too harsh on OP. If somebody were nice to everybody else but actively went out of his way to ignore me, to the point where it was arguably rude, I'd wonder what the hell[/b] was going on too.

I used to have a crush on a guy who got a lot of attention from women, and I was not subtle about my feelings. He started ignored me. I got the hint, ignored him back, and got over my crush. We crossed paths a lot and became really close friends (aways platonic). He eventually said that he knew I was interested and he wanted to make clear that the feeling was not mutual.

Nobody knows for sure what's going on in this guy's mind, but I could imagine he's doing a similar thing, even if he is mistaken about OP's intentions.

He is not nice to everyone. He has a few select friends he more anyone is obligated to smile and say hi to you or op. Everyone is not your friend or obligated to be nor does the world revolve around you and your feelings. Most people learn this at the latest by 4 the grade you and op are well behind the curve, time to catch up.

OP has already acknowledged that this is her problem, not his, and that she needs to back off. I don’t know what you think you are adding to the discussion by continuing to pile on.

I don't know why you think it's your job to be the forum police. You ask a childish question don't be upset when you get called out on it and don't try to te others not to be " mean" to op by telling her she's acting like a child. You are t adding anything to the discussion thinking you are forum moderator and inf posters they are being to harsh.

[Anonymous]

He doesn’t like you. You should just ignore him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think people are being too harsh on OP. If somebody were nice to everybody else but actively went out of his way to ignore me, to the point where it was arguably rude, I'd wonder what the hell was going on too.

I used to have a crush on a guy who got a lot of attention from women, and I was not subtle about my feelings. He started ignored me. I got the hint, ignored him back, and got over my crush. We crossed paths a lot and became really close friends (aways platonic). He eventually said that he knew I was interested and he wanted to make clear that the feeling was not mutual.

Nobody knows for sure what's going on in this guy's mind, but I could imagine he's doing a similar thing, even if he is mistaken about OP's intentions.

Why are you wondering about random people at the gym?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous[b wrote:]I think people are being too harsh on OP. If somebody were nice to everybody else but actively went out of his way to ignore me, to the point where it was arguably rude, I'd wonder what the hell[/b] was going on too.

I used to have a crush on a guy who got a lot of attention from women, and I was not subtle about my feelings. He started ignored me. I got the hint, ignored him back, and got over my crush. We crossed paths a lot and became really close friends (aways platonic). He eventually said that he knew I was interested and he wanted to make clear that the feeling was not mutual.

Nobody knows for sure what's going on in this guy's mind, but I could imagine he's doing a similar thing, even if he is mistaken about OP's intentions.

He is not nice to everyone. He has a few select friends he more anyone is obligated to smile and say hi to you or op. Everyone is not your friend or obligated to be nor does the world revolve around you and your feelings. Most people learn this at the latest by 4 the grade you and op are well behind the curve, time to catch up.

OP has already acknowledged that this is her problem, not his, and that she needs to back off. I don’t know what you think you are adding to the discussion by continuing to pile on.

I don't know why you think it's your job to be the forum police. You ask a childish question don't be upset when you get called out on it and don't try to te others not to be " mean" to op by telling her she's acting like a child. You are t adding anything to the discussion thinking you are forum moderator and inf posters they are being to harsh.

Ah, got it. Beating up on OP is an ego thing for you. Carry on, if that’s what you need to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous[b wrote:]I think people are being too harsh on OP. If somebody were nice to everybody else but actively went out of his way to ignore me, to the point where it was arguably rude, I'd wonder what the hell[/b] was going on too.

I used to have a crush on a guy who got a lot of attention from women, and I was not subtle about my feelings. He started ignored me. I got the hint, ignored him back, and got over my crush. We crossed paths a lot and became really close friends (aways platonic). He eventually said that he knew I was interested and he wanted to make clear that the feeling was not mutual.

Nobody knows for sure what's going on in this guy's mind, but I could imagine he's doing a similar thing, even if he is mistaken about OP's intentions.

He is not nice to everyone. He has a few select friends he more anyone is obligated to smile and say hi to you or op. Everyone is not your friend or obligated to be nor does the world revolve around you and your feelings. Most people learn this at the latest by 4 the grade you and op are well behind the curve, time to catch up.

OP has already acknowledged that this is her problem, not his, and that she needs to back off. I don’t know what you think you are adding to the discussion by continuing to pile on.

I don't know why you think it's your job to be the forum police. You ask a childish question don't be upset when you get called out on it and don't try to te others not to be " mean" to op by telling her she's acting like a child. You are t adding anything to the discussion thinking you are forum moderator and inf posters they are being to harsh.

Ah, got it. Beating up on OP is an ego thing for you. Carry on, if that’s what you need to do.

Like you being mother superior is an ego thing for you, most people grow out of the teacher's pet thing too, again time to catch up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous[b wrote:]I think people are being too harsh on OP. If somebody were nice to everybody else but actively went out of his way to ignore me, to the point where it was arguably rude, I'd wonder what the hell[/b] was going on too.

I used to have a crush on a guy who got a lot of attention from women, and I was not subtle about my feelings. He started ignored me. I got the hint, ignored him back, and got over my crush. We crossed paths a lot and became really close friends (aways platonic). He eventually said that he knew I was interested and he wanted to make clear that the feeling was not mutual.

Nobody knows for sure what's going on in this guy's mind, but I could imagine he's doing a similar thing, even if he is mistaken about OP's intentions.

He is not nice to everyone. He has a few select friends he more anyone is obligated to smile and say hi to you or op. Everyone is not your friend or obligated to be nor does the world revolve around you and your feelings. Most people learn this at the latest by 4 the grade you and op are well behind the curve, time to catch up.

OP has already acknowledged that this is her problem, not his, and that she needs to back off. I don’t know what you think you are adding to the discussion by continuing to pile on.

I don't know why you think it's your job to be the forum police. You ask a childish question don't be upset when you get called out on it and don't try to te others not to be " mean" to op by telling her she's acting like a child. You are t adding anything to the discussion thinking you are forum moderator and inf posters they are being to harsh.

Ah, got it. Beating up on OP is an ego thing for you. Carry on, if that’s what you need to do.

Like you being mother superior is an ego thing for you, most people grow out of the teacher's pet thing too, again time to catch up.

You seem very defensive.