Got reported to child protection service

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Anonymous wrote:Is it cupping? I mean, they would definitely need to report that.

Oh, the heck they would. It’s obvious what cupping is.

This isn't cupping.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like cupping to me.

There are some who believe that cupping a baby's chest and back will help draw fluids out of the lungs and alleviate congestion. I texted my crunchy granola, hippie cousin who is an acupuncturist and who does cupping to ask her and that's what she said. She also said that if cupping an infant or toddler, the marks should never be deep purple like on an adult because light cupping should be done.

She said there's also something called gua sha where the skin is scrapped with spoons to cause petechiae. Several Asian cultures believe in the benefits of this she said, but she's never done it or heard of it done on young kids.

I suppose if OP is from a culture that relies on Eastern medicine practices, it would be part of their norm.

Please go back to page 3 and read. OP has already said it is NOT cupping. OP has not said for sure, but it sounds like it is coining, which is similar but not identical.

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I think you will have to just explain it to CPS. Did you do it yourself our have a traditional medicine practitioner do it? If you see a traditional medicine practitioner, try to have them talk to CPS for you.

I've worked overseas in Asian countries and cupping and rubbing coins on skin is very common. The first time I saw a small child with the bruising, I was stunned, but I actually came to get uses to seeing it.

I understand you are using what your own parents used on you to keep you well, and you are just trying to take care of your children with love. But deep purple bruises will result in lots of questions. Maybe stick with herbal remedies?

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Anonymous wrote:How inexperienced are they that they have never heard on mongolian spots!!

A cultural thing that good for health seems to imply it's something that was done to the child, not Mongolian spots that appear on an infant. Is cupping a cultural thing? This is very odd.

It seems like childcare did a good job in reporting.

Cupping is a cultural thing. So is coining. It's not abuse, and no they did not do a good job reporting if it is in fact that. TF.

No, they did a good job. It is the job of mandated reporters to report all bruising that fits certain criteria. These meet that criteria.

It is not the job of the mandated reporter to play detective or judge whether cupping/coining is abuse. That is the job of cps.

Understand the difference? Daycare did their job right here.

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Anonymous wrote:Just show them the cups. And maybe a picture of Michael Phelps and Gwenyth Paltrow with their cup marks. I'm a big fan of the cups for muscle pain.

Are you a big fan of cups for a kid young enough to be in daycare?

It’s a normal practice in many cultures.

Then maybe children of parents who want to cup should be sent to daycare in those cultures. It is not the culture in the US, where OP's child is attending daycare.

Its NOT cupping. How do you not get that? Maybe you should go through cultural competency training.

I don't need to. Anything that leaves bruises on young children is abusive in the United States. You don't get to maintain abusive practices from your "culture" when you move to another culture.

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Whatever it is OP, people from same culture can relate but this is America, try not to use it on children to avoid get into trouble.

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The xenophobia here is astounding. Gross

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Anonymous wrote:How inexperienced are they that they have never heard on mongolian spots!!

That's congenital and disappears by a certain age

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This is op. I did not know what that calls in English, and I google up, and yes, I did "coining". I was worried and left a message for the regular pediatrician to tell her what has happened and what I did. My kid does not take any herbal medicine and broths that I boiled for hours. I have not got any call from CPS, and I have learned my lesson. But you know what, coining does help to improve better health.

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My baby had Mongolian spots too. They look like bruises but aren't. I would retaliate against that daycare when this is all over.

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Oh, if it was coming the daycare is still being ignorant and insensitive to culture.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, if it was coming the daycare is still being ignorant and insensitive to culture.

OP should have explained. How on earth is someone expected to know what cupping and coining is if they are not from that culture?

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Cupping would hurt my daughter less than trying to brush out her hair in the morning! But no one would suggest I don't do it. And cupping has actually been found effective in a lot of ways, including to improve Covid vaccine delivery. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/could-cupping-technique-boost-vaccine-delivery

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, if it was coming the daycare is still being ignorant and insensitive to culture.

No the daycare is doing their job. They are mandated reporters. Failing to report large bruises on a child could result in them losing their jobs.

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Anonymous wrote:My baby had Mongolian spots too. They look like bruises but aren't. I would retaliate against that daycare when this is all over.

These were not Mongolian spots.

You’re going to retaliate against them for doing their jobs right and following the law?