Im down 16 lbs in the last month, and it didn't take a crash diet

[Anonymous]

OP here checking in. The haters are gonna enjoy this. Since the time I posted nearly a month ago, I'm the same weight despite continued workouts and mostly healthy eating. Right after I posted i had a 4 day trip to Vegas for a conference which included late nights, steak dinners, and alcohol. So I came back 5 lbs heavier and had to work it off. Our office repoened in November, so for the last couple weeks it has been more team dinners, happy hours, catered lunches, etc. Also, makes it harder to get a morning workout in when not working from home. And lastly, winter's coming here in chicago. less outdoor activity, more bundling up with hot chocolate in front of the fireplace.

Thanksgiving and December are going to be a challenge. As I said originally, i figured the first 15 were the easiest and now its wall-hitting time. Wish me luck (if you're not bitter)!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a mid-40's man. I am not fat and I am not thin. It is extremely difficult for me to lose weight. I can't cut mayo or fart and lose 10 pounds. I can't cut out soda and beer and lose 10 pounds. I can't lift weights and suffer through a caloric deficit....oh wait, I can and it's hard and I haven't lost nearly as much weight as the OP. I don't see myself as a failure even though I too would like to lose more weight.

I am still impressed by the OP. I am also impressed about all the other stories that I read in the Diet and Exercise forum of anyone who finds success in what they are doing. I can hate on them too but I won't. Everyone's journey has different struggles and different successes. For all the comparison haters out there (he's a man, he's not peri-menopausal, etc), walk your journey and cheer other people on because there are others that will cheer for you on your journey.

For all of you walking your own journey and finding your own success, I say press on and I will have a Kit Kat to celebrate your success (jk, jk)!

Pudgy man out!

OP here. Pudgy man, you da real MVP!

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Anonymous wrote:Good for you, OP! Keep it up.

-A non-bitter woman

NP. I'm not bitter. I think OP is doing great! Congrats, OP! But I also agree with the female PPs who said it's so hard as a perimenopausal/menopausal woman. I don't drink alcohol, eat dessert, etc., and at my height (5'3") have to really watch what I eat just not to gain.

then this thread is not for them. they can read it, realize it doesn't apply, refrain from posting deflecting and obnoxious comments and should start their own thread. JFC, why bring down someone who is just sharing what they've accomplished?

Because, JFC, OP thought he could come on here and humblebrag that he’s figured it all out, that no one’s ever tried the radical idea of veggies, exercising daily and reducing sweets. That in fact that normal weight perimenopausal/menopausal women have been doing that and more for their entire adult lives, so his little humble brag was just plug ignorant and stupid. Men drop weight far, far more easily than women. He offered nothing of usefulness but acted like it’s so obvious and don’t you silly little women know you don’t have to crash diet? It’s offensive. Good on him for discovering the bare minimum of guy weight loss and good for him for living in the body of a gender that actually gets lauded for grey hair and dad bods.

Exactly. And he did his mansplaining on a site primarily for middle-aged mothers (yeah, yeah, I know it's DCUM *and dads*, but we all know it's still mostly moms). We're allowed to be annoyed here.

should then advertise the site as only for pseudo-woke female snowflakes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here checking in. The haters are gonna enjoy this. Since the time I posted nearly a month ago, I'm the same weight despite continued workouts and mostly healthy eating. Right after I posted i had a 4 day trip to Vegas for a conference which included late nights, steak dinners, and alcohol. So I came back 5 lbs heavier and had to work it off. Our office repoened in November, so for the last couple weeks it has been more team dinners, happy hours, catered lunches, etc. Also, makes it harder to get a morning workout in when not working from home. And lastly, winter's coming here in chicago. less outdoor activity, more bundling up with hot chocolate in front of the fireplace.

Thanksgiving and December are going to be a challenge. As I said originally, i figured the first 15 were the easiest and now its wall-hitting time. Wish me luck (if you're not bitter)!

just keep going OP!!

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Anonymous wrote:Good for you, OP! Keep it up.

-A non-bitter woman

NP. I'm not bitter. I think OP is doing great! Congrats, OP! But I also agree with the female PPs who said it's so hard as a perimenopausal/menopausal woman. I don't drink alcohol, eat dessert, etc., and at my height (5'3") have to really watch what I eat just not to gain.

then this thread is not for them. they can read it, realize it doesn't apply, refrain from posting deflecting and obnoxious comments and should start their own thread. JFC, why bring down someone who is just sharing what they've accomplished?

Because, JFC, OP thought he could come on here and humblebrag that he’s figured it all out, that no one’s ever tried the radical idea of veggies, exercising daily and reducing sweets. That in fact that normal weight perimenopausal/menopausal women have been doing that and more for their entire adult lives, so his little humble brag was just plug ignorant and stupid. Men drop weight far, far more easily than women. He offered nothing of usefulness but acted like it’s so obvious and don’t you silly little women know you don’t have to crash diet? It’s offensive. Good on him for discovering the bare minimum of guy weight loss and good for him for living in the body of a gender that actually gets lauded for grey hair and dad bods.

Exactly. And he did his mansplaining on a site primarily for middle-aged mothers (yeah, yeah, I know it's DCUM *and dads*, but we all know it's still mostly moms). We're allowed to be annoyed here.

should then advertise the site as only for pseudo-woke female snowflakes

Go away, misogynist.

[Anonymous]

I am a menopausal woman who has been struggling to lose 15-20 lbs for close to a decade now, and I’m horrified by the OP-bashing here. This is an open forum and men should feel as free to post as women. The fact that OP came across as a bit clueless in his first post—likely because he’s new to this whole weight loss gig—is no reason to attack him. There is no rule on here that you are only allowed to post diet tips that middle-aged women will find helpful, and in my opinion there should be a a community standard that we support all posters on their own personal health and fitness journeys.

This has always been one of the more positive forums on DCUM, and I hope posters will do more to keep it that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here checking in. The haters are gonna enjoy this. Since the time I posted nearly a month ago, I'm the same weight despite continued workouts and mostly healthy eating. Right after I posted i had a 4 day trip to Vegas for a conference which included late nights, steak dinners, and alcohol. So I came back 5 lbs heavier and had to work it off. Our office repoened in November, so for the last couple weeks it has been more team dinners, happy hours, catered lunches, etc. Also, makes it harder to get a morning workout in when not working from home. And lastly, winter's coming here in chicago. less outdoor activity, more bundling up with hot chocolate in front of the fireplace.

Thanksgiving and December are going to be a challenge. As I said originally, i figured the first 15 were the easiest and now its wall-hitting time. Wish me luck (if you're not bitter)!

No one hates you, Dude. You're accomplishing your goals, which, sincerely, is great. Your experience just doesn't scan to almost any middle-aged woman of average height. Your title-- as advice, and not merely a statement of fact (which wouldn't be that exciting or relevant for people not your friends or relatives)-- implies it's not necessary to crash diet to lose 16 lbs in a month. All most people are saying is, okay, sure, if you meet at least one, and preferably more, of the following qualifications:

-Male
-Tall
-Have "a lot of weight to lose"-- like 40+ lbs, preferably more
-Have really bad habits prior to losing weight-- like you drink a 12-pack of Coke a day
-Make multiple MAJOR changes at once (and this one is not usually sufficient without one of the above), including something like hiring a f/t personal trainer

Most of us don't fall into any of the first 4 categories, and the last one, again, is not sufficient.

"The recipe is simple and something we all know - Caloric deficit."

I mean, thanks?

Again, great for you-- honestly. For most people here, the changes you made are either not possible, because they aren't there to make (they already drink <1 alcoholic drink/day, they already exercise daily, they don't snack after dinner) or they are possible, but won't result in more than maybe 4-5 lbs lost in a month. Which is fine! But your title implies you didn't realize how reasonable it would be for a 200+-lb, 6-ft+ tall man with subpar habits to lose this much weight, this quickly. Or that you thought this would be new information to what is mostly a bunch of 30-50-year-old moms.

I do wish you the best on your journey. This just isn't the best audience. Unless you thrive on "proving" something to "haters," in which case, you've set yourself up nicely here.

Signed,
Bitter Harpie Hater

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here checking in. The haters are gonna enjoy this. Since the time I posted nearly a month ago, I'm the same weight despite continued workouts and mostly healthy eating. Right after I posted i had a 4 day trip to Vegas for a conference which included late nights, steak dinners, and alcohol. So I came back 5 lbs heavier and had to work it off. Our office repoened in November, so for the last couple weeks it has been more team dinners, happy hours, catered lunches, etc. Also, makes it harder to get a morning workout in when not working from home. And lastly, winter's coming here in chicago. less outdoor activity, more bundling up with hot chocolate in front of the fireplace.

Thanksgiving and December are going to be a challenge. As I said originally, i figured the first 15 were the easiest and now its wall-hitting time. Wish me luck (if you're not bitter)!

No one hates you, Dude. You're accomplishing your goals, which, sincerely, is great. Your experience just doesn't scan to almost any middle-aged woman of average height. Your title-- as advice, and not merely a statement of fact (which wouldn't be that exciting or relevant for people not your friends or relatives)-- implies it's not necessary to crash diet to lose 16 lbs in a month. All most people are saying is, okay, sure, if you meet at least one, and preferably more, of the following qualifications:

-Male
-Tall
-Have "a lot of weight to lose"-- like 40+ lbs, preferably more
-Have really bad habits prior to losing weight-- like you drink a 12-pack of Coke a day
-Make multiple MAJOR changes at once (and this one is not usually sufficient without one of the above), including something like hiring a f/t personal trainer

Most of us don't fall into any of the first 4 categories, and the last one, again, is not sufficient.

"The recipe is simple and something we all know - Caloric deficit."

I mean, thanks?

Again, great for you-- honestly. For most people here, the changes you made are either not possible, because they aren't there to make (they already drink <1 alcoholic drink/day, they already exercise daily, they don't snack after dinner) or they are possible, but won't result in more than maybe 4-5 lbs lost in a month. Which is fine! But your title implies you didn't realize how reasonable it would be for a 200+-lb, 6-ft+ tall man with subpar habits to lose this much weight, this quickly. Or that you thought this would be new information to what is mostly a bunch of 30-50-year-old moms.

I do wish you the best on your journey. This just isn't the best audience. Unless you thrive on "proving" something to "haters," in which case, you've set yourself up nicely here.

Signed,
Bitter Harpie Hater

Its just funny how so many women here bash the OP for not understanding what its like to be a menopausal/petite/middle aged/whatever woman, but on the flip side they assume they know about his journey and that its so easy. Maybe he's been struggling for years to take even 15 lbs off at his 200+ lb weight? The problem is everyone thinks his post is about them, when its not. its about him and only him

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Anonymous wrote:Reading this is not motivating for my peri-menopausal self who has done all that to lose one pound during the last month(minus cheat meals). But congrats!

I was thinking the same. Men have no idea

Have you been doing all those things? post your MFP stats so we can see the exercise and caloric intake.

I have. And, the loss is extremely slow. ONLY differences between what you describe and what I do: (1) I do the PZ challenge, not the discover program, (2) I also am doing a peloton running program (just moved from the intro to get back into it to the 5k program, and (3) I'm a petite female. #3 is the big difference, and you cant possibly compare the situations.