Plan to formula feed - how to handle with pushy LCs, nurses
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Anonymous
| I will be formula feeding my baby (gasp!). My first baby I nursed as best I could, but found all the LC and nurses super pushy (at GW). How’ve others handled this? Especially at “baby friendly” hospitals? I don’t care if they are judgey but I don’t want to be asked every 2 hours if I’ve been nursing. |
Anonymous
| At the hospital, I'd request a sign on your door that says you're FF. |
Anonymous
| Some people will say this is douchey, but I'd bring a little sign that says "I'm not nursing, please don't ask." and put it on the door. |
Anonymous
I think it is fine. The time after you give birth tends to be exhausting and emotional, so do whatever you need to do for your sanity. |
Anonymous
| PP here adding that the more I think about it, the better the sign sounds. I didn't have this particular issue, but I had a nurse who was very disapproving of me having my son circumcised. In that moment, her disapproval was very traumatic and I still get angry thinking about it. Don't worry about how it will look. |
Anonymous
| Put a sign in your room. |
Anonymous
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A couple of things from a former L&D nurse.
Bring a magnetic clip or magnet to hold up the sign. Tape is sometimes not allowed. They may say you cant hang anything outside the door. Hang it on something in the room. Say you don't want to see an LC. If one comes, say you don't need anything from her, thank you. Then ask the nurse if it could be noted in your chart that you don't want an LC coming by |
Anonymous
Sorry hit submit. Also, you may find yourself more sensitive because of hormones and knowing your choices may not be what's currently popular. Most of the nurses I worked with dont care about FF/breast or circumcised or not. If you feel like one is being a jerk to you about it, request a different nurse. |
Anonymous
| Honestly OP I found the nurses, LCs, etc very pushy and unpleasant the first time around (although I really wanted to nurse), and I think for a second delivery I'll just ignore them or politely tell them I've got a plan. Part of the problem as a FTM was just feeling so out of my depth that it was like I had to let anyone with any iota of authority bully me or I was somehow endangering my baby. I now know that I can keep a baby alive so I don't think I'll be as vulnerable to pushy people. |
Anonymous
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This is such an ignorant question that comes up often from expecting mothers that clearly have some unresolved feelings about their choice to FF their baby.
No one cares what you do. No one is going to pressure you. Just state you are not breastfeeding. Really it's quite simple without your (gasp!) histrionics. |
Anonymous
This post is not only bitchy, it's false. I breastfed and I was still got the "you're not going to ask for FORMULA, are you?" treatment at GW when it wasn't going well. There is pressure in certain quarters, OP experienced it the first time around herself. |
Anonymous
| They’ll be more on top of you if you’re attempting it, if you just say no thanks they’ll move on. |
Anonymous
| OP here. Thanks all (minus one). I thought about a sign, wasn’t sure if ppl actual did that. I appreciate the reassurance and insight. |
Anonymous
Agree with all of the posters who mentioned making a sign for your door. When I was in PP Recovery with my first I saw a few signs noting "No Male Staff" as well. Congrats OP! Also is there a specific brand of formula you like or prefer? I plan to combo feed my DD when she arrives. |
Anonymous
| Bring formula. |