Golf Widows
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Anonymous
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Hi! Can't resurrect the old thread on this so starting a new one....
UGH! My husband is married to his handicap. All our holiday weekends, including this past 4th, revolve around golf. Early close on Thursday, straight to the driving range then "socially distant beers" at his best friends house. Friday 36 holes, then beers with his golf buddies. Saturday sat around and grilled what I bought for dinner, no holiday memory making or planning. Sunday morning early round of golf then took our DS to play 9 in the afternoon. This is psycho right?! I am a SAHM and he says I have fun every day doing what I love, spending time with our children, and shop and drink rose starting at 3:30 (all true!) but that's not an excuse for him to basically just show up for me and the kids when it's convenient for him? He can't figure out how to plan us a family vacation or activity, but can plan a golf trip with friends months in advance, scheduled perfectly, and weekends at his parents. I am SO OVER IT! Gave him hell all night last night. He makes a lot of money and I'm living a dream life, but feel very jealous that he is having so much fun, and has got "it all figured out!". I kind of feel chumped. I need to figure out a way to make this work. Any advice? |
Anonymous
| You need a hobby |
Anonymous
| Deal with it or move on. Golf is his mistress and he prefers it over you and/or the kids. My dad was the same fwiw. My mom dealt with it by doing her own things. Find a hobby. Seriously. Take your kids to a camp for a few weeks and do your thing. If not, you’ll eventually resent your kids. Seriously. I was a SAHM for a decade. I know your feelings. My DH is cheating on me with another sport (not golf). I was getting annoyed. I got a PT job when my youngest were in upper ES. Best thing I ever did! I started going out after work every so often. DH has to step up to the plate. Good luck. But honestly deal with it or make a change. |
Anonymous
| OP here, I had tennis, society functions, wine nights with my friends, a pt job wfh. All cancelled right now. So this is coming back to a head. Still doesn't change holiday weekends that suck! |
Anonymous
| I would hate that. I’m so glad my DH isn’t into sports. Sorry, but sounds like you have a charming life otherwise. |
Anonymous
| Omg, “society functions.” You do live a charmed life. |
Anonymous
| Read a book. Volunteer, preferably at a homeless or women’s shelter. You will feel better real quick. |
Anonymous
| I can’t believe you PPs are taking this “society troll’s” post seriously. |
Anonymous
Op here- ok maybe “society” was the wrong word. It’s a museum association. |
Anonymous
| I see this quite often at our club among the younger fathers those 35-45. Many end up divorced. I’m so lucky that my husband only played tennis and he would play very early and be home by 10am. He took up golf when he was 50 and our youngest was 15. I worked full time so there was no way he was going to abandon me on weekends. If he had been a golfer in the early years I would have been OK with one round early in the morning and be home at noon. Also, I would have been happy if he played 9 holes with one of the children. |
Anonymous
I dunno, I feel like the houses in this area are an indication of how wealthy and spoiled people around here are. |
Anonymous
She starts drinking rose wine at 3:30? Lol. |
Anonymous
My one glass I sip from 3:30-5:30 while cooking and having dinner w kids! I am not a big drinker. |
Anonymous
Did he plan things for the family to do together? Did you have other couple/family friends? |
Anonymous
OK, Susie. |