Golf Widows

Anonymous
I don’t know why this guy is not concerned with COVID. Maybe he thinks rich white people can’t get it. Let’s dismiss this for a minute.

This is such bullshit. Here is what I would do. Hire a nice nanny/Housekeeper and work the shit out of that credit card on a daily basis, clothes, shoes, makeup, facials, hair, massage, mani, pedi, lunches, breakfasts, etc. like it is your job. Get a cabana at a fancy hotel or club and lounge there when you are not shopping, play some tennis, get spa treatments, swimming, sauna, wet sauna, etc. At night, go out for nice dinners, frozen yogurt, movies, visit family and friends for the weekend, plan little vacations with them.

Spend lots of money and let him be the shopping widow. Let that little bitch gets a taste of his own medicine.

When he calls do not answer the phone. Wait for a couple of calls and then have a quick conversation and hang up and say I’m busy gotta go.

Get it girl!
Anonymous
You have 3 children at drink wine starting at 3?
Anonymous
Another golf "widow" here. COVID has made things worse because now, instead of playing 2x a week, he is playing 4-5x a week!

And it's not just the time spent on the golf course. It's also the 1 hour each way to get to the golf course and the drinks and dinner afterwards. I never know what time to have dinner ready because he comes home at a different time depending on when he finishes his game.

When my DC was young, I used to resent the constant absence on weekends. Now, I don't care if he's gone because I no longer have a lot of interest in spending time with him ,but I think he may come to regret it because DC is off to college soon. And DH will never get that lost time back.
Anonymous
It does sound excessive, but honestly, the chosen activity could be worse. So talk to him about scheduling a weekly family activity as well as a weekly date time and just generally thinking more about his family.
Anonymous
Yes, I used to spend a lot of time "golfing" with my "buddy" too.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:You have 3 children at drink wine starting at 3?


She has a glass of wine while she is making dinner.

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I wish my husband and son would golf more - our club membership has barely been used this year...

Oh, poor you. While others are barely able to their pay bills, you’re complaining about DH and son not playing golf more and your club membership has barely been used this year. You’re almost as bad as Kanye West boasting about Kim K’s financial success amid the coronavirus pandemic.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:1. It is highly offensive to actual widows when people call themselves golf/ffotballl/bowling widows.

2. My brother is like this, except he plays nearly every day. He is a narcissist and divorced.

Have you ever tried playing with him? What does he do in the winter?


Shhhh... Next thing you know, our Princess OP will be calling herself a “weekend single mom.”

+1
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:1. It is highly offensive to actual widows when people call themselves golf/ffotballl/bowling widows.

2. My brother is like this, except he plays nearly every day. He is a narcissist and divorced.

Have you ever tried playing with him? What does he do in the winter?


Shhhh... Next thing you know, our Princess OP will be calling herself a “weekend single mom.”

+1


What makes her a princess? Because she is a SAHM? Because she drinks a glass of wine in the afternoon? Because her husband golfs?

Is every SAHM who has a drink during the day and a husband who likes to golf a princess? Because I can think of a few who are not.
Anonymous
I LOVE that my DH heads out to play golf early in the mornings- the kids and I sleep in, leisurely have my coffee and putz around. He has played since we started dating 20 years ago. I love the guy but I especially like that he plays during the CV as we are together working out of the house all day long....
Anonymous
Put on a sexy golf outfit and go join him.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Put on a sexy golf outfit and go join him.


Yes, your outfit should definitely be sexy, OP. I'm sure your DH makes a similar effort to wear sexy clothes when he goes golfing.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:It does sound excessive, but honestly, the chosen activity could be worse. So talk to him about scheduling a weekly family activity as well as a weekly date time and just generally thinking more about his family.


I wish it was that easy. OP here and I’m back and still alone/lonely. Sometimes I get optimistic and plan things but he’s generally tired on the Saturdays he’s home because he’s been golfing and drinking and working long hours. I’m trying to resign myself to this, but it’s heartbreaking. It’s one of those things like sure I could try and join him, and dress hot, or be “cool” about it. But what does he actually want?? A lazy Saturday at the house with takeout. And to let loose with his buddies every other chance he gets.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Be glad it’s golf he’s addicted to and not something dangerous like mountain-climbing.


OP here I actually love mountain climbing.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why this guy is not concerned with COVID. Maybe he thinks rich white people can’t get it. Let’s dismiss this for a minute.

This is such bullshit. Here is what I would do. Hire a nice nanny/Housekeeper and work the shit out of that credit card on a daily basis, clothes, shoes, makeup, facials, hair, massage, mani, pedi, lunches, breakfasts, etc. like it is your job. Get a cabana at a fancy hotel or club and lounge there when you are not shopping, play some tennis, get spa treatments, swimming, sauna, wet sauna, etc. At night, go out for nice dinners, frozen yogurt, movies, visit family and friends for the weekend, plan little vacations with them.

Spend lots of money and let him be the shopping widow. Let that little bitch gets a taste of his own medicine.

When he calls do not answer the phone. Wait for a couple of calls and then have a quick conversation and hang up and say I’m busy gotta go.

Get it girl!


Op here. I do plenty of shopping. But it’s an empty existence. I’ve played the “busy” game too. If it’s not genuine it’s not fulfilling.
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