How to be the "hang out house"

[Anonymous]

For those of who are the neighborhood/school/friend group hang out house how did it happen? Did you do anything?

When kids are right age and we aren't in quarantine. (Years away) we want to be the cool house. The house everyone hangs out at. My house growing up was the complete opposite because of my mother. She never welcomed anyone.

Provide snacks? Have a pool? Big house? Have an outgoing kid? Be fun or hands off?

What is the magic to getting all the kids at your house?

[Anonymous]

You can’t have a pool and be hands off

[Anonymous]

Pool, basement with lots of couches and gaming system, good snacks. Snacks for sure.

[Anonymous]

You honestly can’t control all of it and you don’t know what kind of personality your kids will have but I agree I would definitely not get a pool because that is a lot of responsibility and work.

But when my kids hang out it’s because the household is relaxed the kids have things they want to do including indoor and outdoor things and always a lot of good snacks

Also I get to know the kids and I’m nice with them and they also seem to like my dogs

But also I leave them alone to do their own thing and I don’t micromanage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pool, basement with lots of couches and gaming system, good snacks. Snacks for sure.

Snacks we can do!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You honestly can’t control all of it and you don’t know what kind of personality your kids will have but I agree I would definitely not get a pool because that is a lot of responsibility and work.

But when my kids hang out it’s because the household is relaxed the kids have things they want to do including indoor and outdoor things and always a lot of good snacks

Also I get to know the kids and I’m nice with them and they also seem to like my dogs

But also I leave them alone to do their own thing and I don’t micromanage

Relaxed! I like that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can’t have a pool and be hands off

It was two different examples.

I don't want a pool. Money pit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can’t have a pool and be hands off

It was two different examples.

I don't want a pool. Money pit.

We have had an in ground pool for decades and it is not a mo ey pit. We know how to open and close pool as well as normal upkeep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those of who are the neighborhood/school/friend group hang out house how did it happen? Did you do anything?

When kids are right age and we aren't in quarantine. (Years away) we want to be the cool house. The house everyone hangs out at. My house growing up was the complete opposite because of my mother. She never welcomed anyone.

Provide snacks? Have a pool? Big house? Have an outgoing kid? Be fun or hands off?

What is the magic to getting all the kids at your house?

Be absent. Don’t be around at all.

[Anonymous]

In this day and age, you are asking for trouble and liability for trying to ensure that you're the hang out house. I understand why you are envisioning this, but be careful what you wish for.

Why do I envision OP wearing a pink velor track suit saying "she's a cool mom"? Ha!

[Anonymous]

Charlie Brown parents. Just be ready to get sued.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In this day and age, you are asking for trouble and liability for trying to ensure that you're the hang out house. I understand why you are envisioning this, but be careful what you wish for.

Why do I envision OP wearing a pink velor track suit saying "she's a cool mom"? Ha!

Oh, for Pete's sake. Are you always this much fun?

OP is right. SOMEONE's house will be the hangout house. Why not make it your's?

OP, in my experience, it has a lot to do with proximity. My kids are in private schools so their friends live all over. Our house is closest to the school, though, which has helped a lot in making it a hangout house.

[Anonymous]

Get MILFY

[Anonymous]

in my experience, unlimited good snacks and game consoles in a separate hang out spot (eg, basement, kid’s room, etc) is all it takes.

[Anonymous]

You honestly can’t control all of it ...

The bad news is: in many instances it is because the parents are not around. Not what you want to hear. But truth.