Man asked woman to leash her dog in a public park -- she called the police on him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She was wrong. And he did bait her. What she did after the bait though is all on her.

Thank you! I've been thinking about this too much during the last day. Every long-winded thought I've had basically boils down to this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not defending her, but...

I feel like this woman would have gone bananas with *anyone* who criticized her for letting her dog run unleashed. Man, woman, child, black, white or whatever: her reaction would have been the same.

Some people are short-fused and defensive...especially in NYC.

Yet in this incident she went straight to weaponizing his race and gender against him. There is a long history of black men being killed after being accused by white women and she knew it. That's why she was specific in telling HIM that when she called the police she would tell them he's black. She reminded him of his race as a warning that she was going to weaponize it against him if he didn't mind his place.

[Anonymous]

For the people in the back...you dont know what Amy Cooper would have done in any situation other than what we see in the video. Your constant speculation over what she might have done in this situation or that is neither here nor there. Please ask yourself why you want to talk about everything but what happened here right in front of your eyes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She was wrong. And he did bait her. What she did after the bait though is all on her.

Thank you! I've been thinking about this too much during the last day. Every long-winded thought I've had basically boils down to this.

Have you watched the video? He didn't bait her. He asked her respectfully to leash her dog--in an area where leashes were required.

He took the video for self-protection because he knew yahoos like you would believe her account that he was being aggressive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She was wrong. And he did bait her. What she did after the bait though is all on her.

Thank you! I've been thinking about this too much during the last day. Every long-winded thought I've had basically boils down to this.

Asking her to follow the law IS NOT BAIT. It's seriously nauseating the number of posters who have openly expressed the idea that this black man CAUSED her racism by speaking up. What is wrong with you people???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She was wrong. And he did bait her. What she did after the bait though is all on her.

I am an Asian-American, and I am thinking that telling someone to follow the rules is not baiting them. In our school, entitled parents whose kids misbehave in classrooms don't like when the teachers tell their kids to follow the rule. The teachers are not baiting the misbehaving kids but the parents find it inappropriate.

But, see - I am from a culture where rule following is instilled in us so that society does not descend into chaos.

Can someone clue me into the mindset of this White woman that she found it unbearable to take directions from a Black man? I feel that if a burly White man would have told her to leash her dog, she would have. I feel even if a puny White man would have told her to leash the dog she would have.

Am I having an epiphany here?

the bait thing is because of what he said about her dog. "you won't like i[what I'm going to do to your dog]" or something like that. The exchange is on his tweet. And I guess the filming her was also part of the bait. He did it, but that does not excuse her behavior.

[Anonymous]

All the people defending the woman for not leashing her dog, would you still be defending her actions if it was a pit bull?

Yeah, I didn't think so.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not defending her, but...

I feel like this woman would have gone bananas with *anyone* who criticized her for letting her dog run unleashed. Man, woman, child, black, white or whatever: her reaction would have been the same.

Some people are short-fused and defensive...especially in NYC.

So you think if a white man was asking her to leash her dog she would have called the cops and said and african american man is threatening her? She would have said a white male? Really?

I think she still would have gone bananas and escalated the situation. Absolutely.

Do you really think she would have smiled and said, “Whoops! My bad! Sorry” and leashed the dog without being defensive? No way.

Lots of people thrive on aggression. Some seek it out; others quickly engage and escalate. This is a personality trait/character flaw. It’s why we have anger management therapy.

Is she racist? Yep. But the encounter would have been very similar with anyone—including a white woman or a teenager.

No it would not have. You're missing WHY this was so egregious. Sure, she would have thrown a hiss fit with anyone, but she escalated to a place where she put this man's LIFE in danger. She would not and could not have done that to a white person. THAT is what is disgusting. Without that element, this is just run of the mill asshole behavior.

I’m guessing you’ve never seen white people go bananas at each other before? It happens. It escalates, sometimes they fight and pull hair, and sometimes they threaten to call the cops. Thanks to cell phones, it gets captured for the world to see.

I get that she made it racial. But I still think she would have gone bananas regardless, and she might have called the cops.

I am white. I was hit by a white woman on a bicycle. It was her fault (I was in my car stopped at a traffic light). She flipped out and threatened to call the cops. I actually did call the police because her bike damaged my car and I was worried that she might have hit her head. It wasn’t racial; she was just a lunatic. (She told the police officer that she was just upset because she was late for her therapy appointment.)

what you are missing is that this has happened to you ... once, a long time ago.

black people have to deal with this type of stuff on a regular basis... daily, weekly, monthly

You also were an equal (or even better than) the person who went crazy on you, the cops show up and they believe both of you or manybe just you since the other woman ... is going to therapy.

But when police take a report from a white woman and a black man they assume the white woman is telling the truth and the black man is lying.

Sigh. Exhausting.

Yes, we all get that. We understand.

I’m merely responding to the posters who erroneously believe this woman only acted this way because he was black. I disagree. I think she is prone to aggression and would have lashed out any anyone who chastised her for letting her dog run free. Anyone.

Some posters seem to think she would have easily accepted criticism from a white person. I’m telling you that’s not true. Aggressive white people don’t care what color your skin is; they look for fights.

No need to explain the system to me. I get it. But perhaps you need to understand that there’s way more going on here than just racism. This woman has issues and would have flipped out if a white kid chastised her—or a little old lady.

Yes, we get it. You want to use the mentally ill defense, and it's exhausting to be told no. We don't know what this woman would have done in another situation. WE DON'T KNOW. What we know is what she did in this situation. And what she did was incredibly racist and dangerous. Stop trying to find reasons for why it's not.

I am not defending her. I don’t think she’s mentally ill. I’m using crazy/bananas loosely, not as a medical diagnosis FFS.

I said she’s a racist. (BTW, everyone is. Everyone has a bias. Everyone including people of color. The difference between good people and bad people is good people check their racism/bias and catch themselves before acting out.)

I just think it’s weird that anyone would believe this obviously entitled, aggressive woman would have acted nicely/normally with a white person. I mean, we have video evidence that she is prone to aggression.

The pp by the Asian-American confirms that some people really believe all white people get along and treat each other with respect. At the risk of pointing out the obvious, they don’t.

I believe this falls under the umbrella of “Bit$hes be trippin’. Crazy aggression transcends race.

Again (since you can’t see past your singular fixation): I am not defending her. Rather, I’m dispelling the myth that she would have treated any other critic better. Had it been a white woman, I bet she would have called her a C and possibly physically attacked her. Have you ever watched any of the Real Housewives shows? Heck, the Family Guy did a segment on this sort of thing with women brawling at a baseball game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She was wrong. And he did bait her. What she did after the bait though is all on her.

I am an Asian-American, and I am thinking that telling someone to follow the rules is not baiting them. In our school, entitled parents whose kids misbehave in classrooms don't like when the teachers tell their kids to follow the rule. The teachers are not baiting the misbehaving kids but the parents find it inappropriate.

But, see - I am from a culture where rule following is instilled in us so that society does not descend into chaos.

Can someone clue me into the mindset of this White woman that she found it unbearable to take directions from a Black man? I feel that if a burly White man would have told her to leash her dog, she would have. I feel even if a puny White man would have told her to leash the dog she would have.

Am I having an epiphany here?

the bait thing is because of what he said about her dog. "you won't like i[what I'm going to do to your dog]" or something like that. The exchange is on his tweet. And I guess the filming her was also part of the bait. He did it, but that does not excuse her behavior.

If he threatened her dog, then isn’t it normal to be frightened?

Forget what happens before or after the threat. Isn’t the threat alone reasonable to prompt fear?

A normal person would have grabbed the dog and left.

An aggressive crazy person stays and escalates the situation with the stranger threatening your dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She was wrong. And he did bait her. What she did after the bait though is all on her.

Thank you! I've been thinking about this too much during the last day. Every long-winded thought I've had basically boils down to this.

Asking her to follow the law IS NOT BAIT. It's seriously nauseating the number of posters who have openly expressed the idea that this black man CAUSED her racism by speaking up. What is wrong with you people???

Whoa! Not saying that at all. She is a racist. No question about that at all. And she acted like a lunatic when she could have just leashed the dog and walked away. But he did bait her; not by asking her to leash the dog. He baited her during the subsequent exchange. But to be clear, it doesn't matter that he baited her. I'm glad he did it and exposed her.

[Anonymous]

Not defending her, but...

I feel like this woman would have gone bananas with *anyone* who criticized her for letting her dog run unleashed. Man, woman, child, black, white or whatever: her reaction would have been the same.

Some people are short-fused and defensive...especially in NYC.

But she mentioned over and over again in the call to the police that he was "African American," which is very telling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She was wrong. And he did bait her. What she did after the bait though is all on her.

I am an Asian-American, and I am thinking that telling someone to follow the rules is not baiting them. In our school, entitled parents whose kids misbehave in classrooms don't like when the teachers tell their kids to follow the rule. The teachers are not baiting the misbehaving kids but the parents find it inappropriate.

But, see - I am from a culture where rule following is instilled in us so that society does not descend into chaos.

Can someone clue me into the mindset of this White woman that she found it unbearable to take directions from a Black man? I feel that if a burly White man would have told her to leash her dog, she would have. I feel even if a puny White man would have told her to leash the dog she would have.

Am I having an epiphany here?

the bait thing is because of what he said about her dog. "you won't like i[what I'm going to do to your dog]" or something like that. The exchange is on his tweet. And I guess the filming her was also part of the bait. He did it, but that does not excuse her behavior.

I think he warned her that he will videotape her. That is what he meant that "you won't like what I will do". She says that she will call the police and he says "please do". Then she says that she will say that he was attacking her and he says that she can say whatever she wants to say.

No. I do not think he was baiting her. He gave her a warning that he will videotape that her dog is not on leash. And then when she keep threatening him with police (really? because they are White assassins and musclemen? this woman's threat of police racist violence is not an endorsement that the cops want to have. ) and with false allegations, he does not get angry and says that she can do whatever she wants to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She was wrong. And he did bait her. What she did after the bait though is all on her.

I am an Asian-American, and I am thinking that telling someone to follow the rules is not baiting them. In our school, entitled parents whose kids misbehave in classrooms don't like when the teachers tell their kids to follow the rule. The teachers are not baiting the misbehaving kids but the parents find it inappropriate.

But, see - I am from a culture where rule following is instilled in us so that society does not descend into chaos.

Can someone clue me into the mindset of this White woman that she found it unbearable to take directions from a Black man? I feel that if a burly White man would have told her to leash her dog, she would have. I feel even if a puny White man would have told her to leash the dog she would have.

Am I having an epiphany here?

the bait thing is because of what he said about her dog. "you won't like i[what I'm going to do to your dog]" or something like that. The exchange is on his tweet. And I guess the filming her was also part of the bait. He did it, but that does not excuse her behavior.

If he threatened her dog, then isn’t it normal to be frightened?

Forget what happens before or after the threat. Isn’t the threat alone reasonable to prompt fear?

A normal person would have grabbed the dog and left.

An aggressive crazy person stays and escalates the situation with the stranger threatening your dog.

Yes, she is aggressive, crazy, racist and entitled. She has them all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not defending her, but...

I feel like this woman would have gone bananas with *anyone* who criticized her for letting her dog run unleashed. Man, woman, child, black, white or whatever: her reaction would have been the same.

Some people are short-fused and defensive...especially in NYC.

So you think if a white man was asking her to leash her dog she would have called the cops and said and african american man is threatening her? She would have said a white male? Really?

I think she still would have gone bananas and escalated the situation. Absolutely.

Do you really think she would have smiled and said, “Whoops! My bad! Sorry” and leashed the dog without being defensive? No way.

Lots of people thrive on aggression. Some seek it out; others quickly engage and escalate. This is a personality trait/character flaw. It’s why we have anger management therapy.

Is she racist? Yep. But the encounter would have been very similar with anyone—including a white woman or a teenager.

No it would not have. You're missing WHY this was so egregious. Sure, she would have thrown a hiss fit with anyone, but she escalated to a place where she put this man's LIFE in danger. She would not and could not have done that to a white person. THAT is what is disgusting. Without that element, this is just run of the mill asshole behavior.

I’m guessing you’ve never seen white people go bananas at each other before? It happens. It escalates, sometimes they fight and pull hair, and sometimes they threaten to call the cops. Thanks to cell phones, it gets captured for the world to see.

I get that she made it racial. But I still think she would have gone bananas regardless, and she might have called the cops.

I am white. I was hit by a white woman on a bicycle. It was her fault (I was in my car stopped at a traffic light). She flipped out and threatened to call the cops. I actually did call the police because her bike damaged my car and I was worried that she might have hit her head. It wasn’t racial; she was just a lunatic. (She told the police officer that she was just upset because she was late for her therapy appointment.)

what you are missing is that this has happened to you ... once, a long time ago.

black people have to deal with this type of stuff on a regular basis... daily, weekly, monthly

You also were an equal (or even better than) the person who went crazy on you, the cops show up and they believe both of you or manybe just you since the other woman ... is going to therapy.

But when police take a report from a white woman and a black man they assume the white woman is telling the truth and the black man is lying.

Sigh. Exhausting.

Yes, we all get that. We understand.

I’m merely responding to the posters who erroneously believe this woman only acted this way because he was black. I disagree. I think she is prone to aggression and would have lashed out any anyone who chastised her for letting her dog run free. Anyone.

Some posters seem to think she would have easily accepted criticism from a white person. I’m telling you that’s not true. Aggressive white people don’t care what color your skin is; they look for fights.

No need to explain the system to me. I get it. But perhaps you need to understand that there’s way more going on here than just racism. This woman has issues and would have flipped out if a white kid chastised her—or a little old lady.

Yes, we get it. You want to use the mentally ill defense, and it's exhausting to be told no. We don't know what this woman would have done in another situation. WE DON'T KNOW. What we know is what she did in this situation. And what she did was incredibly racist and dangerous. Stop trying to find reasons for why it's not.

I am not defending her. I don’t think she’s mentally ill. I’m using crazy/bananas loosely, not as a medical diagnosis FFS.

I said she’s a racist. (BTW, everyone is. Everyone has a bias. Everyone including people of color. The difference between good people and bad people is good people check their racism/bias and catch themselves before acting out.)

I just think it’s weird that anyone would believe this obviously entitled, aggressive woman would have acted nicely/normally with a white person. I mean, we have video evidence that she is prone to aggression.

The pp by the Asian-American confirms that some people really believe all white people get along and treat each other with respect. At the risk of pointing out the obvious, they don’t.

I believe this falls under the umbrella of “Bit$hes be trippin’. Crazy aggression transcends race.

Again (since you can’t see past your singular fixation): I am not defending her. Rather, I’m dispelling the myth that she would have treated any other critic better. Had it been a white woman, I bet she would have called her a C and possibly physically attacked her. Have you ever watched any of the Real Housewives shows? Heck, the Family Guy did a segment on this sort of thing with women brawling at a baseball game.

Ask yourself why it's so important to you that it be acknowledged that she would have done similarly regardless of color. And then ask again whether or not you're attempting to defend her behavior.

Spoiler: you are. Its a garbage defense, but a defense nonetheless. You're trying to water down the race issue and make it about her simply behaving poorly.

I can't tell if you really don't get that or if you're willfully trying to confuse the issue, but either way, I'm done. A lot of people had their eyes opened because of this, and you can't undo that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

If he threatened her dog, then isn’t it normal to be frightened?

Forget what happens before or after the threat. Isn’t the threat alone reasonable to prompt fear?

A normal person would have grabbed the dog and left.

An aggressive crazy person stays and escalates the situation with the stranger threatening your dog.

The video doesn't show him threatening her dog. Link, please?

It does show her (1) coming within six feet of him, although he told her repeatedly to stay further away, and (2) threatening to call the police to tell them "an African American is threatening to kill me."