Just found out sister is dropping her kids off at our parents
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Anonymous
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She has been going to her job at a hospital for the last two weeks. BIL has been performing dental surgeries. Her kids have had sitters and she does not know if the sitter has been quarantined.
Now she is taking her kids to our parents’ for two weeks because “sitters are expensive.” My parents are in their 70’s and live with my 90 year old grandfather. I’m freaking out for them. |
Anonymous
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Oh my god
What a selfish bitch You need to stop this. Now. |
Anonymous
Yes, there are child care programs for frontline workers. Google it. This is a dangerous situation! |
Anonymous
| How do I stop it? |
Anonymous
How mentally competent are your parents and grandparent? |
Anonymous
Anonymous
They are competent. But my parents operate out of guilt. |
Anonymous
This is beside the point, they are in the high risk group and should not be exposed to grandchildren who have direct daily contact with exposed front line providers. Kids can be a symptomatic transmitters. |
Anonymous
| Hopefully you can find a resource from the networks linked above. |
Anonymous
I understand that fully. But their level of competence relates to whether the parents can make the decision about the risks for themselves. OP’s obligation is higher the more incompetent they are. And it also speaks to whether she should discuss this first with her parents or her sister. Op, try both the rational approach and the guilt approach, since guilt works on them. Tell them you don’t want them to die. Tell them you want them to be alive for their grandchildren and you. Tell them they need to protect the grandparent in the house and think how guilty they will feel if grandparent gets sick. Get on this first thing in the morning. |
Anonymous
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It wasn’t even a discussion between sister and me. I just found out on a zoom call with six other people that she plans to go tomorrow morning and leave them there for two weeks. I was shocked on the call but didn’t want to overreact. Now it’s 3am and I’m freaking out.
Given the incubation period, they could be getting sick just as or after she picks them up. She even said that it’s just luck of the draw who gets sick. Like, no. We know that older people are especially vulnerable. I just can’t believe her. |
Anonymous
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Can your sister split a sitter with coworker on same shift?
Does the hospital have childcare referrals? She would not be the first one to ask. |
Anonymous
I think you need to set your alarm and call her first thing in the morning and say you are not ok with this. Try to stop her. This is so incredibly selfish. You should also call your parents. What time is she leaving? |
Anonymous
| Can you offer to take the kids? At least it can raise the discussion of why your parents shouldn’t have them. |
Anonymous
Well but then op is putting herself at risk |