Kid got in off WL to an elite school but won’t go

[Anonymous]

Kid in at what is regarded as one of the best SLACs (think Amherst, Williams, Pomona level) but wants to go to his top 15 SLAC with merit. I can’t deal. Was complaining that he did not get into any reaches after RD and now gets in to an elite school and won’t go. I said I didn’t care about the merit.

[Anonymous]

Ok. Your child is 18, it’s their choice. Cut the apron strings.

[Anonymous]

So they changed their mind. That's okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kid in at what is regarded as one of the best SLACs (think Amherst, Williams, Pomona level) but wants to go to his top 15 SLAC with merit. I can’t deal. Was complaining that he did not get into any reaches after RD and now gets in to an elite school and won’t go. I said I didn’t care about the merit.

why has he changed his mind?

[Anonymous]

Top 15 is pretty elite...

[Anonymous]

My DH went to an elite school; it's all bs

[Anonymous]

Ask the elite school admissions officer if they would let you go there in your son's place. They may very well be happy since you will be full pay!

[Anonymous]

^^^ elite school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok. Your child is 18, it’s their choice. Cut the apron strings.

+1000. What kind of crazy is OP? It’s his life!

[Anonymous]

Which two schools? Most elite schools don’t give merit.

[Anonymous]

Stop caring about appearance and status and let your kid live their life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Which two schools? Most elite schools don’t give merit.

This poster mentions the “top 15 lac with merit” in every single thread. Pretty sure it’s Davidson and Pomona

[Anonymous]

Help your child grow up by supporting his first important decision . It will make you think you have confidence in him.

[Anonymous]

Well, did you even listen to his reasons for his choice?

What are they?

[Anonymous]

I got into a very prestigious school that would have cost nothing. I chose a school that was not nearly as prestigious and cost a little bit but was almost totally covered. My parents were disappointed at first with my choice but they really did not harp on it, and they allowed me to make that choice. I look back today and think about how different my life would be - but not in a bad way. I have a perfectly great career and am a fully functioning, happy adult. I think about how the friends I made wouldn’t be in my life and I wouldn’t have had certain experiences and memories I cherish.

Let your kid decide his future.