Asking nanny to take baby out during the day
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Anonymous
| We had a baby in the midst of covid-19. We have a 5 yo and our nanny comes every day (we all social distance, she lives alone). I want to ask nanny to take the baby outside 2-3 times a week so that I can spend one-on-one time with our ODD. I am not planning the reverse, i.e., we go out while nanny & baby stay home, because ODD really misses spending time with me at home doing crafts, reading books etc since baby arrived and so do I. Baby is a month old now. Would it be okay for me to ask that nanny and baby go out on a walk for 1.5, maybe two hours? We have a lot of nature around here and it's easy to keep away from others. Baby is pretty easy and will just sleep when in the stroller or being worn and will probably want a bottle during that time. |
Anonymous
| OP again. Forgot to say that I would ask nanny to take baby out only if weather permits. Also, the reason I'd ask nanny to go out is because when she's around, DD wants all of us to play together and I'd really like for it to be just DD and me. |
Anonymous
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Yes. It’s fine. |
Anonymous
| Why would you even question this? Our nanny is out with the baby for at least 4-5 hours every day if it's not raining. Going for walks is a standard nanny routine. |
Anonymous
This is OP. Where do they go for 4-5 hours? Okay I"m glad people think a couple hours is not too much. I've seen on other posts people respond negatively to asking nanny to take an older child out for that long and didn't know if it would be any different with a baby. |
Anonymous
| Of course! Our nanny has always taken our child outside for at least 2 hours. Before Covid it was more like 4. |
Anonymous
It’s so much easier to take a newborn out now for 1.5 hours because they don’t want to touch everything and can nap in the stroller. |
Anonymous
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As long as they stay at least 6ft away from everyone, sure. The nanny has to stop anyone trying to approach the stroller to look at Baby, though. Some people will do that. |
Anonymous
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I think that is fine as long as there is somewhere she can go and sit and play on her phone to pass those two hours. You can't require her to walk for two hours.
Also you have to factor in that there aren't places to stop now to use a bathroom. |
Anonymous
| Nanny here. It’s very different. Everything a baby wants is portable: food, diapers, snuggles. End of list, really. Older kids are much trickier. The other poster who got a lot of criticism was also asking the nanny to be gone for that long a) at a specific time and b) every single day. Letting it be weather-dependent makes a big difference! |
Anonymous
If namnyis taking care of baby I dont understand how it stops you from doing crafts with older dd? |
Anonymous
| Of course it’s fine. |
Anonymous
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I guess I will be the dissenter and say 1.5-2 hours is way too long-and I'm a distance runner who thinks nothing of running for 4-5 hours straight!
There is no where nanny can stop if she needs to feed the baby, change the baby's diaper, or even just take a breather! I can't believe you want to put your NEWBORN and their caregiver in this position! |
Anonymous
| Also, I know your 5 year old "wants" you all to play together, but this might be a good chance for her to (finally?) learn that she can't always get everything she wants. |
Anonymous
| Thank you poster above! There’s nothing open, not even playgrounds. Teach the oldest that nanny will be with baby and he/she will have time with mom. To the poster that said their nanny would be out for 4 hours before covid. Of course! EVERYTHING WAS OPEN!!!!! |