Asking nanny to take baby out during the day

[Anonymous]

I think it's a great idea!

Newborn should learn now that her needs will always come second to big sister's wants. If that means starving for 2 hours or getting a diaper rash, so be it. We simply can't have big sister be denied anything her little heart desires. The sooner the newborn realizes it, the easier it will be for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can never understand this peculiar American resistance to children being outside. I would fire a nanny who would refuse to be outside with my baby/toddler. We've had a nanny since DS3 was 4 months old. He is now almost two and I can count on one hand the # of days they stayed inside.

Ok, so you’re not American. Walk us through what you would do with a baby outside during a pandemic with most parks and cafes closed. Where would you sit down to feed the baby? Or, as the PP said, to change the baby? Maybe you would squat down and change the baby on your lap - as men have had to do when the restrooms lack a changing table, but that’s not really something you’d ask a nanny to do. You also don’t say where you are living, but if you’ve been sending your son and the nanny out in the broiling sun, pouring rain, etc, — since there have only been only 5 days in the last 2 years that they’ve stayed inside, you should know that such practices could be viewed as neglectful - at best, depending on the circumstances.

There have been a few “I don’t understand....” followed by some gross generalizations about Americans questions lately. Are they all coming from the same OP? If so, maybe we could explore everything all at once in an Off Topic post.

What does the baby need a cafe for?

Where do you feed the baby? Most babies don't need to be fed constantly. You feed the baby and leave the house, bring a premixed bottle with you in case of emergencies, but you ought to be able to stay outside for 2 hours easily.

I live in the DC area. There are very few days when it's truly intolerable outside. During days of broiling sun, nanny and DS go out between 7 and 9 am. They stayed inside when it rained, true. When he started walking, he discovered puddles and that's enough for him.

Neglect is seen differently around the world. Someone told me I'm neglectful for keeping my middle daughter sleeping on the roofed balcony for the first nine months of her life. And then someone else told me I'm neglectful for sending my 9-year old to the grocery store when we're out of the ice cream flavor he wants. Shrug.

Have you ever taken care of a newborn? They go through growth spurts and absolutely do need to be fed nearly constantly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again. Forgot to say that I would ask nanny to take baby out only if weather permits. Also, the reason I'd ask nanny to go out is because when she's around, DD wants all of us to play together and I'd really like for it to be just DD and me.

If namnyis taking care of baby I dont understand how it stops you from doing crafts with older dd?

Many of us managed that without a nanny at all; but that is not OP's situation. Her question is simple, and the answer is, yes, it is fine.

[Anonymous]

Yes op, totally fine. Nanny can easily walk for 1-1.5 hours while baby sleeps. I used to do that daily myself and enjoyed it at lot. She could just walk in the neighborhood, so she could return home if needed within 10 minutes or so if there is sudden need to change or feed baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Have you ever taken care of a newborn? They go through growth spurts and absolutely do need to be fed nearly constantly.

You know what else they go through? Long naps!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's a great idea!

Newborn should learn now that her needs will always come second to big sister's wants. If that means starving for 2 hours or getting a diaper rash, so be it. We simply can't have big sister be denied anything her little heart desires. The sooner the newborn realizes it, the easier it will be for everyone.

Why would he starve for two hours or have a diaper rash? Feed the baby, put a clean diaper on and go out. What is this myth of starvation? Babies can be changed in strollers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can never understand this peculiar American resistance to children being outside. I would fire a nanny who would refuse to be outside with my baby/toddler. We've had a nanny since DS3 was 4 months old. He is now almost two and I can count on one hand the # of days they stayed inside.

With somewhere I can use the bathroom, sure. With no playgrounds open and not wanting to take a baby into a random convenience of grocery store, it needs to be a reasonable length of time (2 hours maximum for me).

That is reasonable but most people can last two hours without using a bathroom. I mean that's a length of an average movie and people sit through that somehow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's a great idea!

Newborn should learn now that her needs will always come second to big sister's wants. If that means starving for 2 hours or getting a diaper rash, so be it. We simply can't have big sister be denied anything her little heart desires. The sooner the newborn realizes it, the easier it will be for everyone.

Why would he starve for two hours or have a diaper rash? Feed the baby, put a clean diaper on and go out. What is this myth of starvation? Babies can be changed in strollers.

You are obviously someone who has never cared for a newborn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's a great idea!

Newborn should learn now that her needs will always come second to big sister's wants. If that means starving for 2 hours or getting a diaper rash, so be it. We simply can't have big sister be denied anything her little heart desires. The sooner the newborn realizes it, the easier it will be for everyone.

Why would he starve for two hours or have a diaper rash? Feed the baby, put a clean diaper on and go out. What is this myth of starvation? Babies can be changed in strollers.

You are obviously someone who has never cared for a newborn.

I've had three. None were confined to the house, went hungry or suffered from diaper rashes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can never understand this peculiar American resistance to children being outside. I would fire a nanny who would refuse to be outside with my baby/toddler. We've had a nanny since DS3 was 4 months old. He is now almost two and I can count on one hand the # of days they stayed inside.

Ok, so you’re not American. Walk us through what you would do with a baby outside during a pandemic with most parks and cafes closed. Where would you sit down to feed the baby? Or, as the PP said, to change the baby? Maybe you would squat down and change the baby on your lap - as men have had to do when the restrooms lack a changing table, but that’s not really something you’d ask a nanny to do. You also don’t say where you are living, but if you’ve been sending your son and the nanny out in the broiling sun, pouring rain, etc, — since there have only been only 5 days in the last 2 years that they’ve stayed inside, you should know that such practices could be viewed as neglectful - at best, depending on the circumstances.

There have been a few “I don’t understand....” followed by some gross generalizations about Americans questions lately. Are they all coming from the same OP? If so, maybe we could explore everything all at once in an Off Topic post.

What does the baby need a cafe for?

Where do you feed the baby? Most babies don't need to be fed constantly. You feed the baby and leave the house, bring a premixed bottle with you in case of emergencies, but you ought to be able to stay outside for 2 hours easily.

I live in the DC area. There are very few days when it's truly intolerable outside. During days of broiling sun, nanny and DS go out between 7 and 9 am. They stayed inside when it rained, true. When he started walking, he discovered puddles and that's enough for him.

Neglect is seen differently around the world. Someone told me I'm neglectful for keeping my middle daughter sleeping on the roofed balcony for the first nine months of her life. And then someone else told me I'm neglectful for sending my 9-year old to the grocery store when we're out of the ice cream flavor he wants. Shrug.

Have you ever taken care of a newborn? They go through growth spurts and absolutely do need to be fed nearly constantly.

No they don't need to fed nearly constantly on a 24 hr basis. Growth spurts are occasional; they don't last for long.

[Anonymous]

wow some of you are psycho

[Anonymous]

The Nanny should have access to soap & water to wash her hands after changing a diaper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Nanny should have access to soap & water to wash her hands after changing a diaper.

OMG, you high drama queens need to stop. You’ll survive with hand wipes and sanitizer for an hour.

I always take newborn charges out in the mornings for 1.5 to 2 hour walks. I carry an emergency bottle and diapers. I have never, in 15 years, had a baby suffer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Have you ever taken care of a newborn? They go through growth spurts and absolutely do need to be fed nearly constantly.

You know what else they go through? Long naps!

Newborns have cat naps. Napping doesn’t solidify into a predictable schedule for a while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can never understand this peculiar American resistance to children being outside. I would fire a nanny who would refuse to be outside with my baby/toddler. We've had a nanny since DS3 was 4 months old. He is now almost two and I can count on one hand the # of days they stayed inside.

With somewhere I can use the bathroom, sure. With no playgrounds open and not wanting to take a baby into a random convenience of grocery store, it needs to be a reasonable length of time (2 hours maximum for me).

That is reasonable but most people can last two hours without using a bathroom. I mean that's a length of an average movie and people sit through that somehow.

I have IBS. On a good day, 2 or more hours is fine. During a flare, I don’t go farther than 5 minutes from the closest useable bathroom.