Asking nanny to take baby out during the day

[Anonymous]

Ditch the stroller as anything but schlepping supplies. Have nanny wear the baby. It’s better for the baby to be worn/cuddled while out than be in a stroller. Plus: it’s less likely that people will get within 6 feet.

[Anonymous]

1 /2 to 2 hours may be a little too long - considering that summer is almost here.

Being outdoors in the summer heat can be dangerous for both nanny and baby.

They can stay in another part of the house while you have quality time w/your daughter.
Your daughter needs to learn that sometimes you and her can have playtime....
W/out the nanny being present.

It would be unfair to insist your nanny takes your baby out (where nothing is open!) just because of what your daughter wants.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I can never understand this peculiar American resistance to children being outside. I would fire a nanny who would refuse to be outside with my baby/toddler. We've had a nanny since DS3 was 4 months old. He is now almost two and I can count on one hand the # of days they stayed inside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can never understand this peculiar American resistance to children being outside. I would fire a nanny who would refuse to be outside with my baby/toddler. We've had a nanny since DS3 was 4 months old. He is now almost two and I can count on one hand the # of days they stayed inside.

It's not about being "outside." it's about being far away from the home for multiple hours with no where to stop and rest.

Baby needs a diaper change 10 minutes into the walk? Tough, there is no where to stop and change a diaper. That newborn needs to sit in it's own filth for another 1 hour 50 minutes so big sister doesn't get upset that she can't have both mommy and nanny playing together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can never understand this peculiar American resistance to children being outside. I would fire a nanny who would refuse to be outside with my baby/toddler. We've had a nanny since DS3 was 4 months old. He is now almost two and I can count on one hand the # of days they stayed inside.

Ok, so you’re not American. Walk us through what you would do with a baby outside during a pandemic with most parks and cafes closed. Where would you sit down to feed the baby? Or, as the PP said, to change the baby? Maybe you would squat down and change the baby on your lap - as men have had to do when the restrooms lack a changing table, but that’s not really something you’d ask a nanny to do. You also don’t say where you are living, but if you’ve been sending your son and the nanny out in the broiling sun, pouring rain, etc, — since there have only been only 5 days in the last 2 years that they’ve stayed inside, you should know that such practices could be viewed as neglectful - at best, depending on the circumstances.

There have been a few “I don’t understand....” followed by some gross generalizations about Americans questions lately. Are they all coming from the same OP? If so, maybe we could explore everything all at once in an Off Topic post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can never understand this peculiar American resistance to children being outside. I would fire a nanny who would refuse to be outside with my baby/toddler. We've had a nanny since DS3 was 4 months old. He is now almost two and I can count on one hand the # of days they stayed inside.

It's not about being "outside." it's about being far away from the home for multiple hours with no where to stop and rest.

Baby needs a diaper change 10 minutes into the walk? Tough, there is no where to stop and change a diaper. That newborn needs to sit in it's own filth for another 1 hour 50 minutes so big sister doesn't get upset that she can't have both mommy and nanny playing together.

What? If that baby is a newborn, he should be flat on his back in the bassinet-type stroller. Bring a mat and changing supplies that you should have with you anyway, slide the mat under his bum and change him. Big deal! If the nanny needs to rest, she can rest on a park bench like millions of mothers did before her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can never understand this peculiar American resistance to children being outside. I would fire a nanny who would refuse to be outside with my baby/toddler. We've had a nanny since DS3 was 4 months old. He is now almost two and I can count on one hand the # of days they stayed inside.

It's not about being "outside." it's about being far away from the home for multiple hours with no where to stop and rest.

Baby needs a diaper change 10 minutes into the walk? Tough, there is no where to stop and change a diaper. That newborn needs to sit in it's own filth for another 1 hour 50 minutes so big sister doesn't get upset that she can't have both mommy and nanny playing together.

What? If that baby is a newborn, he should be flat on his back in the bassinet-type stroller. Bring a mat and changing supplies that you should have with you anyway, slide the mat under his bum and change him. Big deal! If the nanny needs to rest, she can rest on a park bench like millions of mothers did before her.

Parks are closed!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can never understand this peculiar American resistance to children being outside. I would fire a nanny who would refuse to be outside with my baby/toddler. We've had a nanny since DS3 was 4 months old. He is now almost two and I can count on one hand the # of days they stayed inside.

Ok, so you’re not American. Walk us through what you would do with a baby outside during a pandemic with most parks and cafes closed. Where would you sit down to feed the baby? Or, as the PP said, to change the baby? Maybe you would squat down and change the baby on your lap - as men have had to do when the restrooms lack a changing table, but that’s not really something you’d ask a nanny to do. You also don’t say where you are living, but if you’ve been sending your son and the nanny out in the broiling sun, pouring rain, etc, — since there have only been only 5 days in the last 2 years that they’ve stayed inside, you should know that such practices could be viewed as neglectful - at best, depending on the circumstances.

There have been a few “I don’t understand....” followed by some gross generalizations about Americans questions lately. Are they all coming from the same OP? If so, maybe we could explore everything all at once in an Off Topic post.

What does the baby need a cafe for?

Where do you feed the baby? Most babies don't need to be fed constantly. You feed the baby and leave the house, bring a premixed bottle with you in case of emergencies, but you ought to be able to stay outside for 2 hours easily.

I live in the DC area. There are very few days when it's truly intolerable outside. During days of broiling sun, nanny and DS go out between 7 and 9 am. They stayed inside when it rained, true. When he started walking, he discovered puddles and that's enough for him.

Neglect is seen differently around the world. Someone told me I'm neglectful for keeping my middle daughter sleeping on the roofed balcony for the first nine months of her life. And then someone else told me I'm neglectful for sending my 9-year old to the grocery store when we're out of the ice cream flavor he wants. Shrug.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1 /2 to 2 hours may be a little too long - considering that summer is almost here.

Being outdoors in the summer heat can be dangerous for both nanny and baby.

They can stay in another part of the house while you have quality time w/your daughter.
Your daughter needs to learn that sometimes you and her can have playtime....
W/out the nanny being present.

It would be unfair to insist your nanny takes your baby out (where nothing is open!) just because of what your daughter wants.

Good luck. [/quote

OP, you need to learn to manage with two kids. You have a nanny. You cannot just send baby away because you older one has a tantrum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can never understand this peculiar American resistance to children being outside. I would fire a nanny who would refuse to be outside with my baby/toddler. We've had a nanny since DS3 was 4 months old. He is now almost two and I can count on one hand the # of days they stayed inside.

It's not about being "outside." it's about being far away from the home for multiple hours with no where to stop and rest.

Baby needs a diaper change 10 minutes into the walk? Tough, there is no where to stop and change a diaper. That newborn needs to sit in it's own filth for another 1 hour 50 minutes so big sister doesn't get upset that she can't have both mommy and nanny playing together.

What? If that baby is a newborn, he should be flat on his back in the bassinet-type stroller. Bring a mat and changing supplies that you should have with you anyway, slide the mat under his bum and change him. Big deal! If the nanny needs to rest, she can rest on a park bench like millions of mothers did before her.

This. Ive changed my kid on the grass using a changing mat so many times. Bring a blanket and sit on the grass. A 40 min walk is possible on most weather (when not raining hard or 95 degrees). My nanny took our oldest out for 1.5 hours most days for 3 years. I did too when I was home. We are lucky to have a park/trail nearby with decent shade for summer. They went out in light drizzle too and in the cold (if no wind and all bundled up). I'm not from the US either And my parents left me to sleep in a bassinet stroller out on the balcony in March/April and it could still snow a little then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can never understand this peculiar American resistance to children being outside. I would fire a nanny who would refuse to be outside with my baby/toddler. We've had a nanny since DS3 was 4 months old. He is now almost two and I can count on one hand the # of days they stayed inside.

It's not about being "outside." it's about being far away from the home for multiple hours with no where to stop and rest.

Baby needs a diaper change 10 minutes into the walk? Tough, there is no where to stop and change a diaper. That newborn needs to sit in it's own filth for another 1 hour 50 minutes so big sister doesn't get upset that she can't have both mommy and nanny playing together.

What? If that baby is a newborn, he should be flat on his back in the bassinet-type stroller. Bring a mat and changing supplies that you should have with you anyway, slide the mat under his bum and change him. Big deal! If the nanny needs to rest, she can rest on a park bench like millions of mothers did before her.

Parks are closed!

Playgrounds are closed. Green spaces around them are very much open! and so are the walking paths. You make it sound like OP lives in a desert.

[Anonymous]

Of course OP! Wish I had asked my nanny to do with my
Baby so I could spend some one on one time with my daughter during maternity leave. Ended up taking her to lunch and open gym on my last day of leave. It’s a memory I won’t forget :’(

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can never understand this peculiar American resistance to children being outside. I would fire a nanny who would refuse to be outside with my baby/toddler. We've had a nanny since DS3 was 4 months old. He is now almost two and I can count on one hand the # of days they stayed inside.

With somewhere I can use the bathroom, sure. With no playgrounds open and not wanting to take a baby into a random convenience of grocery store, it needs to be a reasonable length of time (2 hours maximum for me).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can never understand this peculiar American resistance to children being outside. I would fire a nanny who would refuse to be outside with my baby/toddler. We've had a nanny since DS3 was 4 months old. He is now almost two and I can count on one hand the # of days they stayed inside.

It's not about being "outside." it's about being far away from the home for multiple hours with no where to stop and rest.

Baby needs a diaper change 10 minutes into the walk? Tough, there is no where to stop and change a diaper. That newborn needs to sit in it's own filth for another 1 hour 50 minutes so big sister doesn't get upset that she can't have both mommy and nanny playing together.

What? If that baby is a newborn, he should be flat on his back in the bassinet-type stroller. Bring a mat and changing supplies that you should have with you anyway, slide the mat under his bum and change him. Big deal! If the nanny needs to rest, she can rest on a park bench like millions of mothers did before her.

I’m not using benches right now. And most benches are around closed playgrounds.

Frankly, I’m more concerned with restroom facilities for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can never understand this peculiar American resistance to children being outside. I would fire a nanny who would refuse to be outside with my baby/toddler. We've had a nanny since DS3 was 4 months old. He is now almost two and I can count on one hand the # of days they stayed inside.

Ok, so you’re not American. Walk us through what you would do with a baby outside during a pandemic with most parks and cafes closed. Where would you sit down to feed the baby? Or, as the PP said, to change the baby? Maybe you would squat down and change the baby on your lap - as men have had to do when the restrooms lack a changing table, but that’s not really something you’d ask a nanny to do. You also don’t say where you are living, but if you’ve been sending your son and the nanny out in the broiling sun, pouring rain, etc, — since there have only been only 5 days in the last 2 years that they’ve stayed inside, you should know that such practices could be viewed as neglectful - at best, depending on the circumstances.

There have been a few “I don’t understand....” followed by some gross generalizations about Americans questions lately. Are they all coming from the same OP? If so, maybe we could explore everything all at once in an Off Topic post.

What does the baby need a cafe for?

Where do you feed the baby? Most babies don't need to be fed constantly. You feed the baby and leave the house, bring a premixed bottle with you in case of emergencies, but you ought to be able to stay outside for 2 hours easily.

I live in the DC area. There are very few days when it's truly intolerable outside. During days of broiling sun, nanny and DS go out between 7 and 9 am. They stayed inside when it rained, true. When he started walking, he discovered puddles and that's enough for him.

Neglect is seen differently around the world. Someone told me I'm neglectful for keeping my middle daughter sleeping on the roofed balcony for the first nine months of her life. And then someone else told me I'm neglectful for sending my 9-year old to the grocery store when we're out of the ice cream flavor he wants. Shrug.

- Cafes are closed. parks are closed. So the nanny can’t sit down to rest or to feed or change the baby.

- Clearly your version of intolerable is idiosyncratic. If you can count on the fingers of one hand when they stayed inside over the course of two years AND they stayed inside when it rained, your hands are unique.

- Multiple people view you as neglectful and you shrug. I wish your kids the best with that.