VENTING- SO ANNOYED AT FRIENDS AND COLLEAGUES STILl USING NANNIES AND CLEANERS

[Anonymous]

Realize this is a well worn topic but it’s kind of driving me nuts. We are drowning with two young kids, two demanding full time jobs and no outside help because — obviously. I find myself resenting even close friends and colleagues I like who in my view are flouting the rules and making everyone less safe by continuing with nannies and cleaners. Relatedly it’s disturbing to feel that this situation is making friends and neighbors turn on one another.

[Anonymous]

You do you and myob

[Anonymous]

I hope Jeff’s favorite movie is Groundhog Day. He lives it, but on the internet.

[Anonymous]

This is not a “you do you” situation. Wtf.

[Anonymous]

OP, I have two young kids and simply cannot work from home for months (a year or more?) on end with no child care. We have our nanny coming (she is only seeing our family). It is essential if we want to keep our jobs. We don't have our cleaners coming though.

Why won't you consider having a nanny come if all parties agree to form your own bubble?

[Anonymous]

Your anger sounds misplaced, actually. You're angry that your daycare is closed. Or that something about your nanny situation makes you feel like it's not safe to have your nanny come.

Don't be angry at those who have childcare. (Although I agree that having cleaners come is ridiculous, that's not your problem.)

[Anonymous]

Oh, goody. Another hall monitor post.

[Anonymous]

Fine to have a nanny so you can work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your anger sounds misplaced, actually. You're angry that your daycare is closed. Or that something about your nanny situation makes you feel like it's not safe to have your nanny come.

Don't be angry at those who have childcare. (Although I agree that having cleaners come is ridiculous, that's not your problem.)

+1

[Anonymous]

It’s classist. Agree, strongly.

[Anonymous]

WTF? There's nothing wrong with us having our nanny continue to work. They live alone, and we are ordering all the groceries they want. DH drives the nanny back and forth each day so they don't have to take mass transit or Uber.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF? There's nothing wrong with us having our nanny continue to work. They live alone, and we are ordering all the groceries they want. DH drives the nanny back and forth each day so they don't have to take mass transit or Uber.

They?

[Anonymous]

The stay at home order in our state specifically says childcare in your own home is acceptable. We are in compliance with the rules.

Our kids are 3 and 1 and one of them has profound special needs.

If we didn’t have our nanny coming then we would lose our jobs. I also have physical disabilities that are not obvious to others but that make caring for my children alone very very difficult for me.

Is it ok that our nanny comes, OP?

[Anonymous]

I see the risk with nannies and cleaners but if other families are willing to take the risk, why are you mad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The stay at home order in our state specifically says childcare in your own home is acceptable. We are in compliance with the rules.

Our kids are 3 and 1 and one of them has profound special needs.

If we didn’t have our nanny coming then we would lose our jobs. I also have physical disabilities that are not obvious to others but that make caring for my children alone very very difficult for me.

Is it ok that our nanny comes, OP?

As you are making clear, no one should give a sh*t what is OK with OP.