VENTING- SO ANNOYED AT FRIENDS AND COLLEAGUES STILl USING NANNIES AND CLEANERS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have two young kids and simply cannot work from home for months (a year or more?) on end with no child care. We have our nanny coming (she is only seeing our family). It is essential if we want to keep our jobs. We don't have our cleaners coming though.

Why won't you consider having a nanny come if all parties agree to form your own bubble?

Yeah. I agree with you on cleaners, OP, but nannies? I do not think that is an unreasonable choice. I worked out a deal with my employer where I am temporarily half time for half pay. My kids are 8 and 10. And we are still having a tough time of it. I cannot imagine how DH and I would each put in 40+ hours with younger kids. It just would not be possible.

DH and I are both working full time with a 5 & 3 year old, we would f-ing kill to have a nanny right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just don’t say you are in for flattening the curve if you can’t clean your own house or do minimal yardwork. Mowing once a week doesn’t take that long.

For some people it does. Sleek for yourself. We can’t help it if you have a tiny yard.

We are cleaning our own house but we do have a guy coming to cut our grass. I don't see how he is endangering himself or us by being alone on our yard to cut the grass once a week???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just don’t say you are in for flattening the curve if you can’t clean your own house or do minimal yardwork. Mowing once a week doesn’t take that long.

For some people it does. Sleek for yourself. We can’t help it if you have a tiny yard.

We are cleaning our own house but we do have a guy coming to cut our grass. I don't see how he is endangering himself or us by being alone on our yard to cut the grass once a week???

NP here. We gave away our mower years ago because we weren’t using it anymore. So even if we wanted to mow we don’t have the equipment.

[Anonymous]

Would it be ok to have an au pair instead of a nanny since the au pair lives with you? That’s what my brother does and I think it’s fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"If people aren't breaking the law... why do you care?"

I'm a NP, but kind of disturbed at home many people are STILL conflating what is legally allowed with actual best practices. Or even near-best practices.

Of course everyone should weigh risks and benefits, and I'm not saying no one should use a nanny or other household help.

But it. Does. Not. Matter. Whether you "pass my code of morals" or whatever.

The virus. Does. Not. Care.

It doesn't matter if you keep a nanny because you're disabled and a single parent and will absolutely will lose your job if you don't employ one OR if you keep a nanny because you feel like sitting around drinking rose all day. Not in terms of the actual health risks to you and the rest of your community!

Obviously one is more "moral" in the opinions of most people, and one introduces more "unnecessary" risk than the other, but the actual risk is the same on a case-by-case basis.

+1,000. Spot on, PP.

Sadly for us all, the failure of people to comprehend why the virus doesn't make exceptions for their personal "needs" is what will result in more deaths eventually. But those who die likely will be strangers to the "I must have a nanny/cleaner" posters. And people here don't care about those strangers or the larger picture of public health.

[Anonymous]

Well, certainly vanity landscaping is essential. It’s the very definition!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would it be ok to have an au pair instead of a nanny since the au pair lives with you? That’s what my brother does and I think it’s fine.

I think it's 100 percent fine, plus most au pairs can't travel back home right now anyway.

[Anonymous]

So the cleaning people, no.

But childcare is necessary to work with small kids for some.

We aren’t having our nanny come (still paying her) and are working two full-time jobs with a 1 and 3 year old. It is very difficult and I am regretting the choice as it becomes clear that this situation is long-term. I don’t begrudge people who make a different choice. This is an unprecedented situation.

[Anonymous]

We had our maid come. None of us (maid included) are high risk. I don't clean and I need to have a clean house.

[jsteele]

I AM LOCKING THIS BECAUSE THE SUBECT LINE IS HURTING MY EYES.