Men: Would you agree to use an embryo from wifes’s prior marriage?

[Anonymous]

I am 35, almost 36. Getting a divorce. No kids. I have several good embryos from the marriage that stbxh has signed off on completely.

I don’t EXPECT anyone will agree to this, but just wondering, would any man agree to this is if I also agreed to have another baby with his sperm and a donor egg? (Assuming by the time I manage to remarry my eggs are toast?)

I know this is not ideal but have to be realistic at this point about the fact that the ideal is likely not available to me.

[Anonymous]

You’d be better off just having your child as a single mother by choice, I think.

[Anonymous]

What would you regret more, never being a parent or never remarrying? If you want to be a parent, have a baby now on your own. It will be easier for you to find a divorced dad to marry later on than someone excited about your giving birth to your ex’s baby.

[Anonymous]

OP again - I would also like to add that while old at this point, I think I do bring a lot. I have always been very attractive to men and still seem to be. I am fit, smart, good career, fun to be around, kind/good person etc. I def think I can repartner, just not sure about the potential for a future family.

[Anonymous]

Why do you have embryos and no kids?

[Anonymous]

As a point of reference, I had my children at 37, 41 and 44. Don't write it off so easily.

[Anonymous]

Ew. No

[Anonymous]

DH. No, I would not do this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again - I would also like to add that while old at this point, I think I do bring a lot. I have always been very attractive to men and still seem to be. I am fit, smart, good career, fun to be around, kind/good person etc. I def think I can repartner, just not sure about the potential for a future family.

Even with your pluses, you can't predict how long it would be before you are with a partner AND at a stage in the relationship where he is ready for kids. Just finding a partner isn't enough; he has to be at the point where he is ready and willing to parent with you whether the kid is yours and ex's or your and his. You could spend more time than you think just dating to try to find THE partner/husband who wants kids at all. Then add on the time to develop the relationship to the point you're talking about kids. By that point it may be getting very late for you to safely and successfully carry a baby--yes, even if you're in great shape now and then too. But you know this.

OP, please consider getting to a counselor or therapist ASAP to talk with an objective professional, to help you weigh whether you should have a child on your own sooner rather than waiting to find a partner later. You want to be sure you don't move too fast on partnering up just to move forward with having a child. You also want to be very intentional and know what will be involved if you choose single parenthood.

[Anonymous]

Worst tinder profile ever

[Anonymous]

Man here - no.

[Anonymous]

Nope

[Anonymous]

Nope.

[Anonymous]

Yes but I'm adopted and the whole genetic ties aspect has never been a big deal to me. My baby is my baby regardless of whose DNA it's compromised of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes but I'm adopted and the whole genetic ties aspect has never been a big deal to me. My baby is my baby regardless of whose DNA it's compromised of.

Compromised is a fitting term here