I can’t believe I’m about to put an ad on care.com

[Anonymous]

For a babysitter for occasional evenings WHILE MY HUSBAND WILL BE HOME. That’s right, because he literally refuses to take care of them both at the same time for a couple hours. Ever.

[Anonymous]

Is it because he feels he cannot safely do so? If it is honestly that he has ADD and would be unsafe with his attention divided, I can understand. But otherwise, time for family counseling.

[Anonymous]

Well that’s kinda crazy. What’s wrong with him? How old are the kids?

[Anonymous]

So when you run to the store on Saturday morning by yourself, he does what? Leaves?

[Anonymous]

Better than a husband who accepts but then doesn't even do the basics.

You are not alone.

[Anonymous]

I’m not sure why you just don’t leave. Not forever, just walk out and do what you need to do.

I would, however, divorce over this is we didn’t have money for a full time nanny.

[Anonymous]

Sucks that you have to do it, but it will change your life for the better. It's temporary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well that’s kinda crazy. What’s wrong with him? How old are the kids?

Not quite 4 months and 2.5 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well that’s kinda crazy. What’s wrong with him? How old are the kids?

Not quite 4 months and 2.5 years

To be fair, those are tough ages and it's still pretty new for him. Hopefully he'll get used to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure why you just don’t leave. Not forever, just walk out and do what you need to do.

I would, however, divorce over this is we didn’t have money for a full time nanny.

Because the one time I did, when I came back the kids had both been crying almost the whole time and my husband was unhappy with me, and I decided when this baby was born to prioritize (for now) having a low-conflict marriage over trying in vain to make him do what he should be doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well that’s kinda crazy. What’s wrong with him? How old are the kids?

Not quite 4 months and 2.5 years

To be fair, those are tough ages and it's still pretty new for him. Hopefully he'll get used to it.

I know. It’s tough for me too but somehow I manage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure why you just don’t leave. Not forever, just walk out and do what you need to do.

I would, however, divorce over this is we didn’t have money for a full time nanny.

Because the one time I did, when I came back the kids had both been crying almost the whole time and my husband was unhappy with me, and I decided when this baby was born to prioritize (for now) having a low-conflict marriage over trying in vain to make him do what he should be doing.

So you knew he would be like this before you decided on the 2nd?

[Anonymous]

I can't believe you are putting the ad on care.com either.

Arranging the care should be on him.

[Anonymous]

I hope while the babysitter is there, you're going to the gyn to get birth control. Stop having babies with this loser!

BTW, nobody is going to want to babysit while your husband is home watching tv with his hands down his pants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure why you just don’t leave. Not forever, just walk out and do what you need to do.

I would, however, divorce over this is we didn’t have money for a full time nanny.

Because the one time I did, when I came back the kids had both been crying almost the whole time and my husband was unhappy with me, and I decided when this baby was born to prioritize (for now) having a low-conflict marriage over trying in vain to make him do what he should be doing.

NP. There have been a number of days when I've been alone with the kids when they both cried. Sometimes all three of us cried.

Crying children do not mean the parent is lousy. Neither does unhappiness.