Rich husband always threatens divorce

[Anonymous]

My husband of 8 yrs always threatens divorce or leaves when we have an argument and will cut my credit cards off the next day. He pays for everything I have been very spoiled but will throw it in my face with every fight. He also tells all his friends and grown children about our fights and even forwards my emails and texts to his friends. Of course everyone hates me now ... Btw the fights are always when I show some sort of strength so I just have to back down and be a “good” wife.

[Anonymous]

This is a very clear-cut case where you need to divorce.

[Anonymous]

Hard to leave when you are not self sufficient. He knows that. Unfortunate situation but not insurmountable. You can do it.

[Anonymous]

Get out. Start thinking about what kind of job you'll look for. Even more, think of how you’ll finance an excellent lawyer. He’ll have one for sure.

But you need to be planning your exit. Being a bird in a gilded cage ain’t worth it.

[Anonymous]

Do you want your dignity or his money? That’s the option he’s giving you and no amount of couples therapy or phrasing things to him the right way will change that.
Get yourself some therapy to decide whether you want to find a way to deal with him to keep your lifestyle or you want to divorce

[Anonymous]

So what do you want to do?

[Anonymous]

Be sweet and compliant. Quietly buy krugerrands and hide them well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a very clear-cut case where you need to divorce.

Yes I know. It’s been getting worse and worse. His patience is zero when I try and voice my opinion and show any strength. I guess I was a lot more agreeable in the early years and now I want to have a voice . All the spoiling and money kept me quiet but I find that boring now..

[Anonymous]

Now you see what he was divorced the first time. Stash money in your name and line up a good divorce attorney and tell him next time he does it you file.

[Anonymous]

Squirrel away money. Prepaid Visa cards are good for this. Be sweet and compliant and plan your exit. Get copies of all financial docs.

[Anonymous]

Financial and economic control and bad-mouthing you to others to isolate you are forms of abuse.

Evaluate your relationship at loveisrespect.org

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be sweet and compliant. Quietly buy krugerrands and hide them well.

I had to look up what those were ! Haha. But I can’t because he sees all my purchases on the credit cards . Don’t get much cash at all. Trust me, if I got a cash allowance I would’ve been stashing it away but he’s smarter then that. Only credit cards.

[Anonymous]

Ummm get a job?! Do you have kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Squirrel away money. Prepaid Visa cards are good for this. Be sweet and compliant and plan your exit. Get copies of all financial docs.

That’s actually a good idea! Prepaid cards and I read they never expire .

[Anonymous]

You marry for money, you get what you pay for.

Do you want the money or freedom? Are there kids involved?

Think through it very carefully. People here will tell you to divorce, but think through what your life would be like. Analyze whether that is worth being a “good wife.” If you find that boring, consider whether divorce or a hobby is the better investment.