Rich husband always threatens divorce

[Anonymous]

SO basically you are a prisoner in your own home and he is a control freak? Why are you staying with him? What is he providing you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:SO basically you are a prisoner in your own home and he is a control freak? Why are you staying with him? What is he providing you?

No of course not. I just wish he wld stop the threats and want this marriage to work and I want to make it work because of all the negatives the one positive is he’s not a cheater . I’ve never been in a relationship with a non cheater and I never want to be in one again and I know the odds are not good finding one. Unless he’s incarcerated or bedridden

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you sound incredibly low class and mean. This is a marriage whereby it's obvious she's contributed and takes care of this guy. He wants a nurse and a maid, but refuses to treat her with respect.

OP what did you actually sign before you married him? Does he have a 401k or a retirement? I'm sure you've talked to a lawyer, and he probably knows going on the 10 yr mark his pre-nup etc. may prove invalid.

where does it say she's contributed and takes care of him? She decorated his house and has said she is otherwise totally spoiled. I saw absolutely nothing that said he wanted a nurse and a maid.

I wouldn't respect my spouse either if they wanted half my money and assets for literally doing nothing.

Trust me!! I do take care of him in every way. Not only does he come home to a gourmet dinner at least 5 to 6xs a week, but because of me he has been able to see HIS own grandchildren more because I insist we should be more involved. If I left it up to him he’d see them once a yr. And he has thanked me for that. FYI we live in the same town. And I wasn’t looking for half of his assets. This all started because he’s a big talker and he is the one who said my name wld be on the next property he bought and I wasn’t expecting that but of course was really happy because it made me feel more valuable to him. When you sign a prenup that basically throws you a few bucks i think it empowers the wealthy party to treat you as they please and makes them less tolerant and have the upper hand. There is noway in hell my DH wld threaten divorce the way he does if he knew he had to split his money with me!! Or if tables were reversed. The disappointment I felt when I found out my name was nowhere on the home because he lied to me mostly.
And yes buying 3k faucets is with his credit cards that he owns. Like I said he doesn’t give me much cash . Maybe 1500 a year . And he checks the CC statements regularly to make sure there’s no big ticket items that are not for his home. I use to go to the salon a few times a week amounting to $1200 a month which he was completely fine with but when I asked him to give me that in cash instead omg hell no! He does everything in his power to limit my access to cash. I never understood this but now I know 100% he doesn’t want me stashing away money to keep me less likely to leave and keep the his power in our relationship.

You should have signed a pre-nup stating anything before the marriage stays with the owner. Everything else earned, money, assets etc. should be marital.

That would be fair to both.

[Anonymous]

You should have signed a pre-nup stating anything before the marriage stays with the owner. Everything else earned, money, assets etc. should be marital.

That would be fair to both.

Oh yes that’s what my DH tried telling me when I was upset about the very lopsided prenup that was presented to me . “Don’t worry darling, we will accumulate assets together as joint marital property thru the years”. Meanwhile, all we’ve accumulated together in both our names is a couple of cats and smelly rescue dog.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:SO basically you are a prisoner in your own home and he is a control freak? Why are you staying with him? What is he providing you?

No of course not. I just wish he wld stop the threats and want this marriage to work and I want to make it work because of all the negatives the one positive is he’s not a cheater . I’ve never been in a relationship with a non cheater and I never want to be in one again and I know the odds are not good finding one. Unless he’s incarcerated or bedridden

I say this with kindness...cheating is a serious form of emotional abuse. Your current DH is also emotionally abusing you, although in a different way than other men have previously. Please work with a therapist who can help you escape abuse and create a healthy life for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Oh honey!!!

[Anonymous]

Divorce his ass and get the bag!!! You can have money AND freedom and he can take all that toxic energy to the next chick who falls for him. And forget about that "hobby" suggestion. You can't "hobby" all day. You'll still have to deal w/his meanness and divorce threats. He wants a divorce? Give it to him.

[Anonymous]

So he’s great because he’s not a cheater? You need to higher your standards. This guy is abusive and controlling and you are in denial if you think otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should have signed a pre-nup stating anything before the marriage stays with the owner. Everything else earned, money, assets etc. should be marital.

That would be fair to both.

Oh yes that’s what my DH tried telling me when I was upset about the very lopsided prenup that was presented to me . “Don’t worry darling, we will accumulate assets together as joint marital property thru the years”. Meanwhile, all we’ve accumulated together in both our names is a couple of cats and smelly rescue dog.

But you signed it, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you from this country? If not, sounds like he is the type to lure unsuspecting women into his orbit with money and then control them. Very messed up. You should divorce him. I know white men who have done that to Asian women. It’s narcissism and misogyny and racism.

I know this sounds racist but all I’m thinking is white dude with Asian woman. See this dynamic a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now you see what he was divorced the first time. Stash money in your name and line up a good divorce attorney and tell him next time he does it you file.

Stash money away and don't threaten. Get enough and have a secret exit plan. Job, divorce lawyer. If you want the house, stay and get ready to kick him out. He may not go.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:SO basically you are a prisoner in your own home and he is a control freak? Why are you staying with him? What is he providing you?

No of course not. I just wish he wld stop the threats and want this marriage to work and I want to make it work because of all the negatives the one positive is he’s not a cheater . I’ve never been in a relationship with a non cheater and I never want to be in one again and I know the odds are not good finding one. Unless he’s incarcerated or bedridden

Not being a cheater is not a plus. That is a minimum requirement for a relationship at all. Not even marriage. Sorry, but that is not a reason to stay married. That is the minimum requirement for dating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:SO basically you are a prisoner in your own home and he is a control freak? Why are you staying with him? What is he providing you?

No of course not. I just wish he wld stop the threats and want this marriage to work and I want to make it work because of all the negatives the one positive is he’s not a cheater . I’ve never been in a relationship with a non cheater and I never want to be in one again and I know the odds are not good finding one. Unless he’s incarcerated or bedridden

Please tell me this is a joke post. How much of a pathetic gold digger can you be?

[Anonymous]

To the OP: Let me guess. You are a stay at home wife or mom. You don't need to work nor do you want to work. You can stay home, sleep in, go shopping, go eating, etc. What does your husband want? For the house to be taken care of? Maybe dinner? If so, it doesn't seem like much to ask considering he's clearly given you a life you would otherwise not have without him.

Grass isn't greener on the other side. Often times people forget how good they have it.

[Anonymous]

" I use to go to the salon a few times a week amounting to $1200 a month"

Wow, poor you. Being able to spend $1200 at a salon using your husband's money...and him being okay with it! Poor you!