Anyone else resisting frozen and other princess stuff?
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I have a 3.5 year old. We let her watch videos occasionally (Dora, sesame, tumble leaf, etc.), but I feel really resistant to the princess stuff just because I find that stuff personally annoying. I don’t judge anyone whose kid is dressed as Elsa 24/7; I just can’t personally get into it (even though I’d be fine with my kid dressing as Dora). My kid has not asked to see any princess movies because she doesn’t know they exist. She plays “frozen” with friends every day at school, but she thinks it’s just a make believe game. I’m sure she’s totally confused as to why the other kids seem to all know various plot points and characters—for example, one kid told her she could be “olaf” and she decided Olaf was a kitty cat.
Anyway, I can’t decide if we should expose her to princess stuff just to make school/socializing easier for her since she’s totally confounded by the main game she plays during free time. I’m so resistant to opening the princess door! Thoughts? |
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| Why? Do you think that princesses or girly girls are "less than" other characters? |
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We've avoided it but DD (4) is still interested in it and preschool with other kids has basically undid our attempts to keep her away from "princesses."
On a side note though, I find Dora far more annoying than Frozen... we avoid that show, too. |
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| She'll figure it all out. Soon enough, she'll know the plot and the characters and sing all the songs. Unless you homeschool her and never take her outside the house. |
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We were you. Just hold your nose and give in. For us, the princess phase lasted 3-5--during that time, every Halloween costume was a princess.
Around 6 she started getting more sporty, and before her 7th bday, she started refusing to wear skirts and dresses in favor of athleisure. Halloween costumes became superheroes, etc. Still sticking to this at 8; she had a sort of goth vampire costume this year. |
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My child has never seen frozen. We do, however, Play the frozen soundtrack. She knows “let it go” and “do you want to build a snowman”. She loves her Elsa dress.
She also loves to pretend she’s a cat. And a unicorn, altnough she’s never seen one. I frequently have breakfast with a scarecrow (Hallowe’en outfit), and last week, a tiara was required gear, although we don’t “encouraged princess culture. This year’s tree trimming pics contain Wonder Woman, and I’m sad (or proud) to say, it wasn’t me. Today, I made pancakes with a veterinarian, who became a giraffe in a tutu an hour later. We have a dress up box, and DD gets to pick whatever she wants to be. We don’t judge, or care. I really don’t understand the hate for princess stuff. My daughter is strong, independent, and smart as hell. A tiara and a tutu don’t change who she is inside, and THAT is the life lesson. |
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I do because I want my child to love her gorgeous black hair, brown eyes, and brown skin. I let her get into the music, but I refuse to buy her a blonde elsa wig.
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Make that
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My 4 y/o is all in on the princesses. You could read Cinderella Ate My Daughter - I have been meaning to read it.
I don’t really mind that she’s into the princess - it’s her peroagtive. She has two older brothers and has been exposed to plenty of not girly girl stuff and is not interested at this point in time. I (mom) work, and sometimes when she plays pretend she goes to work which I think is cute, get it girl! I’m not worried about her in terms of princesses. |
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Fragile. |
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My white kid with brown hair/brown eyes loves dressing up as Doc McStuffins and as Moana. She also loves dressing up as Elsa. We don't have any Merida gear, but she pretends to be red-haired Merida sometimes; Ariel, too. We don't do any type of wigs or anything that changes who she is, she's just putting on dresses and clothes and accessories. |
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| Ha, I was once like you, then totally gave up. It's a phase, it's normal, and it's fine. I personally find princess worship pretty meh, but my 4 year old looooooves princesses so who am I to force my preferences on her? She's her own person and can decide for herself. We do talk about the positive characteristics of the princesses, how they're brave, powerful, kind, loving, etc. The newer Disney princesses are MUCH better with this than the older ones (Cinderella, Snow White, Ariel versus Mulan, Rapunzel, Moana, Elsa, etc.). Honestly, I sort of pity the kids and silently roll my eyes at the parents that keep such a big part of popular culture away from their kids. Let them like what they like, teach them good values and don't let them go too far with focusing on beauty alone, and just wait until they're older and you can embarrass the crap out of them with photos of them in Elsa dresses. Win win! |
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| I mean, you do you. But the Frozen princesses are kinda badass and the movies are honestly pretty good as far as kids movies go (wayyy better than Dora, for example) so refusing all of it feels a little like it's just to prove a point. |
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Frozen is great. The princesses save each other and everyone else.
No damsels in distress being rescued by a man. |