Anyone else resisting frozen and other princess stuff?
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Anonymous
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I am the mother of a 3 year old girl. I do not think princesses are inherently awful. We try to let DD play with whatever toys she wants, as long as they don't promote violence (no toy guns in our house).
She likes princesses but isn't obsessed with them. She also loves Mickey, dinosaurs, sharks, playing doctor, etc. I'm really not concerned. There are bigger things to worry about in life. |
Anonymous
| Tremendous amount of defensiveness and projection in this thread. Not being into the whole Disney Princess machinery does not equal having a problem with frilly dresses and “girliness.” In fact, the conflation of the two kind of speaks to the success of said machinery. Also confused about how one is stubbornly and foolishly resisting The Inevitable Princessing by just... not watching a movie that, in many cases, the kid never even asks for. You MUST simply GET OVER YOURSELF and show your kid random movies you don’t care for— as if it’s actually hard work to simply... not show them to a kid who isn’t asking for them. If your kid is asking for them, well, that’s another story. But it’s totally fine for a parent not to show a THREE year old whatever they’d rather the child didn’t see... even if it’s a mild preference on the part of the parent. You don’t have to show them anything! |
Anonymous
Forgot to sign this— Mother of a 7-year-old girl who has dressed very very girly from the time she started expressing a preference, but never got into “Princesses,” ever, most likely *in part* because we largely— passively!— avoided them |
Anonymous
| It would all go in the garbage immediately. Yes, in front of relatives, who would have known beforehand that it would go in the garbage. |
Anonymous
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LOL, your overly obsessed nature about what you want to avoid for your kids will surely send them right into when they are able to.
We have friends like you. Banned a whole bunch of toys/themes for no really good reason. You know what those kids play with every damn time they come here. All of that stuff. Just like the parents that don't allow any junk food. Kids go mad a birthday parties. Moderation is the key. |
Anonymous
Lol, my kid’s super hippie dippy Montessori preschool, then her DC charter was all princesses all the time. Same with the playground and anywhere else preschool aged kids congregate. Good luck having an extroverted kid not ask for them when they’re the talk of the (preschool) town. |
Anonymous
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I just saw this --
What’s with the newfound fear of little girls wanting to be princesses? If your five-year-old starts saying she wants to be a princess, tell her ‘princess’ is a political position and that she has a responsibility to look out for her kingdom. Say you’ll be her royal advisor and help her improve her stuffed animal subjects’ standard of living. See THAT’S how you empower little girls. Not by taking away something they like, but showing them how what they like can be empowering. |
Anonymous
Plenty of commenters in this thread have made the distinction that if you are resisting Frozen due to a principled stance against the *disney* corporate machine then that is one thing. But, if you read the OP...in fact, it’s right there in the title...as well as several follow up posts and other posters, they are clearly talking generically about “other princess stuff.” There is absolutely a thread of misogyny in some of these posts. And your weird decision to resurrect an old thread with your defensiveness about something that no one disagrees with you on is...interesting. |
Anonymous
| I resisted so much for so long. My 7 yr old runs her own show now and it’s princesses, pierced ears, and a stupid Elf on the Shelf. |
Anonymous
| I try not to discourage DD from the things she enjoys. My mom was not supportive of my interests because she didn't think they were feminine, and I don't see the difference between that or me discouraging DD from her interests because they are. |
Anonymous
This. I actually really like all the "princesses" from Brave onward -- they are very strong, dynamic characters (as opposed to Cinderella or Snow White for example). Frozen is all about sisters saving one another, and how sisters before misters, its great. Though as others point out, the princess phase lasts until maybe first grade. Now both my girls (10 and 6) won't have anything to do with the princess stuff. Let them be kids while it lasts. |
Anonymous
| Another mom of a middle school girl here -- she was way into princesses until about age 7, then all of the skirts, dresses, pink, purple, glitter, etc. , all went in the giveaway bag. Now she's 13, and she asked if we could go to see Frozen 2 -- she, DH, and I all enjoyed it. DD and I were singing to the soundtrack the other day in the car, as I was taking her to learn about the weight room so she can get stronger to help her softball game. As others have said, "Let it go." The forbidden is always more exciting - better to discover it with your child and help her draw her own conclusions. |
Anonymous
I should have added that she is very much into human rights, and wanted to start a sidewalk catcall chalk campaign in Arlington (like they have in NYC). She is going to be a fierce advocate someday. |
Anonymous
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If my kids don't like how I raise them, they can raise their own kids differently.
Not a huge deal. I am anti-Princess/anti-Disney so it's not a play experience I'm making available in our home. What they play out of the home, I wouldn't try to control. |
Anonymous
| Enjoy the princess stuff while it lasts. My daughter now only wants and likes boy stuff and it is challenging in its own way. |