Why do ppl wait to rsvp to birthday invitations?

[Anonymous]

As a host, I can clearly see who open the invitation but they just don’t respond. Why do ppl do that?

[Anonymous]

Waiting for a better offer. The day before rsvp are the worst.

[Anonymous]

I’m going to ask my kid if they want to attend. They are currently in school. I’ll ask tonight and respond when I remember.

[Anonymous]

Because they want to ask their kid if they want to go

Because they have to talk to their spouse, look at their calendar, figure out which parent will take kid A to the party and which will take kid B to the soccer game

They need to remember what weekend grandma said she would show up.

They are on their mobile and want to wait until they are at their desktop so they can add it to their google calendar

They can't remember who your kid is and need to look at the class photo

They need to carpool with another family and need to see who is going first

[Anonymous]

Sports tournaments don’t post schedule until Wednesday.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I get that they don’t need to respond immediately but it has been more than 1 week. Some don’t even open the invitation until days later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sports tournaments don’t post schedule until Wednesday.

Not these kids. These are 3-4 year olds.

[Anonymous]

If it is one of my child's closest friends and we are available, I RSVP right away yes.
If we are traveling, I RSVP no right away.

If one of my other children has an activity, the venue is far and inconvenient or we are not especially close to the family, I may not respond right away. I am not waiting for a better offer. I'm just trying to figure out logistics and if it is worth the trouble and hassle of finding a sitter or giving up half MY Saturday to attend a party of a child we don't know well.

I did this recently and only RSVPd yes after I found a carpool to a party that is 30 min from our house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I get that they don’t need to respond immediately but it has been more than 1 week. Some don’t even open the invitation until days later.

Many people use email differently than you do. They may not check their personal accounts very often.

Also, once people do open it and then decide to wait, that's when the forgetting happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I get that they don’t need to respond immediately but it has been more than 1 week. Some don’t even open the invitation until days later.

Many people use email differently than you do. They may not check their personal accounts very often.

Also, once people do open it and then decide to wait, that's when the forgetting happens.

I always RSVP. My DH will never RSVP. He will open, maybe mention it to me and then totally forget about it unless the host asks him to follow up.

[Anonymous]

Sports schedules, family schedules etc

I intentionally don’t open them until I’m ready to RSVP. I leave the invite unread or whatever. You can see the date in the app without actually opening the invitation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sports tournaments don’t post schedule until Wednesday.

Usually parents rsvp and say they need to leave early or have sports.

[Anonymous]

This is why I give an RSVP deadline - usually the Wednesday before a Saturday afternoon party - then I delete all the non-responders from the invitation on Thursday. Easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it is one of my child's closest friends and we are available, I RSVP right away yes.
If we are traveling, I RSVP no right away.

If one of my other children has an activity, the venue is far and inconvenient or we are not especially close to the family, I may not respond right away. I am not waiting for a better offer. I'm just trying to figure out logistics and if it is worth the trouble and hassle of finding a sitter or giving up half MY Saturday to attend a party of a child we don't know well.

I did this recently and only RSVPd yes after I found a carpool to a party that is 30 min from our house.

If you need a ride, contact the host. It’s really crappy to late rsvp as adding a few kids is a huge cost and issues with food. If you don’t want to go, just say no upfront.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I get that they don’t need to respond immediately but it has been more than 1 week. Some don’t even open the invitation until days later.

Many people use email differently than you do. They may not check their personal accounts very often.

Also, once people do open it and then decide to wait, that's when the forgetting happens.

That is why I send paper and evite. Still the same issue. People are rude. Just decline.