Why do ppl wait to rsvp to birthday invitations?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sports tournaments don’t post schedule until Wednesday.

Not these kids. These are 3-4 year olds.

Unless none of the children have siblings, “not these kids” is oversimplifying the situation. If your party is not a drop off party, then one parent needs to be free, while the other parent gets siblings to the day’s games, practices, or parties for their friends too.. If you need an answer by a certain date then just say “RSVP by date”, until that date, relax, and stop the daily stalking of the invitation-viewing activity.

I am saying this from a place of trying to be helpful. I used to think like you, OP, but have learned to let go a little about stuff and life is more enjoyable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sports tournaments don’t post schedule until Wednesday.

Usually parents rsvp and say they need to leave early or have sports.

But they don't know if they will yet...so they wait.

[Anonymous]

OP is clearly a mom whose oldest (and probably only) is a preschooler.

Wait a few years, OP. You'll see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sports tournaments don’t post schedule until Wednesday.

Not these kids. These are 3-4 year olds.

Unless none of the children have siblings, “not these kids” is oversimplifying the situation. If your party is not a drop off party, then one parent needs to be free, while the other parent gets siblings to the day’s games, practices, or parties for their friends too.. If you need an answer by a certain date then just say “RSVP by date”, until that date, relax, and stop the daily stalking of the invitation-viewing activity.

I am saying this from a place of trying to be helpful. I used to think like you, OP, but have learned to let go a little about stuff and life is more enjoyable.

I have 3 kids. Youngest just started preschool. Older kids are in elementary and very busy. I have declined several events for the youngest due to older kids activities. Poor third child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because they want to ask their kid if they want to go

Because they have to talk to their spouse, look at their calendar, figure out which parent will take kid A to the party and which will take kid B to the soccer game

They need to remember what weekend grandma said she would show up.

They are on their mobile and want to wait until they are at their desktop so they can add it to their google calendar

They can't remember who your kid is and need to look at the class photo

They need to carpool with another family and need to see who is going first

This. There can be lots to coordinate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sports tournaments don’t post schedule until Wednesday.

Not these kids. These are 3-4 year olds.

Unless none of the children have siblings, “not these kids” is oversimplifying the situation. If your party is not a drop off party, then one parent needs to be free, while the other parent gets siblings to the day’s games, practices, or parties for their friends too.. If you need an answer by a certain date then just say “RSVP by date”, until that date, relax, and stop the daily stalking of the invitation-viewing activity.

I am saying this from a place of trying to be helpful. I used to think like you, OP, but have learned to let go a little about stuff and life is more enjoyable.

I have 3 kids. Youngest just started preschool. Older kids are in elementary and very busy. I have declined several events for the youngest due to older kids activities. Poor third child.

Right, but if there’s a chance my youngest child can make it to the party, I will try my best to get her there because I know she’ll have a good time. I just don’t always know at the moment I get the invitation whether I can make it happen.

[Anonymous]

I usually RSVP by the date it says to , even if I read it I need to make sure someone will be available to bring the child since I have 4 kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is clearly a mom whose oldest (and probably only) is a preschooler.

Wait a few years, OP. You'll see.

We are heavily into sports and other activities. You absolutely know sports schedules except maybe if your team gets to the finals. If you have multiple kids its no excuse for ignoring. Just decline. If you have more kids, you need to be more organized and figure it out and stop relying on others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I usually RSVP by the date it says to , even if I read it I need to make sure someone will be available to bring the child since I have 4 kids.

I feel bad for you kids that they don't get to do things individually as transportation is a huge issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is clearly a mom whose oldest (and probably only) is a preschooler.

Wait a few years, OP. You'll see.

We are heavily into sports and other activities. You absolutely know sports schedules except maybe if your team gets to the finals. If you have multiple kids its no excuse for ignoring. Just decline. If you have more kids, you need to be more organized and figure it out and stop relying on others.

A response isn't due until the RSVP date. The fact that OP can see who has opened it is irrelevant. No response is owed until the date listed, and the person's reasons for delay are her own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sports tournaments don’t post schedule until Wednesday.

Not these kids. These are 3-4 year olds.

Unless none of the children have siblings, “not these kids” is oversimplifying the situation. If your party is not a drop off party, then one parent needs to be free, while the other parent gets siblings to the day’s games, practices, or parties for their friends too.. If you need an answer by a certain date then just say “RSVP by date”, until that date, relax, and stop the daily stalking of the invitation-viewing activity.

I am saying this from a place of trying to be helpful. I used to think like you, OP, but have learned to let go a little about stuff and life is more enjoyable.

I have 3 kids. Youngest just started preschool. Older kids are in elementary and very busy. I have declined several events for the youngest due to older kids activities. Poor third child.

Right, but if there’s a chance my youngest child can make it to the party, I will try my best to get her there because I know she’ll have a good time. I just don’t always know at the moment I get the invitation whether I can make it happen.

Pp here. Parties also often seem to be around 3, which is when she is napping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is clearly a mom whose oldest (and probably only) is a preschooler.

Wait a few years, OP. You'll see.

We are heavily into sports and other activities. You absolutely know sports schedules except maybe if your team gets to the finals. If you have multiple kids its no excuse for ignoring. Just decline. If you have more kids, you need to be more organized and figure it out and stop relying on others.

A response isn't due until the RSVP date. The fact that OP can see who has opened it is irrelevant. No response is owed until the date listed, and the person's reasons for delay are her own.

Its really crummy, but I never give a date as I know we'll have a few last minute. Its very hard to plan with food/expenses when you get a lot of kids showing up especially if you invite more thinking the others aren't coming. We had 1/2 the party not RSVP once - about 18 kid and it was a problem with the venue as initially they refused to order more pizza. Luckily we got a huge cake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is clearly a mom whose oldest (and probably only) is a preschooler.

Wait a few years, OP. You'll see.

We are heavily into sports and other activities. You absolutely know sports schedules except maybe if your team gets to the finals. If you have multiple kids its no excuse for ignoring. Just decline. If you have more kids, you need to be more organized and figure it out and stop relying on others.

A response isn't due until the RSVP date. The fact that OP can see who has opened it is irrelevant. No response is owed until the date listed, and the person's reasons for delay are her own.

Its really crummy, but I never give a date as I know we'll have a few last minute. Its very hard to plan with food/expenses when you get a lot of kids showing up especially if you invite more thinking the others aren't coming. We had 1/2 the party not RSVP once - about 18 kid and it was a problem with the venue as initially they refused to order more pizza. Luckily we got a huge cake.

Over the years, I have complained about this. If someone doesn’t rsvp yes, it is simply a no.

[Anonymous]

You should set and RSVP date and it would be nice if people could try their best to meet it.
People don’t respond immediately for a whole host of reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because they want to ask their kid if they want to go

Because they have to talk to their spouse, look at their calendar, figure out which parent will take kid A to the party and which will take kid B to the soccer game

They need to remember what weekend grandma said she would show up.

They are on their mobile and want to wait until they are at their desktop so they can add it to their google calendar

They can't remember who your kid is and need to look at the class photo

They need to carpool with another family and need to see who is going first

+1.