Why do ppl wait to rsvp to birthday invitations?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because they want to ask their kid if they want to go

Because they have to talk to their spouse, look at their calendar, figure out which parent will take kid A to the party and which will take kid B to the soccer game

They need to remember what weekend grandma said she would show up.

They are on their mobile and want to wait until they are at their desktop so they can add it to their google calendar

They can't remember who your kid is and need to look at the class photo

They need to carpool with another family and need to see who is going first

This. There can be lots to coordinate

Exactly and frankly, your child's birthday party is not my top priority.

If it’s so low down your list, why even put that much mental energy into it? Just click no. Send regrets.

I find it hilarious that no one has the time to click no on an evite, but can post about it on DCUM.

NP. OP was complaining about people who wait to respond or who open an invitation and (gasp!) don't immediately know whether they can attend. People may not open your evite with five minutes of you sending it for a variety of reasons, some of which were listed above. If OP was asking why people never open it, that's a different story. So settle down.

Follow the bouncing ball. OP is complaining about people opening and then needing more than a week to respond.

If sports are that important to your family, that you will wait until the last minute for a change. then respond no to parties.

[Anonymous]

Waiting till the deadline to RSVP is not a failure to RSVP- they're still within the deadline. If you don't give a deadline at all, that's a bad practice.

My kid was once invited via evite to a party but the parent had mistyped my email address, leaving out a number. I guess it the invite went to an actual email address and that person opened it, but it wasn't me. So, things like that happen. Though if I had received an invite in what was clearly an error, I would write the host and tell them they had the wrong address, but the other person did not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because they want to ask their kid if they want to go

Because they have to talk to their spouse, look at their calendar, figure out which parent will take kid A to the party and which will take kid B to the soccer game

They need to remember what weekend grandma said she would show up.

They are on their mobile and want to wait until they are at their desktop so they can add it to their google calendar

They can't remember who your kid is and need to look at the class photo

They need to carpool with another family and need to see who is going first

This. There can be lots to coordinate

Exactly and frankly, your child's birthday party is not my top priority.

If it’s so low down your list, why even put that much mental energy into it? Just click no. Send regrets.

I find it hilarious that no one has the time to click no on an evite, but can post about it on DCUM.

NP. OP was complaining about people who wait to respond or who open an invitation and (gasp!) don't immediately know whether they can attend. People may not open your evite with five minutes of you sending it for a variety of reasons, some of which were listed above. If OP was asking why people never open it, that's a different story. So settle down.

Follow the bouncing ball. OP is complaining about people opening and then needing more than a week to respond.

If sports are that important to your family, that you will wait until the last minute for a change. then respond no to parties.

Well, you're a peach. To be honest, I don't really care if I annoy people like you.

[Anonymous]

I don’t open the invite until I know if I want to go, because if people like op.

[Anonymous]

"I’m going to ask my kid if they want to attend. They are currently in school. I’ll ask tonight and respond when I remember."

+1
Although sometimes it takes me a few days to remember to ask my kid & then log back into the invite.

[Anonymous]

I open the invite and then I need to check the calendar to figure out if it's remotely doable, check in w/ DH to see if everything relevant is on the calendar/how we could swing the party given whatever the specific logistics are and then, if it's a possible go, ask the kid(s) if they want to go (almost always yes for us, since our kids love parties). I usually forget to do all of the confirmation for a few days and then confirm when I'm not near a computer and then forget to reply for a few days afterwards. Truthfully, I'm just really busy and not on my personal email all that often. I always reply when I get a reminder (since I've always figured out the answer by then); in fact, I wouldn't mind if people sent them sooner!

I did just see this thread and remember I hadn't RSVPed to a party invite from last week and so went and did so... So this thread helped at least one person be less annoying for the host

[Anonymous]

OP here. I should have listed RSVP by date. The parties that we have been invited to do not have RSVP by dates. I wasn’t sure if it’s acceptable to.

My complaint is about people who don’t bother to RSVP. For instance, one of the moms told me at another party that they will be out of town starting x date. My party is after the date. Why not rsvp no? I just don’t get it. It has been one week, and more than half the ppl hasn’t responded and the majority of them don’t have more than 1 kid. In fact, the ones with multiple kids seemed to actually respond.

Is it acceptable to add the rsvp by date now? I would have to send a msg to say that isn’t it?

[Anonymous]

I respond quickly if it is a very close friend who is a priority. I also tend to respond quickly if it is any classmate, if they date and time work really well. However - if the time and date line up with other birthdays the same weekend and it's just too much - I might sit on it and think which one to axe. Or - if I am not sure about a plan we have for the weekend in question - I also might sit on it. I usually mark my calendar for a future date to remind myself to RSVP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I should have listed RSVP by date. The parties that we have been invited to do not have RSVP by dates. I wasn’t sure if it’s acceptable to.

My complaint is about people who don’t bother to RSVP. For instance, one of the moms told me at another party that they will be out of town starting x date. My party is after the date. Why not rsvp no? I just don’t get it. It has been one week, and more than half the ppl hasn’t responded and the majority of them don’t have more than 1 kid. In fact, the ones with multiple kids seemed to actually respond.

Is it acceptable to add the rsvp by date now? I would have to send a msg to say that isn’t it?

Totally fine to send a follow up a week later saying "The place needs our numbers by XX. Please RSVP by then!"

[Anonymous]

It's before the RSVP date, right? Why do you care?

[Anonymous]

I'm sure OP can hypothesize why some people don't immediately RSVP, but she really wants just wants to stir up drama because she's tired of checking her evite views.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's before the RSVP date, right? Why do you care?

This. People have busy lives and schedules. It’s normal to need some time to coordinate before RSVPing yes. That’s why there is an RSVP date that is not immediate. OP is too narcissistic to be able to take the perspective of other people (who have lives).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because they want to ask their kid if they want to go

Because they have to talk to their spouse, look at their calendar, figure out which parent will take kid A to the party and which will take kid B to the soccer game

They need to remember what weekend grandma said she would show up.

They are on their mobile and want to wait until they are at their desktop so they can add it to their google calendar

They can't remember who your kid is and need to look at the class photo

They need to carpool with another family and need to see who is going first

This. There can be lots to coordinate

Exactly and frankly, your child's birthday party is not my top priority.

If it’s so low down your list, why even put that much mental energy into it? Just click no. Send regrets.

I find it hilarious that no one has the time to click no on an evite, but can post about it on DCUM.

NP. OP was complaining about people who wait to respond or who open an invitation and (gasp!) don't immediately know whether they can attend. People may not open your evite with five minutes of you sending it for a variety of reasons, some of which were listed above. If OP was asking why people never open it, that's a different story. So settle down.

Follow the bouncing ball. OP is complaining about people opening and then needing more than a week to respond.

If sports are that important to your family, that you will wait until the last minute for a change. then respond no to parties.

Well, you're a peach. To be honest, I don't really care if I annoy people like you.

And you're not? Do better, don't be rude, rsvp timely even if there isn't a deadline. Like Pooh said, a little consideration goes a long way.

[Anonymous]

Because they are selfish and rude

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to ask my kid if they want to attend. They are currently in school. I’ll ask tonight and respond when I remember.

I have a cut off date of two weeks and if you haven't responded, your kid is off the invitation list. No excuse for not responding within two weeks. I also allow no siblings irrespective of age.