S/O siblings at bday party - what if the invitation did not say anything about that?

[Anonymous]

If the invitation did not say yes or not to sibling, is it okay to ask the party organizer if it is okay to bring a sibling?

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

No. The person whose name is on the invitation is invited to the party--and no one else.

[Anonymous]

no--if they wanted siblings, they would have mentioned siblings

[Anonymous]

IME, the organizer will make it very clear if siblings are included. Err on the side of siblings not being invited. Asking the host is awkward.

[Anonymous]

Please don't ask.

[Anonymous]

Rule of thumb: siblings are not invited unless explicitly stated

[Anonymous]

I think it's rude because then the organizer feels compelled to say yes. If it's at a venue, the organizer is likely paying per head. If I want to include a sibling, I put both kids names on the evite.

Why do you need to bring a sibling? Can you drop off the invited kid at the party and then leave with the sibling and come back for pickup?

[Anonymous]

What the heck. Stop bringing siblings!

[Anonymous]

No! How do people not know this?

[Anonymous]

No, its not ok. We say siblings and parents welcome. If you don't see that, siblings are not welcome.

[Anonymous]

I agree that no, it is not okay. But these questions always remind me of when my kids were in preschool. Most invitations were silent regarding siblings so naturally, I brought my one invited child. I would get to the party and it would be swarming with siblings and sometimes TWO parents per family and the entire party I'd have people asking me, "Where is [uninvited sibling]?" and I'd just say, "Home with [DH]." But so wanted to say, "I left him home because the invitation DID NOT SAY SIBLINGS WELCOME!!!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree that no, it is not okay. But these questions always remind me of when my kids were in preschool. Most invitations were silent regarding siblings so naturally, I brought my one invited child. I would get to the party and it would be swarming with siblings and sometimes TWO parents per family and the entire party I'd have people asking me, "Where is [uninvited sibling]?" and I'd just say, "Home with [DH]." But so wanted to say, "I left him home because the invitation DID NOT SAY SIBLINGS WELCOME!!!"

I have a 3 and a 1 year old and everyone wants to know where my DH and 1 year old are. It's for sure a problem.

[Anonymous]

NP. Follow up question. If my spouse and I get invited to a work dinner and my boss doesn’t say not to bring the kids, is it okay to bring them? What if I bring a sitter to keep them entertained. What if my sister is visiting from out of town and she wants to try that restaurant, can I bring her too?

Other follow up: if my kid and I are invited to his friend’s house for a play date, and the timing works out that it’s right after soccer practice, can I bring all the kids in my carpool? Their parents won’t mind. It’s only 4 additional kids, and play dates at people’s houses are even less formal than birthday parties, so it’s ok, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that no, it is not okay. But these questions always remind me of when my kids were in preschool. Most invitations were silent regarding siblings so naturally, I brought my one invited child. I would get to the party and it would be swarming with siblings and sometimes TWO parents per family and the entire party I'd have people asking me, "Where is [uninvited sibling]?" and I'd just say, "Home with [DH]." But so wanted to say, "I left him home because the invitation DID NOT SAY SIBLINGS WELCOME!!!"

I have a 3 and a 1 year old and everyone wants to know where my DH and 1 year old are. It's for sure a problem.

No, it's not a problem. They are just making conversation. Trust me, they don't really want another kid and adult mouth to feed there.