RTO and No Childcare.

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^ Btw, those of us in the private sector don’t get to set our own hours like that. If an important meeting is scheduled with my SVP at 4pm I can’t just peace out bc my shift is over. I mean I can, but that would have consequences long-term

[Anonymous]

this thread is so far off the rails, if people are suggesting that parents pay for child care spots they ARE NOT USING. And if they don't do that, then they are not "responsible parents." It's like something Lucy Huber would post on twitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ Btw, those of us in the private sector don’t get to set our own hours like that. If an important meeting is scheduled with my SVP at 4pm I can’t just peace out bc my shift is over. I mean I can, but that would have consequences long-term

see, that swing is what 'situation telework' is for, which is something feds won't be allowed to do. What do you want? 8 hours in office, or some ability to be flexible around those off-core-hour meetings?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not a lack of childcare that’s the problem; it’s that these women want to have it both ways. They don’t want to pay anyone else to watch their children, they prefer to fleece their employers.

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There are plenty of before and after care options. People just don’t want to pay. Though it’s the responsibility of mom and dad, not just mom, in ideal circumstances.

-A single mom breadwinner with sole custody who pays for child care and full time summer camp

Completely depends where you are, all the daycare centers that offer full daycare are at capacity around me. Preschool runs until 3pm at the latest. There is a waitlist for the school offered after care if your kid is school age.

There is a waitlist if you sign up today. If you had signed up years ago when your kid started K, you would be off the waitlist by now.

Look, I totally get that people wanted to save money on childcare and have their kids home with them. But just own it. Own that it was a choice that you intentionally made. It was great while it lasted but now you have to pay the piper and it’s not everybody else’s fault/problem.

So you think a kid who has a parent at home after school should spend years in aftercare just in case? I doubt a program with a wait-list would let you pay for a spot youre not using. I do not think that is rational.

They could actually use the spot. We have plenty of neighbors who do that. They actually have to do work at home so they can't pop out to the bus stop or get snacks out or host a playdate while "working".

Again, this is on parents who thought they could F around and found out.

I work from 7 to 3:30. DH gets the kids out in am while I am working (in my office in the basement with the door closed. I rarely see them). I pick them up at the bus 30 minutes AFTER the end of my work day. This is what most parents do. Do you have plenty of neighbors who keep their kids in aftercare when they are not working? I do not think DCUM approves.

What’s stopping you from doing that going forward? If your commute is long, do 6:30-3 instead.

DH has to commute in the am now too. He is a BU so hopefully only 2 days a week.

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Anonymous wrote:this thread seems to be overrun with trolls and/or bots... who says parents want to fleece their employers?

its terrible to be part-way through the school year and have to scramble to find extra care because now one or both working parents needs to work from an office.

i feel for all the working families out there trying to scramble midway through the year to re arrange their schedules and/or find care.

Guess what happened during the 2020-2021 school year. Schools randomly closed with little to no notice. They called off hybrid sometimes with a fews hours notice. Guess what parents who work outside the home did. They figured it out. They had backups. They paid for care knowing it was best to have it when it was needed.

It is positively insane to say that "everything worked out" for families with young kids during covid.

The most overused word. Just like "awesome" in the 90s.

Try to think of something original.

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Can't believe all the whiners out there. Take some responsibility for your offspring.

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Anonymous wrote:this thread seems to be overrun with trolls and/or bots... who says parents want to fleece their employers?

its terrible to be part-way through the school year and have to scramble to find extra care because now one or both working parents needs to work from an office.

i feel for all the working families out there trying to scramble midway through the year to re arrange their schedules and/or find care.

Guess what happened during the 2020-2021 school year. Schools randomly closed with little to no notice. They called off hybrid sometimes with a fews hours notice. Guess what parents who work outside the home did. They figured it out. They had backups. They paid for care knowing it was best to have it when it was needed.

It is positively insane to say that "everything worked out" for families with young kids during covid.

The most overused word. Just like "awesome" in the 90s.

Try to think of something original.

Deranged. Out of touch.

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Anonymous wrote:Can't believe all the whiners out there. Take some responsibility for your offspring.

they're YOUR children, Steven. But you refuse to pay child support so here we are.

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Anonymous wrote:this thread seems to be overrun with trolls and/or bots... who says parents want to fleece their employers?

its terrible to be part-way through the school year and have to scramble to find extra care because now one or both working parents needs to work from an office.

i feel for all the working families out there trying to scramble midway through the year to re arrange their schedules and/or find care.

Guess what happened during the 2020-2021 school year. Schools randomly closed with little to no notice. They called off hybrid sometimes with a fews hours notice. Guess what parents who work outside the home did. They figured it out. They had backups. They paid for care knowing it was best to have it when it was needed.

Yeah, and there were horrible negative repercussions to kids. Is that what you are supporting?

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Karen, we are talking about working in an office.

Are you suggesting schools are childcare because the teachers will come for you.

Janice, you are the one saying that "everyone just made it work" during covid. There were no backups, there was no care. Everything you said was false.

But do suggest that I put teachers down somehow, as some sort of bait.

How do you all know each other's names?

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Anonymous wrote:this thread is so far off the rails, if people are suggesting that parents pay for child care spots they ARE NOT USING. And if they don't do that, then they are not "responsible parents." It's like something Lucy Huber would post on twitter.

I think it’s ridiculous to have to get a plan to pay for childcare to account for commuting time for those jobs where it isn’t necessary, but paying for childcare spots that we only needed sometimes is exactly what we used to do. I paid for full time before care to be able to drop my kid off 10 minutes early three days a week. Once in a blue moon he was in there for the full hour plus, but o always held my spot.

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Anonymous wrote:Another reason why 1950s America was better.

For white mothers.
Black mothers didn’t have that privilege

For some, white, middle to upper class mothers who had living husbands.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:this thread is so far off the rails, if people are suggesting that parents pay for child care spots they ARE NOT USING. And if they don't do that, then they are not "responsible parents." It's like something Lucy Huber would post on twitter.

I think it’s ridiculous to have to get a plan to pay for childcare to account for commuting time for those jobs where it isn’t necessary, but paying for childcare spots that we only needed sometimes is exactly what we used to do. I paid for full time before care to be able to drop my kid off 10 minutes early three days a week. Once in a blue moon he was in there for the full hour plus, but o always held my spot.

Those are different things, you understand. You pay for something that you use occasionally, which is different from paying for something that you never intend to use.

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People didn't get childcare and WFH, making school runs or doing baby care or whatever at home.

[Anonymous]

Karen, Janice, Steven. How do you all know each other??

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I'm interested: How much do people think before and aftercare is per month? Or what do you pay and where do you live?