Please use adult language. Did you even graduate from high school? And stop having children if you can't afford to raise them. Are you a teen mom? You sound like it. |
I'm a bit of an outlier here in that our only kid still at home is a middle schooler so I fully remember the pre-Covid times of paying for aftercare at the parochial school our kid attends. We'll make RTO work but it comes with logistical challenges and financial tradeoffs.
For neighborhood families with younger kids in public school, there are very limited after-school options even at the beginning of the school year. Incoming kindergarten parents are often scrambling and being wait listed at places. |
+1 There are plenty of before and after care options. People just don’t want to pay. Though it’s the responsibility of mom and dad, not just mom, in ideal circumstances. -A single mom breadwinner with sole custody who pays for child care and full time summer camp |
Np, and I told a coworker last week that I suspected lack of childcare as the real reason many are flipping out over RTO. I also suspect some are working two jobs. |
What you’re describing late precovid problems. Parents always had to use leave for random school closures and sick kids. Vacation time for actual vacations was limited due to how much time you used for these things. Activities started later in the evenings or you found a HS kid with a driver’s license to drive your kid. Many people who could afford it hired nannies. The rest of us used our leave and had our kids in evening activities. |
Given that my office is 2 hours away (my job was advertised, and I was hired, fully remote), this actually would make me quit. I'd try to stick out a full RTO with flexible hours. And yes, OP, for me it's the aftercare. My kids were in day care until elementary and now we just have an after school sitter the one day a week neither of us can make school pickup (husband works in person locally and has a lot of flexibility, I am remote and start my day early). It costs us $200/month. Putting both of my kids in daily aftercare would be over $1200, plus getting to the office costs me $26/day, of which I think commuter benefits would only offset about $130. So we're talking about $1600/month higher cost of RTO. My take home is only about $4000. Unfortunately I'm the higher earner, so I couldn't quit unless I found a job locally near my MUCH smaller town, or my husband changed to a higher paying career. But yeah, while i paid for 10 years of full time day care, my current life IS set up around being remote, just as my job offer said. This would be a big impact. |
Hilarious. One of the grandparents this woman was fortunate and privileged enough to have available for child care has this admonition for those who do not have that option: “return to reality, ladies.” Lol—you don’t know what reality is. |
Plenty of white women worked too |
Why are you only putting the onus on the ladies? 🙄 And plenty of us paid for high quality infant care. We didn’t foist it on grandparents with outdated notions of gender roles. But moochers gonna mooch. |
Lol. You missed by a mile. Keep playing. |
Again, any RTO mandate will have so many loopholes and exceptions, it’ll look like Swiss cheese — Ad hoc telework, medical exceptions, etc etc. And in the end, things won’t be much different than now.
But DOGE can claim victory and move on. And the maga public won’t know the difference. Do you know who’s really screwed? MANAGERS and HR staff, who will spend 90 pct of their day addressing requests and reviewing badge data, etc. What a stupid policy. |
lol. Why stop at 8-6? Why not 6 to 6? Or 4am to 8 pm? |
You're not a teacher, are you? |
I’d say telework saved me about 3-4 years of aftercare. But that’s for an older kid - he didn’t need any hands-on care while I was working. |
I say “ladies” because we all know there are no men on this thread. And in my post I made clear that THEY - not “she” - made arrangements for childcare when THEY decided to have kids. I’m also sorry that you don’t have a more helpful mother. Sucks for you. |