Should I be honest with a friend & tell her the reason she is still single is bcause she has 4 kids?
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Anonymous
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Honesty is the best policy.
Deep down inside she must already know this though. Am I right? |
Anonymous
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If it's that obvious, she already knows deep down.
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Anonymous
| Do you want her to stop talking to you for a while? Go ahead and tell her. |
Anonymous
| I would not say anything because, well... what is she supposed to do about it? You are stating (what you think is) the obvious. |
Anonymous
| My idiot stepfather married my mo. With 7 kids—although only 5 were still at home. That’s not the reason she’s not getting married. |
Anonymous
| I have no kids and I’m m single. My best friend has 3 and she is dating tons of guys. I think personality is the key. Mine sucks hers not so much. |
Anonymous
Yikes! He must have been around 50 or 60 and she must have been in her 30s. |
Anonymous
Do they know she has 3 kids? Probably not. |
Anonymous
| My cousin had three kids with three different dads by age 23 (long story). Her childhood best friend married her and they have been happily married for 25 years. |
Anonymous
Yes she’s very open about it. None have seemed to care. She mostly dates younger guys though. She is 38 and they are 25-30 |
Anonymous
| Does she want to date you and you don't want to? Then, yes, be honest. But why would you speak for everyone else? |
Anonymous
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To what end is telling her this. She can’t ditch the kids the way she could lose 50 lbs or quit smoking or get rid of the 11s between her eyes with a little Botox.
They are her kids. If guys are scared off by the fact she has three kids, this benefits her and the kids. It would be much worse to marry a man who doesn’t want to be a committed stepfather. |
Anonymous
Two words: medical experiments. |
Anonymous
So you're saying those guys probably don't care because they're not in it for long term. |
Anonymous
| Its probably her or the dynamic. 4 kids is a lot but its workable. If she dates younger men and she doesn't want more kids that is a huge issue. |