Should I be honest with a friend & tell her the reason she is still single is bcause she has 4 kids?

[Anonymous]

you actually don't know that's the reason. My friend has 6 kids, all young, and she met someone a year ago. He has a couple kids as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honesty is the best policy.
Deep down inside she must already know this though.
Am I right?

yes, 4 kids with how many different men?

[Anonymous]

My friend married a man who adored her - she had five kids. Her ex-husband cheated and was abusive. I think she got what she deserved (in a good way!). They’re an awesome family.

If you want to be an ass, OP, go right ahead.

[Anonymous]

She doesn't need to be told, she knows it so there is no need to pile on.

[Anonymous]

There is another thread about a 38 year old single never married woman falling in love with a widower with three kids. Sometimes people get lucky.

[Anonymous]

What do you expect to accomplish in telling her this?

1. I'm sure she already knows that her large family is difficult for some men.

2. What could she possibly do in response to your revelation?

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure if it's the 4 kids. I have 3 kids and am a widow. I dated a good amount and come with a ton of baggage. However I'm financially independent. Didn't stop me from getting remarried at age 36 to a man age 39.

I feel like having a career, bring fit, and keeping a nice appearance goes a long way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is another thread about a 38 year old single never married woman falling in love with a widower with three kids. Sometimes people get lucky.

It's different with men because the men is more likely to remain the provider for his own children. No man is going to want a mom of four unless he is also bringing children into the marriage.

[Anonymous]

My FIL married a woman with 10, yes ten kids.

[Anonymous]

At a certain point, the number of kids a person has will have less of an impact. The older the kids get the less it matters.

I have 4-- ages 17, 19, 22 and 25. No man I date cares because there is no caretaking involved.

[Anonymous]

^^

I honestly feel like op wants to say this to her "friend" to try and bring her down. There is no logical reason, or at least none provided, to say something like this to a friend unless the goal is to hurt them.

[Anonymous]

There are many men around that love kids.

She would just have to focus on meeting a family- oriented type man.
Maybe even one w/his own kids such as a widower or a divorced Father.

Kris Jenner did it.
As did Heidi Klum recently.

It can be done.

[Anonymous]

Friends introduced to a woman with 3 younger kids. She was gorgeous, smart, very nice. We never went out on a 1 on 1 because she always spoke with a completely unnecessary intensity. I tried to ignore it, but it was over the top.

Point is I with or without the kids, I wouldn’t date her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are many men around that love kids.

She would just have to focus on meeting a family- oriented type man.
Maybe even one w/his own kids such as a widower or a divorced Father.

Kris Jenner did it.
As did Heidi Klum recently.

It can be done.

You're comparing some run-of-the-mill divorced mom of four to Heidi Klum? Heidi Klum could probably get men to pay to marry her! Some suburban mom with four mouths to feed and is looking for a provider? NO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are many men around that love kids.

She would just have to focus on meeting a family- oriented type man.
Maybe even one w/his own kids such as a widower or a divorced Father.

Kris Jenner did it.
As did Heidi Klum recently.

It can be done.

You're comparing some run-of-the-mill divorced mom of four to Heidi Klum? Heidi Klum could probably get men to pay to marry her! Some suburban mom with four mouths to feed and is looking for a provider? NO.

Why do you assumecshe’s looking for a provider?