Should I be honest with a friend & tell her the reason she is still single is bcause she has 4 kids?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A single mom with 4 kids doesn't have time to date.

They might be 12-17 and largely self-sufficient.

Do you have teenagers?

I don't agree that a mom with 4 kids can't date. If it's a priority she can. But I am laughing at the idea that your kids turn 12 and stop being so time consuming.

I had two kids and DH still married me. My 13 year old was more self-sufficient at 10 than her biological dad is at 50. She likes to cook so a few times a month, she walks to the grocery store with alist and can get dinner on the table in two hours. I would absolutely be able to leave her for 3-4 hours a couple nights a week if I needed to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honesty is the best policy.
Deep down inside she must already know this though.
Am I right?

Four kids later she finally realized he was loser? Teases out awful judgment. Tell her to raise the kids and stop worrying about dating. She made her bed. Does she want to screw up 4 kids parading a bunch of random men through the house?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There are many men around that love kids.

She would just have to focus on meeting a family- oriented type man.
Maybe even one w/his own kids such as a widower or a divorced Father.

Kris Jenner did it.
As did Heidi Klum recently.

It can be done.

You're comparing some run-of-the-mill divorced mom of four to Heidi Klum? Heidi Klum could probably get men to pay to marry her! Some suburban mom with four mouths to feed and is looking for a provider? NO.

Why do you assumecshe’s looking for a provider?

Because 4 kids and a wife = $$$$$$$$$

[Anonymous]

Hush on that. It is not the issue. I have three rambunctious boys (seriously, I might as well have 8 kids for as much energy as they have) and have absolutely no problems dating. I once asked my long term boyfriend why he didn’t run screaming when I told him (I always tell guys right away), and he said he knew what he was getting into. He said my personality shone through from our very first interaction and I was hot so he was willing to give it a go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hush on that. It is not the issue. I have three rambunctious boys (seriously, I might as well have 8 kids for as much energy as they have) and have absolutely no problems dating. I once asked my long term boyfriend why he didn’t run screaming when I told him (I always tell guys right away), and he said he knew what he was getting into. He said my personality shone through from our very first interaction and I was hot so he was willing to give it a go.

He sounds desperate and/or just stringing you along. Good luck w that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hush on that. It is not the issue. I have three rambunctious boys (seriously, I might as well have 8 kids for as much energy as they have) and have absolutely no problems dating. I once asked my long term boyfriend why he didn’t run screaming when I told him (I always tell guys right away), and he said he knew what he was getting into. He said my personality shone through from our very first interaction and I was hot so he was willing to give it a go.

He sounds desperate and/or just stringing you along. Good luck w that.

I always wonder about these guys who date single moms, and one of my friends (guy) married one. It turns out that he has a savior complex about being a 'good guy' and wanting to fulfil some father figure role. It's weird to see him get mixed up in his stepkids' problems whether it's money or romantic relationships. Like dude, why do you do this to yourself?