Husband sleeps on couch after arguments

[Anonymous]

We’ve been married less than two years and he started doing this the first six months. When I stopped letting it bother me eg I stopped pointing it out. Matter of fact I would spread out on the whole bed and enjoy it. When he realized it wasn’t getting to me, he stopped. We had an argument last night and he slept on the couch.

We just suffered a miscarriage and things are a bit sensitive so my feelings are a bit hurt with the couch thing again. Should I ignore it? What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been married less than two years and he started doing this the first six months. When I stopped letting it bother me eg I stopped pointing it out. Matter of fact I would spread out on the whole bed and enjoy it. When he realized it wasn’t getting to me, he stopped. We had an argument last night and he slept on the couch.

We just suffered a miscarriage and things are a bit sensitive so my feelings are a bit hurt with the couch thing again. Should I ignore it? What should I do?

First, I'm sorry about the miscarriage. Have hope. I had multiple multiple and now have two amazing children.

But what is his goal sleeping on the couch, to hurt you? I think I'd try to detach, but ask him if it was comfortable, how he slept, and ask him why he's doing it.

[Anonymous]

I am not sure his sleeping on the couch is a personal attack on you. Many people just need some physical space to clear their heads or to decompress. He may also feel if he stays the argument will just start up again.

[Anonymous]

I sometimes sleep on the couch after an argument. I just want a little space, I feel like if I stay in the bed next to him I actually keep getting annoyed at whatever the argument was about. We’ve been married a long time so my husband doesn’t think much of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been married less than two years and he started doing this the first six months. When I stopped letting it bother me eg I stopped pointing it out. Matter of fact I would spread out on the whole bed and enjoy it. When he realized it wasn’t getting to me, he stopped. We had an argument last night and he slept on the couch.

We just suffered a miscarriage and things are a bit sensitive so my feelings are a bit hurt with the couch thing again. Should I ignore it? What should I do?

You may want to try get him to explain why he is doing it and see if there is a better way to handle arguments.

My wife and I once had an argument and she slept in the guest room. Four years later, she's still there. We'll probably be divorced before long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not sure his sleeping on the couch is a personal attack on you. Many people just need some physical space to clear their heads or to decompress. He may also feel if he stays the argument will just start up again.

I agree with this.

[Anonymous]

I think that you should not have kids with this person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been married less than two years and he started doing this the first six months. When I stopped letting it bother me eg I stopped pointing it out. Matter of fact I would spread out on the whole bed and enjoy it. When he realized it wasn’t getting to me, he stopped. We had an argument last night and he slept on the couch.

We just suffered a miscarriage and things are a bit sensitive so my feelings are a bit hurt with the couch thing again. Should I ignore it? What should I do?

You may want to try get him to explain why he is doing it and see if there is a better way to handle arguments.

My wife and I once had an argument and she slept in the guest room. Four years later, she's still there. We'll probably be divorced before long.

Oh, that’s so sad. Please go to couples therapy.

[Anonymous]

I don't get the point of all out arguments/fights. You still have to interact with the person the next day, .. rest of your life. Most things, in the grand scheme of life really aren't worth getting that upset about. My wife on the other hand has to find a way to place blame for everything that does not go according to plan/how it should be.

I sleep on the couch after argument because I don't want to be that close to someone who I feel wants nothing to do with me at that point in time.

[Anonymous]

Guy here. Don't take it personally. We do it to cool down. Sometimes because we want to, and other times the wives kick us out of the bedroom.

It should last only one night. If he continues to sleep on the couch the next night, you guys have some (serious) marital issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been married less than two years and he started doing this the first six months. When I stopped letting it bother me eg I stopped pointing it out. Matter of fact I would spread out on the whole bed and enjoy it. When he realized it wasn’t getting to me, he stopped. We had an argument last night and he slept on the couch.

We just suffered a miscarriage and things are a bit sensitive so my feelings are a bit hurt with the couch thing again. Should I ignore it? What should I do?

Are you able to resolve conflicts together - large or small- in a good and effective manner?
Or is everything handled by his stormout and swept under the rug for an explosion later?

[Anonymous]

Didn’t women used kick husbands to the couch.

This guy is just leaving the bedroom of his own volition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been married less than two years and he started doing this the first six months. When I stopped letting it bother me eg I stopped pointing it out. Matter of fact I would spread out on the whole bed and enjoy it. When he realized it wasn’t getting to me, he stopped. We had an argument last night and he slept on the couch.

We just suffered a miscarriage and things are a bit sensitive so my feelings are a bit hurt with the couch thing again. Should I ignore it? What should I do?

You may want to try get him to explain why he is doing it and see if there is a better way to handle arguments.

My wife and I once had an argument and she slept in the guest room. Four years later, she's still there. We'll probably be divorced before long.

Oh, that’s so sad. Please go to couples therapy.

Therapy? What they have can’t be fixed by a therapist!!

[Anonymous]

Some people need that space to cool down and process and then they are fine. No lingering grudge.

Others simply feel too vulnerable to sleep next to someone they are mad with or they want to avoid sex while angry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. Don't take it personally. We do it to cool down. Sometimes because we want to, and other times the wives kick us out of the bedroom.

It should last only one night. If he continues to sleep on the couch the next night, you guys have some (serious) marital issues.

This.