Is it OK to contact an ex on Facebook just to ask "Hey, how are you doing?"
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Anonymous
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Yes or No?
It has been 25 years since we last communicated. Should I just wait for the BIG 30? |
Anonymous
| Noooooooooo |
Anonymous
| No. Period. |
Anonymous
| Do not open this can of worms, Not ok. Don't. Stop. |
Anonymous
| Why would you? Do you do that with old college friends you lost touch with 25 years ago? Your high school English teacher? |
Anonymous
| Yeh my old BF did this while I sat and read what he wrote to my DH sitting next to me. Awkward. Don’t go there. You don’t want to be that girl/guy whose trying to rekindle/reconnect. One of the two always wants a tiny but more. |
Anonymous
Ok. |
Anonymous
Ok. |
Anonymous
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It’s okay to do if:
1. Your marriage (if married) is healthy and your spouse is aware of your interest in reach out to the ex without qualm. 2. You are willing to accept that your ex may think you may still have feelings for him by reaching out. Whether you do or don’t isnt the matter. The ex will think that you might. Do you accept this? 3. You don’t have feelings for your ex. 4. The ex doesn’t have feelings for you or a partnership that you are well aware of. 5. You have good will and intention. It must be all of 1 + 2 + 3 + 4 + 5. It you can’t answer yes to all questions, you can’t reach out. If you can answer yes to all, go ahead and say hello. PS: Curiosity killed the cat. |
Anonymous
Ok. |
Anonymous
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I did this to catch up. But it truly was just to catch up. We broke up on good terms, we both had been with each other a long time and both realized that marriage would be a mistake. We kept in touch for a few years after but then since there was no social media lost touch.
We exchanged a few FB messages, found out what was going on with each other, reminisced about shared acquaintances and since then have done nothing more than occasionally "like" each other's photos or posts. |
Anonymous
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I have a friend who was in a solid marriage of 15 or so years. His long ago exGF contacted him on FB. He told his wife, they laughed about it. He ended up agreeing to meet with the exGF.
Long story short, he ended up hooking up with the exGF, left my friend for her, they got divorced, he's now been married to the exGF for about ten years. Still very hard for my friend to accept. She views it as her life was stolen from her. I know that's unrealistic but it's her reality. |
Anonymous
Ok. |
Anonymous
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20:21 again. Rh se terms only apply if you are in a monotonous, committed partnership, marriage, etc.
If you’re single and he/she is single - go for it. Say hello. Matter of fact, sing Adele to them. |
Anonymous
| LOL - monotonous should be monotonous. But that was very clever Siri auto correct. Very clever. |