Is it OK to contact an ex on Facebook just to ask "Hey, how are you doing?"

[Anonymous]

Monagamous!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s okay to do if:

1. Your marriage (if married) is healthy and your spouse is aware of your interest in reach out to the ex without qualm.

2. You are willing to accept that your ex may think you may still have feelings for him by reaching out. Whether you do or don’t isnt the matter. The ex will think that you might. Do you accept this?

3. You don’t have feelings for your ex.

4. The ex doesn’t have feelings for you or a partnership that you are well aware of.

5. You have good will and intention.

It must be all of 1 + 2 + 3 + 4 + 5. It you can’t answer yes to all questions, you can’t reach out. If you can answer yes to all, go ahead and say hello.

PS: Curiosity killed the cat.

It is probably best that I don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who was in a solid marriage of 15 or so years. His long ago exGF contacted him on FB. He told his wife, they laughed about it. He ended up agreeing to meet with the exGF.

Long story short, he ended up hooking up with the exGF, left my friend for her, they got divorced, he's now been married to the exGF for about ten years.

Still very hard for my friend to accept. She views it as her life was stolen from her. I know that's unrealistic but it's her reality.

This is sad. Did your friend remarry? Did they have kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who was in a solid marriage of 15 or so years. His long ago exGF contacted him on FB. He told his wife, they laughed about it. He ended up agreeing to meet with the exGF.

Long story short, he ended up hooking up with the exGF, left my friend for her, they got divorced, he's now been married to the exGF for about ten years.

Still very hard for my friend to accept. She views it as her life was stolen from her. I know that's unrealistic but it's her reality.

Nostalgia can do that? That sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s okay to do if:

1. Your marriage (if married) is healthy and your spouse is aware of your interest in reach out to the ex without qualm.

2. You are willing to accept that your ex may think you may still have feelings for him by reaching out. Whether you do or don’t isnt the matter. The ex will think that you might. Do you accept this?

3. You don’t have feelings for your ex.

4. The ex doesn’t have feelings for you or a partnership that you are well aware of.

5. You have good will and intention.

It must be all of 1 + 2 + 3 + 4 + 5. It you can’t answer yes to all questions, you can’t reach out. If you can answer yes to all, go ahead and say hello.

PS: Curiosity killed the cat.

It is probably best that I don't.

PP with the aggressive Siri here.

Then don’t. Don’t reach out. Keep it moving.

[Anonymous]

If you’re happily married there’s no problem with saying hi. I do it and it’s not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

It's more than OK, it's wonderful. Do it now!

[Anonymous]

Are you married OP?

[Anonymous]

NP. I’m so tempted and have been many times. I always resist, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who was in a solid marriage of 15 or so years. His long ago exGF contacted him on FB. He told his wife, they laughed about it. He ended up agreeing to meet with the exGF.

Long story short, he ended up hooking up with the exGF, left my friend for her, they got divorced, he's now been married to the exGF for about ten years.

Still very hard for my friend to accept. She views it as her life was stolen from her. I know that's unrealistic but it's her reality.

This is sad. Did your friend remarry? Did they have kids?

They did not have kids. But, they were in the process of building their "dream" house and planning their eventual retirement there together. She really couldn't handle the whole thing, she's a shell of her former self.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you married OP?

She is clearly in a monotonous relationship!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you married OP?

She is clearly in a monotonous relationship!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who was in a solid marriage of 15 or so years. His long ago exGF contacted him on FB. He told his wife, they laughed about it. He ended up agreeing to meet with the exGF.

Long story short, he ended up hooking up with the exGF, left my friend for her, they got divorced, he's now been married to the exGF for about ten years.

Still very hard for my friend to accept. She views it as her life was stolen from her. I know that's unrealistic but it's her reality.

This is sad. Did your friend remarry? Did they have kids?

They did not have kids. But, they were in the process of building their "dream" house and planning their eventual retirement there together. She really couldn't handle the whole thing, she's a shell of her former self.

I’m so sorry. Said a prayer for her tonight. <3

[Anonymous]

(That she abides in happiness in its fullest form and is covered in grace during her journey in life) <3

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:(That she abides in happiness in its fullest form and is covered in grace during her journey in life) <3

You are very kind, I hope it helps!