Is it OK to contact an ex on Facebook just to ask "Hey, how are you doing?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I ain't trying to put nobody down or nuthin but I gotta say if you hard pressed to contact somebody after 25 years you must be in a SERIOUS rut.

I mean I ain't a psychiatrist but I'm just saying you got to be battling some serious emotional or psychological problems if you so dissatisfied with the present that you feel the need to that far back into the past.

You can make excuses about it being simple curiosity and what not but way I see it you got issues and need some therapy. That's just my take.

Word.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My XH’s emotional affair came after an old friend reaching out just to say hi. He and I are divorced now and I remarried, but this flame has continued to taint his relationships with subsequent women.

I think it can be hard to ever completely dig out the hooks of intense relationships. No contact is the best way to go whether or not your marriage is healthy. I am happily remarried, but there’s a second year of college boyfriend that I would not want to bump into because just thinking of that lopsided grin still gives me butterflies twenty years later. I have to imagine him balding with a beer gut to chase them away.

Why is balding always used on here as an insult to men? Baldness is hereditary and by 50, 1/2 of men experience hair loss. I do not have as much hair as I did in college but am in really good shape. I would hope that if an ex looks me up, she would say I am still a nice looking man who looks happy.

Not every man can pull off balding. Stanley Tucci is hot. My DH shaved his head and it’s seriously hot, but if he let the stubble grow out three days, not do much.

[Anonymous]

i contated my exGF after about 25 years. She was my first, in high school and some college. I have been happily married for about 27 years to the same woman....There is no way I would trade her for my first or anyone else. I think the first true love sticks in minds of most and hard to get past, particularly if you fell in love in your teen years, which is a time of discovery, maturity, and innocence for many of us. I don't feel the same about contacting other girls I dated after the first one however. My reason for contacting her was to just say hello, she how she was doing, and that I valued our relationship and learned some lessons etc. That was it. She was very happy to hear from me. We never talked, exchanged emails, etc. and I'm still happily married and not thinking about the first.

[Anonymous]

Not a big dater here but don't want anyone from my past reaching out.At this stage in life, we would really be strangers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once and for all, nothing good comes out of these actions. Don't care if you haven't spoken in 50 years, there are always emotions involved. Plus, the other person has long ago moved on. It is not fair to gate crash into their life. Leave them alone. Keep it to social media surfing.

Ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ex-boyfriend from college - is this you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i contated my exGF after about 25 years. She was my first, in high school and some college. I have been happily married for about 27 years to the same woman....There is no way I would trade her for my first or anyone else. I think the first true love sticks in minds of most and hard to get past, particularly if you fell in love in your teen years, which is a time of discovery, maturity, and innocence for many of us. I don't feel the same about contacting other girls I dated after the first one however. My reason for contacting her was to just say hello, she how she was doing, and that I valued our relationship and learned some lessons etc. That was it. She was very happy to hear from me. We never talked, exchanged emails, etc. and I'm still happily married and not thinking about the first.

Hey Bozo, lend me your clown-wig and big, flappy shoes!

[Anonymous]

ok to contact if you don't have bad intentions. what's the big deal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My XH’s emotional affair came after an old friend reaching out just to say hi. He and I are divorced now and I remarried, but this flame has continued to taint his relationships with subsequent women.

I think it can be hard to ever completely dig out the hooks of intense relationships. No contact is the best way to go whether or not your marriage is healthy. I am happily remarried, but there’s a second year of college boyfriend that I would not want to bump into because just thinking of that lopsided grin still gives me butterflies twenty years later. I have to imagine him balding with a beer gut to chase them away.

Why is balding always used on here as an insult to men? Baldness is hereditary and by 50, 1/2 of men experience hair loss. I do not have as much hair as I did in college but am in really good shape. I would hope that if an ex looks me up, she would say I am still a nice looking man who looks happy.

I like bald men. And balding I don't mind provided the hair is neat and clean. I'd much prefer in shape and balding to out of shape with a good head of hair.

[Anonymous]

No, why start a conversation after 25 years that could easily go the wrong way. Stay in the present.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ok to contact if you don't have bad intentions. what's the big deal?

What sort of good intentions could there be? After 25 years, you don't even know the person.

[Anonymous]

It’s fine but it depends on your intentions. I was happy to reconnect with one by FB and we enjoyed learning about each other’s lives and that was the extent of it. Neither of us wanted more than that but we enjoyed the friendship since we did some growing up together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ok to contact if you don't have bad intentions. what's the big deal?

+1

[Anonymous]

But why though?

Exes are exes because it’s OVER. If you’ve had their junk in your mouth, why do you need to revive contact?

Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My XH’s emotional affair came after an old friend reaching out just to say hi. He and I are divorced now and I remarried, but this flame has continued to taint his relationships with subsequent women.

I think it can be hard to ever completely dig out the hooks of intense relationships. No contact is the best way to go whether or not your marriage is healthy. I am happily remarried, but there’s a second year of college boyfriend that I would not want to bump into because just thinking of that lopsided grin still gives me butterflies twenty years later. I have to imagine him balding with a beer gut to chase them away.

Why is balding always used on here as an insult to men? Baldness is hereditary and by 50, 1/2 of men experience hair loss. I do not have as much hair as I did in college but am in really good shape. I would hope that if an ex looks me up, she would say I am still a nice looking man who looks happy.

Would you say the same of an ex who is fat? Is she still nice looking? Fatness is hereditary, and by 50, 1/2 of females are fat.