Is it OK to contact an ex on Facebook just to ask "Hey, how are you doing?"

[Anonymous]

My college roommate did this. She was married to a European I had introduced her to when I was studying abroad. She reached out to her high school boyfriend right before their 20 year reunion. Cutesy reminiscing turned into outright flirting. The night before the reunion they got wasted, she ended up in bed with him. Had a 7 year trans-Atlantic affair and lied to husband as to why she was moving family to States (to be near former flame). Finally got divorced after three years back here, and now ex-husband feels stuck in U.S. and totally deceived. The high school boyfriend is still very much married with young kids - hers are teens. If you are anything like this, don't do it. We all think she is the biggest asshole now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who was in a solid marriage of 15 or so years. His long ago exGF contacted him on FB. He told his wife, they laughed about it. He ended up agreeing to meet with the exGF.

Long story short, he ended up hooking up with the exGF, left my friend for her, they got divorced, he's now been married to the exGF for about ten years.

Still very hard for my friend to accept. She views it as her life was stolen from her. I know that's unrealistic but it's her reality.

I’m never sure if these sort of entertaining posts are written by bored SAHMs with creative writing degrees or bored Wapo reporters. Or true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My college roommate did this. She was married to a European I had introduced her to when I was studying abroad. She reached out to her high school boyfriend right before their 20 year reunion. Cutesy reminiscing turned into outright flirting. The night before the reunion they got wasted, she ended up in bed with him. Had a 7 year trans-Atlantic affair and lied to husband as to why she was moving family to States (to be near former flame). Finally got divorced after three years back here, and now ex-husband feels stuck in U.S. and totally deceived. The high school boyfriend is still very much married with young kids - hers are teens. If you are anything like this, don't do it. We all think she is the biggest asshole now.

Nostalgia is a bitch sometimes.