Consequences for not getting up on time for school

[Anonymous]

So sick of this with my 15 year old sophomore. We take electronics at night but he consistently is late to school

[Anonymous]

Freshman I meant

[Anonymous]

Earlier bedtime.

[Anonymous]

School detention?

[Anonymous]

They do give detention but he doesn’t seem to care

[Anonymous]

Does he take a bus? You could make him walk. Take phone away for the evening every time he is late. Second late day in a week, he loses it for a weekend day as well. Find his "currency". What matters to him?

[Anonymous]

If he's late because of severe ADHD like my 8th grader, punishment is not going to work. Unless his meds have kicked in, DS cannot function, and in order to give him the lowest dose that can work all day, we purposefully tell him to take it last thing before leaving for school. This means he cannot be on time solely on his own, and thus we monitor him constantly in the morning and drive him to school, so there's no bus to miss. At some point he will mature enough to do much of it on his own, but right now it's not possible.

If it's a motivation issue, carrot and stick? He gets something for being on time for a week, and has to do extra chores for being late?

[Anonymous]

I start the get up routine at 6am for a 7:15 departure. 6am first alarm goes off. It's a bed shaking alarm. At 6:15, the snooze goes off. At 6:30, the second snooze goes off and I walk in and turn on the lights. At 6:45, if she is still not out of bed, I shoot the water gun at her. At that point, she gets out of bed

At 7:00--I go sit in the car and wait for her. I leave when ever she gets in the car. If she's late to school, that's her problem to explain. I refuse to sign her in or provide an excuse for her tardiness.

[Anonymous]

What does he say about it?
Is he getting enough sleep?
Is he sleeping through the alarm, or deciding to ignore it?

When my DD has had trouble getting up, we also enforced weekend bedtimes, which included picking her up from sleepovers by midnight so she would sleep in her own bed. As long as she's getting up, she can decide how late she wants to stay up on weekends, and go to sleepovers. That was sufficient motivation for her. But her problem was not getting enough sleep. If your son's depressed, or dealing with anxiety, you'll probably need a different approach.

[Anonymous]

How does he get to/from school? Walk, bus or ride from parent?

[Anonymous]

It takes me 30 minutes to drive to/from school. DD misses the bus, she owes me 30 minutes of work.

[Anonymous]

My new approach is that I am ready to leave the house in the morning to run whatever errand I have for the day so if I have to drive, I am ready to leave when she is. If I have an appointment or something I make sure she knows the night before and again that morning that I can't drive her and if she misses it will be her responsibility to catch an uber ad pay for it. Never ubered once. Causes a lot less stress in our house if I just know it is a bonus if she catches the bus.

[Anonymous]

I have found that if I stay calm and just give facts like we need to leave in 3 minutes or you will be late seems to work better than screaming or threatening.

I also moved the wake up time to 10 minutes earlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So sick of this with my 15 year old sophomore. We take electronics at night but he consistently is late to school

How is he late? Misses the bus? Walks to school and arrives at school late? Do you drive him?

I know that getting them to go to bed earlier, often doesn't translate to falling asleep earlier. They're just wired to stay up later and sleep in later at this age (to this end, our private school is considering moving the school day back an hour next year). My DS has to be upstairs in his room, so-called bed time, by 10pm. But I know he doesn't fall alseep for about another hour. Do you have a time when he has to be in his room? Even if not sleepy?

Would missing school matter to him? If you let him sleep and sleep and then miss his transportation? I know with my DS, if he missed a day b/c he overslept, he'd be upset and I think would not let it happen again. I say "I think" because I haven't had the cajones to do it!

[Anonymous]

Take him to visit a college. One that would be really appealing to him. Ask him if he wants to go to college. Explain that won’t happen if he isn’t mature enough to get himself up and to school on time.