Consequences for not getting up on time for school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't need to stay home all day to police electronics. You can have a stated check-in policy that they all get charged in a central place in the house. Wake up before your kid, sweep them into your work bag, dispense as earned. Easier still, just unplug the modem on the way out the door and take that with you. Then learn how to suspend your child's phone, iPad whatever from your cellular plan. (There are ways. They've walked so many parents through it. You should probably learn before you need to do it next.)

Let school dispense consequences for missing school. You might communicate with them that you are working as a family to get your child there on time. However, you accept and welcome any detentions, late marks on work, etc. they may give him.

Make your child responsible for arranging or paying for transportation when he's late. He can walk, bike, pay for ride share, or reimburse for your mileage and time.

However late your child is getting out of bed in the morning, he could go to his room that much earlier the night before.

Definitely make sure that he has an alarm system that can't be ignored. There are alarms that shake the bed, alarms that crawl away from you, alarms that light up the room before making noise. Set multiple alarms. On a non-weekday, time how long his morning routine reasonably takes. Then set the alarms so that he has that much time plus 10 to 15 minutes more.

If you want to be encouraging, instead of just punitive, work together to make an appealing grab-and-go breakfast the night before. Ask if he needs help on the weekends getting clean clothes together for the week. Check in after dinner to see if you can assist with preparing food, sports clothing, etc. for the next day. Participate in a wind-down activity together before bed. Is there a book on tape you'd like to listen to together? Would he take an evening stroll with you or do some meditation?

These are lots of helpful suggestions, but this one

However late your child is getting out of bed in the morning, he could go to his room that much earlier the night before.


makes me think you don't have tweens or teens. They JUST want to be left alone in their rooms!!!

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Anonymous wrote:For my middle schooler last year, her therapist recommended that the consequence be "she doesn't go to school." (we live too far for her to walk if she misses the bus) Believe it or not, this worked. She took ownership of the whole enchilada, from setting her alarm to getting out the door in the am. We now stay in bed while she bustles around in the morning. No shouting out times, no threats, no nothing. Our mornings with our 7th grader are peaceful now.

This. I’m not on this earth to be a chauffeur. She takes the unexplained absence. If it causes long term damage to grades, so be it. Then community college is the result.

Tweens/teens need repercussions and consequences

Um, colleges don't care about your middle school attendance record.

Op and I are dealing with 15 year old sophomores.

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Anonymous wrote:For my middle schooler last year, her therapist recommended that the consequence be "she doesn't go to school." (we live too far for her to walk if she misses the bus) Believe it or not, this worked. She took ownership of the whole enchilada, from setting her alarm to getting out the door in the am. We now stay in bed while she bustles around in the morning. No shouting out times, no threats, no nothing. Our mornings with our 7th grader are peaceful now.

This. I’m not on this earth to be a chauffeur. She takes the unexplained absence. If it causes long term damage to grades, so be it. Then community college is the result.

Tweens/teens need repercussions and consequences

Um, colleges don't care about your middle school attendance record.

Op and I are dealing with 15 year old sophomores.

The post you replied to was in regards to a middle schooler?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For my middle schooler last year, her therapist recommended that the consequence be "she doesn't go to school." (we live too far for her to walk if she misses the bus) Believe it or not, this worked. She took ownership of the whole enchilada, from setting her alarm to getting out the door in the am. We now stay in bed while she bustles around in the morning. No shouting out times, no threats, no nothing. Our mornings with our 7th grader are peaceful now.

This. I’m not on this earth to be a chauffeur. She takes the unexplained absence. If it causes long term damage to grades, so be it. Then community college is the result.

Tweens/teens need repercussions and consequences

Um, colleges don't care about your middle school attendance record.

Op and I are dealing with 15 year old sophomores.

The post you replied to was in regards to a middle schooler?

Middle schooler poster here -- she's actually taking two classes for high school credit this year, so missing classes has impact.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For my middle schooler last year, her therapist recommended that the consequence be "she doesn't go to school." (we live too far for her to walk if she misses the bus) Believe it or not, this worked. She took ownership of the whole enchilada, from setting her alarm to getting out the door in the am. We now stay in bed while she bustles around in the morning. No shouting out times, no threats, no nothing. Our mornings with our 7th grader are peaceful now.

This. I’m not on this earth to be a chauffeur. She takes the unexplained absence. If it causes long term damage to grades, so be it. Then community college is the result.

Tweens/teens need repercussions and consequences

Um, colleges don't care about your middle school attendance record.

Op and I are dealing with 15 year old sophomores.

The post you replied to was in regards to a middle schooler?

Middle schooler poster here -- she's actually taking two classes for high school credit this year, so missing classes has impact.

On what? It's middle school.

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Anonymous wrote:For my middle schooler last year, her therapist recommended that the consequence be "she doesn't go to school." (we live too far for her to walk if she misses the bus) Believe it or not, this worked. She took ownership of the whole enchilada, from setting her alarm to getting out the door in the am. We now stay in bed while she bustles around in the morning. No shouting out times, no threats, no nothing. Our mornings with our 7th grader are peaceful now.

This. I’m not on this earth to be a chauffeur. She takes the unexplained absence. If it causes long term damage to grades, so be it. Then community college is the result.

Tweens/teens need repercussions and consequences

Um, colleges don't care about your middle school attendance record.

Op and I are dealing with 15 year old sophomores.

The post you replied to was in regards to a middle schooler?

Middle schooler poster here -- she's actually taking two classes for high school credit this year, so missing classes has impact.

On what? It's middle school.

Algebra and a language.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For my middle schooler last year, her therapist recommended that the consequence be "she doesn't go to school." (we live too far for her to walk if she misses the bus) Believe it or not, this worked. She took ownership of the whole enchilada, from setting her alarm to getting out the door in the am. We now stay in bed while she bustles around in the morning. No shouting out times, no threats, no nothing. Our mornings with our 7th grader are peaceful now.

This. I’m not on this earth to be a chauffeur. She takes the unexplained absence. If it causes long term damage to grades, so be it. Then community college is the result.

Tweens/teens need repercussions and consequences

Um, colleges don't care about your middle school attendance record.

Op and I are dealing with 15 year old sophomores.

The post you replied to was in regards to a middle schooler?

Middle schooler poster here -- she's actually taking two classes for high school credit this year, so missing classes has impact.

On what? It's middle school.

You know nothing, Jon Snow.