The reality of loosing a parent
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Anonymous
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No matter what relationship you have with your parents, this is what will happen when you loose your parents.
https://wakeupyourmind.net/life/10-things-about-you-that-will-change-when-you-lose-your-parents/?fbclid=IwAR2hDq7PcJTQy9ZKLv1Dj4eMkZMztDC09H1NOPxodtFviz6nRtaCLzp3Oqo |
Anonymous
| Very accurate. |
Anonymous
| #s 3, 4, and 8 resonate with me the most. |
Anonymous
| I don't think you will loose your parents but you will lose them. |
Anonymous
Agree. I mean, you don't have them on a leash do you? |
Anonymous
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Thanks, OP. My mom died two weeks ago and I'm working on her memorial, and this happens to be the time when my DH is traveling. It's a little lonely.
I lost my dad in 2001, and I inherited his little house in another city and have it rented out. A couple of years ago my friend (who struggles a little financially) was talking to me about how nice it must be for me to get that extra rental money. She just kept going on about it; you could see she was envious (she gets that way with people) and finally I said, "I'd give the house away if I could have just ten minutes talking to my dad again" and that shut her up. Her dad lives a block away...she's had her dad all this time for 18 extra years and still going. I'm happy for her, not jealous. But other people often forget that when you inherit something, it's because someone died. |
Anonymous
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PP: I am so sorry for your loss. It’s tough being alone.
I am reading a book that I find surprisingly helpful. where you left me by Jennifer Gardner Trulson..it is written by a young mother who lost her husband in the towers on 9/11. She did not loose a parent but her process is similar and her new normal is relatable. The fact that her loved one was not a parent makes it more approachable for me. Less raw. I will be thinking of you. |
Anonymous
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Amen.
For me, the increased anxiety is most notable. I lost both parents relatively young and very unexpected - only a few years apart. I now live in constant fear that my kids or husband or siblings will die. I guess on the flip side, losing my parents has given me a whole new perspective and I find my self enjoying and cherishing special moments more. Like a deeper level of enjoyment than I knew existed before losing my parents. |
Anonymous
This. |
Anonymous
| 2 and 6 are not true for me. Lost my mom nearly 20 years ago. |
Anonymous
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They most ring true for me. But #6, I don't know. I lost my mom over a year ago. Loved her dearly but it wasn't until just months before she passed that I came to the realization that she'd been verbally abusive most of my life. Of course there never was a chance of confrontation/resolution.
For me, grieving for her has been a very strange mix of missing her terribly and aching for her, and reliving some of her biting/critical comments, and feeling so disconcerted in the process. |
Anonymous
I don't think it's true "no matter what relationship you have with your parents." I read the list and only the holiday one seems to fit a bit. |
Anonymous
Im sorry. That must effect you and the people around you today. |
Anonymous
Do you have flaws? |
Anonymous
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"You learn to accept their flaws and mistakes."
Ha. My mom constantly complains about her father, who died in 1989. |